Are you afraid to post a disagreement to a discussion?

@youless (98990)
Guangzhou, China
April 26, 2008 10:35am CST
I am not afraid to it. In fact just now I posted my disagreement to a discussion about the boycott of Beijing Olympics. I don't care whether my responses will be rated negative or not, I just have to let people know the real China and the facts. I do not want to repeat the same words again and again as I already posted similar discussions lately. No matter what, China still goes forward and the Beijing Olympics will be one of the best Olympics.
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
26 Apr 08
Hello youless!:-) Calm down my friend, I do know how you feel though! :-) I am not afraid to post my disagreement, youless. I have been to many debates and religious and political discussions here. So, disagreeing and expressing it is not new to me. I do, however, try to be as respectful as possible. I have given my opinions against "administrations" of different countries, not the country itself or the populace. Sometimes people either can not or do not differentiate between them. I have said it before and I would say it again that Olympics should be out of political Arena. But, there will always be those who would like to benefit, politically, from it. Given how nice a personality you are, I hope, nay, believe that you can very well handle disagreement while being still you nice self! There are few countries that have been and are on spot light here, for all the good or bad reasons. China is a great country like many others, so while there are good things, people would also talk about bad things. Just be as positive as you are always! I have always and will support Beijing Olympics!
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
Thanks a lot, my dear friend. You are so nice
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
7 May 08
You are welcome, my friend, and thanks for the best response, youless!
@duranv (517)
• Honduras
26 Apr 08
If I disagree with something, I will respond in that manner, this is a discussion board and if someone posts a topic that can raise negative response he should be ready to and expect to, get contrary opinions and not get upset by them. As for your discussion on the Olympics in Beijing, I think many people will give an opinion based on whatever is in the news, there has been a lot of negative news about China lately so people will just react to these news. Personally I think every country should have the opportunity to host these games, in which it can present to the world the best it has to offer. Every country in the world has good things going for it, so country bashing is not something I feel is right.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
It's fine to have negative comments, as our country isn't perfect. But I will appreciate to the negative comments according to the facts and it shall be reasonable.
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@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
26 Apr 08
There are many times I would like to post negatively to a discussion or "tell off" the original poster. There will always be discussions that find a way of irritating you. There are tons of people on Mylot, and you won't always agree or get along with them. Whenever I see a post that irritates me, I just ignore it instead of responding. Not becaus I'm concerned about being rated negatively. My ratings on Mylot don't bother me. I just don't want other people who are reading my posts to think negatively of me. I have, in the past, posted negative thoughts on a forum, and ended up being ganged up on by everyone else in the forum. I enjoyed the forum up until that point, and due to that attack, I never returned. I don't wish for that to happen again.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Apr 08
But when a discussion insults my country, I am unable to ignore it. I try to be nice, but this time it's different. As my style, I discussed it in peace. I never want to insult each other, otherwise it's a fight rather than a discuss. And especially I am standing for a nice, friendly and reasonable Chinese to discuss it.
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• United States
26 Apr 08
I understand what you're saying. In a case like that, I probably would too. I actually recently came close to getting quite rude in a post, but I think I held it together well. It is important not to let what other people say bother you, especially if they are insulting your country or culture. Unless they are from your country, then they are not forming their opinions based on facts.
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26 Apr 08
I think is everybody agreed with all the discussions in mylot, it'd be extremely boring. Plus, that wouldn't be a "discussion", really. I try to be honest and I post my opinion, not what people want me to post =] Good on you and Happy Mylotting! xx
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Apr 08
Thanks for your response.
• United States
27 Apr 08
Here, here! :o) I post my opinion, whether negative or otherwise. not everything can be a fruitbasket and roses all the time. You have to take the good with the bad; and if someone can't handle a negative opinion or a little criticism every now and then, they shouldn't be posting topics. Now, that's not to say that people should be abusive on here - I think trolls should be banned. But in order to have a meaningful discussion, all viewpoints should be considered; not just the positive ones.
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
27 Apr 08
That depends on what kind of discussion it is. If it's just personal taste, there will be no need to challenge others. But if it's an offence to my country and my people, I will not hesitate to post one just like what you have mentioned. It's my motherland. I love and respect her wholeheartedly. Besides, we need to let others know the truth. Maybe they have nevet been to China and do not know about that. But we can tell them. Beijig Olympic Games will be successful!
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
I think we have so much in common, my dear friend. Others can insult me but can't do it for my country.
• China
28 Apr 08
I can't agree with you more.
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I don't care if I agree or disagree with someone in a discussion. If the subject interests me then I will post my feelings or thoughts about it. If someone doesn't like it then so be it. If I only agreed with everyone it would be very boring on here but also I probably wouldn't find that many discussions that I could post to without just saying "I agree", which really is against the guidelines to do. We are supposed to do more then two word posts. If people don't like what I say they are more then welcome to debate with me. I just ask that it stay civil. If it's not civil I will cut it short. Now I prefer a debate where the person is actually thinking and giving strong points and not just parroting others. To me it makes it more interesting when you have to think and actually defend the thoughts behind it not just put the basic sentence.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
I am glad that at least my this discussion is interesting for you
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I sure did. I also found many of the responses interesting as well. I can understand why some are afraid to post to some especially if they have had a bad experience in the past.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
Hi youless! No, I am not afraid to disagree with anybody and express my feelings and own thoughts. Everybody has the right to say his/her own views. Besides we can all disagree and yet agree that in disagreeing we could all have respectable and mature ways in accepting the others own point of view without being rude and impolite. With regards to your post about your homeland and the Olympics, I respect that. Nobody can fault you to that. We all love our own countries. We all have the right to defend our country. We are all loyal to our own homelands. And I do admire your loyalty and your love that you are showing for your country. But hopefully, this won't divide us instead we will all try to reach out for one another because we are all living in one planet. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and have a nice day!
