when there were bad situations in life, what you would do to cheer yourself up?
@bongkarpasang (1377)
Indonesia
April 25, 2008 6:33am CST
okay, just imagine this situation:
one day when a lot of things just happened, mostly bad situation around those things ... then suddenly you just felt fed up with your surroundings and with this life. probably you would even feel angry towards this life.
so what would you do to 'stay cool' while you were still facing all those things in life that made you lose your temper most of the time? well, you didn't have any choice but to stay in the living environment and facing the situation everyday. 
would you just ignore those things as if they didn't exist? or would you ask someone to help you around? or would you just rant about those things in mylot (for example, by starting a discussion venting off your anger?) 
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the main point is ... you still need to get a life, with all the bad situations. so what would you do to cheer yourself up? 
would you just ignore those things as if they didn't exist? or would you ask someone to help you around? or would you just rant about those things in mylot (for example, by starting a discussion venting off your anger?) .
the main point is ... you still need to get a life, with all the bad situations. so what would you do to cheer yourself up? 6 people like this
11 responses
@drumbum04 (171)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
When things go wrong, I have to accept these realities because these are part of life and these things are irreversible. The best thing that I could to do is to do things that I like doing best like swimming, drumming, dancing, eating and taking long walks on the beach while enjoying the heat of the sun and the spectacle of the blue waters and vast sky. By doing this things, I will be able to make myself happy and forget about what has gone wrong.
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@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 08
accepting things as they are realities, well, yes, that's the key or we will just be stuck within the situation and bitterness.
however, some people are just hard to deal with the situation and make excuse that they can't accept being trapped within the situation.
I think the suggestion you made about getting activities / recreations would help. 
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
29 Apr 08
Hello there, normally when I'm really stressed out, angry or sad, I would go riding. I would ride anywhere that my heart would bring me and I will never stop until I feel tired or I need a moment to sit or something. I believe that there is simply no point of thinking about the solution to a problem if there is just no answer to it. Instead, I love to just go about calming myself down and then get back to solving the problem whenever I'm ready.
There are different people with different personalities and they tend to solve things differently. However, I always advice any people that are close to me to never take the stupid and seemed easy way out by taking their lives. Never do that, for there is always a solution to a problem; though the solution might not seem to be the best. Good discussion here. Take care of yourself and have a nice day there.
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@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 08
So, in conclusion, the life must go on, whatever has happened. ;) Many thanks for your input about never take any stupid action towards our selves. Have a good time and take care of yourself too. ^__^
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@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
1 May 08
i will definitely take time off and have a quiet time in my room praying to my God... i will tell my Heavenly Father about all my problems and i will ask Him to give me the strength and comfort to overcome it... after that, i will call one of my best friend that i trust and i can confide to share my problems with her... after that, just sleep and hopefully when i wake up, i will get better...
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@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
5 May 08
yes, prayers will really help to lift up some burden in life. and our minds will be cleared up somehow after saying some prayer to the Heavenly God. After all, by praying, we acknowledge that we have Someone in Heaven that will take care of us; and by putting our trust in the Heavenly High One, at least we know that The Most Powerful One will make a way to solve all these things.
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@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
22 May 08
I always cheer my self up with food. LOL An ice cream from mcDonald, or burger, shop new clothes.. that's why my body chubby and a long long sleep to relax my mind,.. Happy posting, bongkarpasang.
bongkarpasang.@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
12 Jun 08
yeah, sometimes when I was coincidentally in the mall, I would also visit mcDonald or any food courts to have some 'small' meal. LOL. or at least would go buy some ice cream.
nowadays, my current place is far from the market / mall. so ... 
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@paid2write (5201)
•
25 Apr 08
I would try some positive thinking to try and find some good in a bad day. If I can't and still feel bad about the day I don't let it bother me. There is nothing wrong in feeling sad. I don't like feeling angry, but that is something that never stays with me for long. I will try to walk it off and feel gratitude for the good things in life rather than focus on the bad things that inevitably happen.
If I can't cheer myself up I don't feel the need to be happy. I can still love life even when I'm not enjoying it much.
