Is it a "right" to be depressed if you have a negative impact on others?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
April 29, 2008 10:36am CST
My upstairs neighbor has been causing problems in our building of 18 apartments for months. Granted everyone is this building lives here because they have one kind of problem or another. Most of us are bi polar or suffer from some sort of depression. BUT we take our medication and live normal lives not bothering anyone. You would never know that some of us even have a problem of any kind. This woman is constantly making unbelievable noises in her apartment that actually keep me awake or wake me up at 3am even after I've taken my sleeping meds. I have had pictures fall off my wall from whatever it is that she does up there. She has broken her windows and left water running, her apartment always looks like it's been trashed. Someone is always calling the police because the noise continues much after 11pm. The housing manager said there's nothing she can do about it since the woman does not take her medication and she has a "right" to be depressed! She obviously needs help but nobody is doing anything about it. Once in awhile when the police are called they insist she goes to the local psych hospital where she stays about a month (I'm sure that's because it's all her insurance will cover). She will be fine for about 2 weeks and then she is off again.
Should people who are mentally unstable be able to do things like this? There are programs in this city where she can go so why doesn't someone put her into one? Anyone have any ideas?
4 responses
@lilyoungfella (1195)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
You have a right to be depressed. but i don't think you are entitled any, if you cause harm to other people..
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
30 Apr 08
It's not only other people but what about harming herself? That should be the big problem that they worry about!
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Should people who are mentally unstable be able to do things like this?
Well thats a tough one to answer really...I mean mental illness isnt a right or not a right ya know..BUT if there are programs that are available to her I think she is overstepping her bounds by NOT doing what needs to be done...ya know..
There are programs in this city where she can go so why doesn't someone put her into one?
I imagine that being an adult nobody CAN forceably put her into any program or home etc etc which is really a shame since obviously its NEEDED not only for the others in the building and ppl on the street for that matter but also for her own well being and safety ya know....
Anyone have any ideas?
The only thing I can suggest really is to call the landlord and lodge a formal complaint (it'd be better if several of you did it together), OR call the local mental health services and see what htey suggest OR find out if there is a way to contact any family and see if they'd be willing to help..Other than those things I really dont knwo what to tell you 

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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Many of us in the building have complained since we are all up at all hours of the night and not very happy about it. As far as getting in touch with the local mental health services we are told it's none of our business! The family is useless from what I can see!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Apr 08
On the one hand you can't force a person to act responsibly, take their medication, etc. On the other hand, you shouldn't have to put up with her behavior either. Surely the landlord should be concerned not only with the property damage but also with the effect this all has on getting and keeping tenants if nothing else. One thing's for certain, the woman needs help. But unless she's willing to help herself, she probably won't get it.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
30 Apr 08
This is the first time she has damaged any property...that I know of. The house manager says she is concerned but her hands are tied. I don't know how much of that I believe since the woman lives here under a contract called "shelter plus care" so where is the care coming in?
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
9 Oct 10
Most time, its my work..with ontime deliveries and work loads. I try to divert mind on music and i feel better. We need to manage depression, as it is part of life in busy world.
But if we concentrate, we can manage it. I does it through my yoga, listening music and going out on vacation.