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
In fact I like John Lennon's Imagine. Perhaps in my this generation I am unable to see this wonderful day comes. But if we respect each other's culture and country, the peace will come at last.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Hi youless. I like the song too. John Lennon's Imagine is a beautiful song with a very beautiful message. I just hope and pray people will take that song into their heart and act upon it. Maybe then, we will truly care for our fellowmen and peace will reign at last. Take care dear friend and have a nice day!
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@jesbellaine (4155)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
Not really because I know people would understand that we have different opinion in a certain topic but ofcourse, I am careful with my words.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
That's true. Otherwise it may create a fight.
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Yup, you are exactly correct!
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• Philippines
28 Apr 08
why would I? if your opinion have basis then its a good argument. but dont go screaming baseless viewpoints. you'll end up attacking that person on personal basis. if you cant take criticisms then this is not a place for you. substandard discussions involved heated arguments. but know for a fact that what you stand is accountable to what you speak. maybe you you take it personally if your country was criticized. but you also have to know and to remember if the arguments have basis or not right?? about the issue on Beijing Olympics, we'll just have to find out if it or not right? i wont disagree with you over the thing that hasn't happened yet, we'll have to wait and see so that we wont be ending up with the words, "i told you so??"
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Apr 08
Thanks for your response.
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
28 Apr 08
I like the old saying which goes: "There's always 2 sides to a coin" and I am just never and not afraid to say what is really on my mind with certain issues. I felt that it would give the discussion more objectivity and sense, above all making it more interesting and balance at the same time. Do not think that I am unaware of the repercussions and disagreements as a result. These have not discouraged me but rather the opposite for me. I am aware that certain views just isn't popular or agreeable to the consensuses but we should never be discouraged and all the more let our views be heard and read. We just need to be logical at the end. In view of this post of yours I could not help but to say that you are bringing this up with certain relations to the forthcoming Olympics in Beijing and to that I would just like to wish your country every success. I do agree that politics should never be a part in these Games however, I am just sad that the West being the main advocates of this has now been seen as the main culprit and instigator so far. It is certainly a far cry from the cultured West that I have known and learned. Over time I cannot help but notice the insecurities playing the minds of the West and instead of harnessing and accommodate the rise of China - they are now seen misbehaving in a rather shameful and bashful manner.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
I hope that more and more foreigners will know more about real China. As seeing is believing.
@amirev777 (3936)
• India
28 Apr 08
Hi! usually i dont rate negative any discussion or response-at the most i only ignore them-of course if any one sends a negative response to my discussions then i hit back-but i think Tibet belongs to tibetians,china shud not interfere here.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Tibetians are Chinese. In fact we have many beneficial rules for them. And it's a part of China.
28 Apr 08
If I disagree with something then I will say so. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and this site would be very boring if there were no different views
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Thanks for your reply.
• United States
28 Apr 08
I agree. If they don't approve of these Games, they don't have to watch. We who want to see these games will enjoy them.I am not afraid to disagree, I am afraid of either insulting the person or demeaning their point of view.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Thanks for your response.
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
28 Apr 08
i think now i should be, the rate at which i am losing the star, reputation ,ranks and all, it will not be easy now. today i also lost posts to 20 something.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Don't take it to heart. As you know that some bad people rate others negative on purpose.
@Psyclown (131)
• Venezuela
28 Apr 08
No because what you think is right or wrong maybe other people think is not or is agree with you, that's an opinion is something subjective so I'm not afraid.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Thanks for your reply.
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
28 Apr 08
You're right. I can't tolerate the insult that is put on my motherland. China shouldn't deserve this, and those who give the insult should know come to China and have a look at the changes taken place here. Yeah, China's still a develping countries, problems may exsist, but that doesn't mean the whole China is wrong. We are making progress, and are always trying to right wrong. We need your understanding just as you might need ours. Prejudice will never work out a problem.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Thanks a lot for your support. And I am glad that we are friends now
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 08
Actually mylot is a good site for us, users to express our thought and feeling here. In my personal view, Olympics Games belongs to all people in this world, but not the country of china only. As the Olympics is going to be held very soon, people from all over the world should try their best to help and support this holy games but not to boycott and destroy it through creating any political issue. Since china has been given a chance to be the host of the game why shouldn’t give her an opportunity to show her capability to achieve it? I sincerely wish the brilliant success of the coming grand occasion.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
Thanks for your kind wish. In fact I started to watch my first Olympics from TV and that was from LA Olympics. And China didn't boycott any countries before. We come in peace.
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@Hazedd (4)
27 Apr 08
No, i love to speak my mind, to my my own opinion is all that matters, and really, that is why i use myLot too, is cause you can speak say and do whatever you want with the freedom that you want. If you jus agree all the time, you never learn anything.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 08
Thanks for your reply.
@moondan (714)
• China
27 Apr 08
I really surport with you!
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
Thanks for your support.
@asimo603 (1366)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 08
No, I'm not afraid to post my disagreement when responding a discussion here at MyLot , otherwise it is not a discussion anymore.A Discussion is a way people relate / exchange his/her ideas and opinions on a subject either verbally or in writing . Everyone was born with differences in terms of physically and mentally . So, one should be given a chance to express himself/herself appropriately and objectively. The respondent is advisable not to use extreme word or personal attack related opinions when giving view on a subject. And the poster shall accept openly to views from respondent.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 08
That's right. Different opinions are welcome except for the ones which are offensive.