What do you make of this? Is it favortisim?
By cream97
@cream97 (29085)
United States
April 27, 2008 9:43am CST
My mother-in-law, gave her grandson a blue light on the front of his gift for Christmas. It was connected to the wrapping paper. While me and my sister-in-law sat in the front room talking, my mil was busy wrapping up the gifts in her bedroom. So, when my mil came out of the room with the wrapped gifts in her hand, she gave mines to me for my son and daughter. My son's gift did not have a light on it. My sil turned his gift over and asked me, if I had a light on his gift as well as her son had on his. I told her no. My son did not have a blue light on his gift. At that moment, I didn't thought nothing of it, but after a while I felt bad about it. My mil made me feel that my sil's son was much more important than my son. I know that this sounds immature to be thinking about this. Well my mil has a reputation of being very mean to me. She has insulted me and belittled me in the worst way that you possibly can think of. She would come and tell me mean things that her friend would say about me. She made me feel so bad. I believe that she enjoyed hurting me the way that she has. There were times that I would go to bed at night crying, because I wanted this woman's acceptance. I loved her son. I was in so much pain with all the horrible things she has said and done to me. I almost lost my self-esteem because of her evil intentions towards me. A part of me felt that she was trying to give her other grandson the best gift, which was the light on it. She instead gave my son the gift with nothing on it. This was no mistake. She had every intention of doing this. I don't know why, when she goes so crazy over my son. My mil is a very confusing person. She will do harm to you and when you go to ask her about it, she will act like she don't remember or can't recall what she did. What do you think?
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@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Hey there,
First of all I wouldn't let this consume your life, bnth you and your son are better than that. Some people are just plain evil. How do we cure the DEVIL? Let me tell you all you have to do is be nice to her do not let her know she gets under your skin. I know this is easier said than done but honestly after a little bit she will get tired and back off. I tell you this from experience. Maybe you should let your lil one know that people get different gifts and they are not always the same. Please do not let him hear you talk about favortism this can beat up his self esteem. Remember one of the most important things in life is what goes around comes around, I have a feeling she will be getting hers. I would also spend limited time with her as well. Your first priority would be to protect your family, talk to your husband and let him know that you and your son will be spending less time around her. If my mother in law planned on visiting for coffee I would just take my son and go to the park, after all it is his mother and you do not want to get in between thier relationship. I wish you great success with your communication to the SheDevil! Good Luck
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Thank you! It just so happens that since you mentioned it. She is now reaping what she has sown. I have seen her life crumble right before my eyes. The pain that she has caused me and her youngest daughter, she is getting it all back bit by bit. And the sad thing about it, it is nothing that she can do about it. When she was being so spiteful and dirty she did not know that she was bringing bad karma into her life. It was her choice to be so ill. And no, I haven't mentioned, the favortisim to my son. I am not going to waste my time telling him about how childish his grandmother is. I just limit my time away from her. Right now, I hardly deal with her and I have to admit that I kind of like it this way. I know she always tells me she misses me and the kids. But to be honest with you I don't miss her one bit. If she wants to see more of me and the kids then she needs to stop being so trifling. She is causing her own loss. The daughter that I was talking about in the above story is her oldest daughter. Her youngest daughter was the one that she has done wrong. She talked bad mess about her to me. Her youngest daughter does not feel sorry for her mother, and I don't either!
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Sometimes it is all done in lessons of life. Maybe she has learned her lesson! There is a saying.. You do not realize what you have in life until it has faded away. I also believe a person should have a second chance. Do not have pitty on her but pray for her wellness. I would say now is the time to sit down and talk to her about all the mean things she has done and explain the hurt she has caused. If she says she is sorry without any excuses I would have to say it is sincere. This will find you some closure, although you think you may not need it, we all need closure to all conflicts that are sour. This will ensure that you stay the wonderful person you are. Sometimes when we deal with people like this they tend to rub off on us just a little bit. I wish your family happiness!
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Yes this is true. Although she has done me wrong, I still ended up having a loving heart towards her. When she comes over my house, I still talk to her. I try to be the better person. Just two to three weeks ago, I gave her a hug and told her that I hope that things will get better for her. Which I do. Even though I am still hurting over all the things she has done, I still try to treat her like a human being. I know that I said what I said to you. But believe me I still do have a heart for her. I know since she has done me wrong, I still act civil around her. I will not do her like she has done me. I am not evil like that. It just seems all she has done she is paying for it. It is sad but that is the way it is. Yes I will continue to pray for her. But she has to stop letting the enemy control her to be mean and hateful. If she can do this then she can be a better person.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
Hi cream97! I think your mil is just a horrible person. How can a grandmother play favorites with her own grandchildren? She is actually hurting the children's feelings. With what you have just said on her attitude towards you, I guess she is doing that on purpose of showing you that she favors the other grandson over your son so she can hurt you at the expense of your son, her grandson. Just ignore her dear and as much as possible avoid her. it is really difficult when you are dealing with the mother of your husband. Maybe you can try to talk with your husband about this. However, it would be better if your hubby sees her kind of behavior towards you. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and please don't lose your cool because that is what she wants so you would look bad and immature. Have a nice day and God bless! 


@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Hi cream97! I know what you mean and how it feels like to look so foolish and then it will seem that you were just making it all up and you are lying. i do believe that your mother in law is jealous thinking that her son loves you much more than she is loved by her son. It is like she is competing with you and somehow by making you look bad and making you feel that way, she feels that she is being vindicated. Just don't mind her and try to be friendly to her and ignore her sarcasm or her attitude towards you. If she sees you are greatly affected, she will be rejoicing and if she sees that you are not affected at all and you show her how happy your life is, she will be very p*ssed for sure but if you don't let her get into your nerves, she will tire of this game soon. No one likes playing any game all by herself.
Just my thoughts dear friend! Take care and have a nice day! 
Just my thoughts dear friend! Take care and have a nice day! 
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Yes I know that is what she is trying to do. If I talk to my mil about it, she will lie and say that she did not intend to do this. She will play mind games with me. Most of every bad thing that she has done to me, she can't recall that it ever happened. In the end it makes me look foolish. I don't know why, she wants to waste her time trying to get on my nerves. Maybe it is because of her bad nerves.
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