Better to be a Leaver than a Leavee.

@ozzeth (940)
Philippines
April 28, 2008 9:06pm CST
Leaver - Someone who decide to leave or someone who leaves you. Someone who giving up. Someone who let go of you. Leaves you for better, for other woman or etc... Leavee - Someone who left behind, No choice...Who left alone. They said better to be aLeaver than to be a leavee. Why? Because if you are a "leaver" it's less of pain, less of sorrows, less of heartbreaking and can easily and early to recover, at ease. Compare to "leavee"..more heartbreaking, questions, more pain and more sorrows, more depressions and hard to recover...long way to recover. In your whole life, are you always in the situation that always left behind, left alone..Someone always leaves you? It's hurt right? Sometimes...we are afraid to enter a relationship again coz our fear hunting us...What if? or if ever? Negative thoughts,Being pessimistic.... Fear to hurt again, Fear to left alone again.. You are welcome to share your thougths...
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@chiyosan (30190)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
i guess that is always true. it is better to be the one who leaves. the one left behind always suffers the most. i have been the leaver twice, with my past two BFs. i know i have never suffered the pain as much as they have.. i have not regretted those decisions in my life... i have celebrated being able to do so, actually but i was not made of a heart of stone and i have often thought about them too, about how much i hurt them and that maybe i do deserve being "lonely" for choosing so.
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Their are different circumstances and reasons why people decides to leave someone. But one thing, if you decides to leaves somoene. You should not regret it in the end.
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
@modelit (54)
30 Apr 08
Your right ozzeth! and you have a point!. To leave someone is less of pain than you are the one who been left by someone.
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
I appreciated your dropping by! take care.
@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
@teka44 (3421)
• Brazil
30 Apr 08
Hi ozzeth. I was lived the both situations. Yes, be a leaver is less of pain and sorrows. Be a leavee is not easy, your feelings oscillate between sorrows and rage. And if someday he/she is regret about left you and want to return in relationship with you, for sure it is a pleasure to say NO and why. It is a pleasure to see that he/she had sorrows too for their faults and recognize that you are better than the others for who they are left you. I know that this is not a nice feelings but it is the truth. I'm not hypocrite. When we are left alone, we became very sceptic about love, and when you have a new relationship you think: maybe a new treason coming again. So I think that who is leaver deserve our pleasure with her/him regret and sorrows because they broken forever our confidence. And all actions have their price.
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
I'd been a a leaver and a leavee too. And i can really compare the feelings of the two.