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@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 08
getting some positive thinking will be really good indeed. feeling gratitute for good things in life rather than focusing on the bad things. yes, that sounds very helpful to light up some mood.
sometimes people just forget about the good things and only notice the bad situations that have happened to them.
I love your last two sentences: "If I can't cheer myself up I don't feel the need to be happy. I can still love life even when I'm not enjoying it much." you must be a very positive person. 
you must be a very positive person. 1 person likes this
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
4 Jul 08
I wish my place were close to beach. yes, when I saw the sea or ocean, I felt myself become so small compared to the sea / ocean. and suddenly, the trouble in life seemed very small compared to the water in front of me. when the perspective changed, the way we saw our life and problems would also change. and we would find peace somehow after then.
@nosferatu07 (404)
• Denmark
19 Jun 08
I think i would make myself a big cup of coffee and complain about my bad day to my friends after that i guess i would go to bed and sleep it over to see if anything good comes to mind when i wake up LOL
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 08
complain our bad day to friends. LOL. I have been doing it too. sometimes I feel sorry for my friends to become my problem's 'trash can' LOL. but yeah, I can go to bed and sleep well after telling them my problems.
and sleeping seems able to 'erase' the bad mood from our minds after we wake up. :P
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Well when things go bad like that and your that stressed out. i would usually like. go out for a night with some friends. and not think about it.or go to a friends house and stay for a few days.. that way when you come back youll have a clear head and you can face these problems head on.. Oh yea but if course u have to come up with a plan to fix these "bad situations"
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 08
go out with friends ... yes, true friends will help us dealing with the situations better, at least they would give us some mental support and cheer us up when we cannot cheer ourselves up.
sometimes friends will even come with some suggestion to solve the bad situations that we never thought before. two or more heads are better than one head. :)
@chrislotz (8136)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
When I am feeling like that I don't do anything except be by myself as I don't want to take out my frustrations and sadness on others. I haven't found the thing to do to change my mood, yet. I sure hope to one day. I am sure we all feel that way sometimes but then maybe not. Maybe some people have such good and happy lives they don't get down.
I have left my husband three months ago and it is so hard. I think about him and I get where I don;t want to breathe the air anymore, without him. But I know I have to go on so I just live one day at a time. When I feel really bad I go to my room and have a good cry and go to sleep and hopefully wake up feeling better.
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 08
hi chrislotz. so sorry to hear that happened to you. I believe you have been a very strong person to deal with that situation. there were times when I became so depressed because of things, I couldn't take out my frustrations and sadness on the others too. but there was nothing I could do to change my mood, moreover the situation itself.
sometimes I keep wondering why some people always get happy lives and don't get down, but I believe that everyone always has different things on the surface and they might have bad situation being kept in secret, probably.
so basically, when I just couldn't stand with all the things, I would also go to my room, lock myself inside and cry when I just felt that I needed to cry. mostly when I was tired enough to sleep, the next moment I woke up, the dull mood had disappeared or at least had decreased.
but I guess we still need the power of friends. even when I didn't talk about my problems, at least when I met them, we would talk about other things and probably, it could turn our focus away from our own sorrow, at least for that moment.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
15 Jun 08
I usually just take a step back and think. Sometimes i just run from everyone for a few days and get my head back on track. Life isn't fair, like some people think it should be. Dont let it get you down. Go and see some friends that always make you happy they will help you through the tough spots.
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
17 Jun 08
yeah, that's what good friends are for. they would help us survive the tests in life. 
@anawar (2404)
• United States
19 Jun 08
When life throws me a curve ball and I ger upset, I try to accept the moment without labeling it good or bad, just something that happened. I go with the moment and let my feelings vaporize.
It takes me too long to get to my inner peace. Maybe that's why these difficult moments come into my life. I consider upsets as an opportunity to grow. At least that's what I believe, but I have to work on it everyday.
In the meantime, I scout for chocolate.
@bongkarpasang (1377)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 08
an opportunity to grow ... that's a strong statement to motivate ourselves. yes, the pain and struggle in life are actually the best teacher and those who 'graduated' from the school of hard knocks will grow better and become a better person in the future.
that's great to be able to accept the moment without labelling it good or bad. I think you would become a real strong person after you overcome the difficult moments. thanks for sharing!
