Jealousy
By ayessa
@ayessa (1583)
Philippines
April 25, 2008 8:44pm CST
It has been said that jealousy is the evil on any kind of relationships. A little may add spice to a relationship but too much of it will cause the breakup.
I am not the jealous type. My husband even make it a joke that I wasn't jealous because I don't have a heart. But we know the reason why I shouldn't be jealous. I am very secure of his love and I don't see any reason to be jealous with. Event here are some girls who flirted with him I never feel jealous cause I know he won't entertain them.
How about you, are you a jealous type or not? If yes, how did you deal with it? How about your partner? Did he/she understands your jealousy?
7 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Apr 08
You appear to be very broad minded, large hearted and practical. You are righ that jelaousy can spoil any relationship. Actually, it is a metter of mutual faith and understanding, if we have 'good' understanding with our partner, jealousy factor dwindle upto a great extent. If my partner interacts with person from opposite gender, I do not feel jealous, because I know it very well that her interaction with his colleagues etc. would on the surface only and she loves me very much and she is not going to get diverted anywhere else.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 08
Many thanks for the best response.
I am delighted.
You made my day.
Deepak
I am delighted.
You made my day.
Deepak
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Hi ayessa,
I am very confident about his love to me and made me not to feel this..I know also that he is not the type of person who will entertain fling fling..LOL!
But, he has also close girl friends before I came out in the picture or his life, so far, we don't find any problem on it!
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
26 Apr 08
No, I'm not necessarily the jealous type. Now if a woman starts getting to friendly with my husband I will get upset, but not enough to where there is a problem in our relationship. He normally takes care of the situation before it gets out of line. He's a good man.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
17 Jul 08
Jealously is an emotion like any other and if you are that way your partner should respect it in you.
Then try not to allow that to cause problems.
If he doesn't and makes fun of it, then, in a sense, he's making fun of you.
I think if somebody is the jealous type allowances should be made for this.
So talk to the guy and tell him what you need and then ask for it.
@farmaz (112)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 08
Hi ayessa,I am no saint to advice in this topic because I am not in a relationship.For me,if there jealousy or suspicious thoughts walk in through the front door,the happiness and joy in a marriage life walks out through the back door.I think you and your husband do not give jealousy a place to even sneak in.That's good.I sure hope to have that kind of relationship in future.Respect!!!
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
Yes, i do believe that jealousy can spice a relationship. But too much could ruin a relationship. So it's just a matter of balancing the situation. I'm a jealous type of person. But i'm quite and would joke about it. I'm not the type who rant and shout or start a quarell. I want straight to the matter. I listen to my partners reasoning. Sometimes i believe him. But there are times that a small voice of jealousy persist. But eventually if i feel there's nothing to be suspicious about, it slowly fades away. 
@heatian (49)
• China
26 Apr 08
The feeling in everyone's heart is different, depends on the sort of people's personality. In my view, I think one have two kind of powers in the hears. One is selfish and another is generousness. As growing up, one learned how to overcome selfish and enlarge his generousness. If your generousness is superiority in your heart, you are happy. Wish glad with you always.
