I got "dropped" by one of my good friends!
@wrld_n_harmony (695)
United States
April 26, 2008 3:48pm CST
Let me start off by saying I'm 29. This is important because I would expect something like this to happen to someone in Jr. High or High school, but not to a grown adult.....
My husband and I have been friends with this couple for over a year. We've spent a lot of time with them, going places together, talking on the phone, and just really being good friends. My husband went through some difficult times with his job, and he really didn't feel like socializing for a couple months. I still talked with them during this time though. They other couple got really busy because she was studying for a massive exam for her job.
In December, I noticed that she quit returning my calls and text messages. It's been 3 months, and I've heard NOTHING from her. SO, I quit calling. We have a mutual friend who still socializes with this couple, and she says she'd rather not get involved. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED! It really makes me sad that something happened between us, and they just cut us off! If I ever have a problem with a friend, I always talk with them about it. I've never just totally quit talking with someone.
Any advice? Should I attempt to call her? It's really just heartbreaking to me since I have no idea what we did wrong! Would you ever just cut off all contact with a friend if they did something wrong or would you talk with them about it?
3 responses
@thepipes (163)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I agree with you that just stopping contact when you didn't have a blow out fight or anything like that is really childish. If she had a problem with you she should have confronted you about it.
So that you don;t resort to her level I would try to call her one more time and simply ask what it was you did wrong and if you can talk about it and work it out. That way if she continues to act like a school girl then you can at least know in your heart and mind that you were the adult and tried to work it out.
@wrld_n_harmony (695)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I actually sent her a letter by mail kind of as a "last resort" to try to open up the communication. A month later, and I've gotten no response. I guess I just need to succumb to the fact that 1.) I did something unforgiveable or 2.) she wasn't as good of a friend as I thought she was. Or maybe both, even though I've racked my brain pretty constantly and can come up with nothing.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
26 Apr 08
First of all I would never cut off all contact with a friend like that. And second of all I would try and calling her again because I would want to know exactly what I did wrong. I agree with what you said about stuff like that happening in Jr. High or High School but thank god that nothing like that happened to me in High School. I'm 19 and I'm seeing how some grown ups act and it's like they are still in high school. It's like I graduated high school to enter an even bigger high school. I would try and call again because it would drive me crazy not knowing what I did wrong.
@wrld_n_harmony (695)
• United States
27 Apr 08
It does hurt, and it drives me crazy not knowing what I did. I've left her many messages, text messages, and I even wrote a letter by mail telling her I that I'm sorry for whatever I did to hurt her, that I miss her, and I wish we could talk. Still no response in almost 4 months, with the letter being sent a month ago.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Wow that is just crazy and really childish. She needs to grow up if you didn't do anything then there is no reason for her to be acting like that.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Apr 08
If you have her email address, I would send her an email. Something small asking how they are doing and what is going on. I don't think I would just let a good friendship like that drop.
