I would like the opinion of

United States
April 29, 2008 3:45pm CST
anyone but mainly I would like the opinion of the younger mylotters. I would like to know why tweens and teens think they need a cell phone? It's not like they are going to miss out on that big interview, or that big business deal. I will agree with the arguement that a cell phone is good to have in an emergency, but I'm talking about having it 24/7, when it is the parent/s that pay the bill. Also, I would like to know what age do you think is appropriate to have a myspace account. This is not being asked because of my children, my two daughters are grown, but my s/o has a 14 year old daughter, that to me, is posting inappropriate bulletins and such on her myspace. She also just had her cell phone taken away, permanently, because of running up an $800 bill on her mom's family plan! So, please feel free to voice your opinion on these two subjects.
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@skydancer (2018)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Well, my parents would not get me a cell phone until I was in college. Until then, they would only lend me one of theirs for emergencies only, or if I was going to be somewhere where they would not be able to reach me otherwise. The reason for that was because I wasn't driving yet, so it wasn't like I needed communication in my car for any reason, and I always hated talking on the phone even to socialize (for reasons even I don't fully understand. I just always found the phone boring). So understandably, my parents figured there was no point, I would rarely use it, if ever, and therefore they would never get their money's worth. While I understood and agreed with this as a teen (cell phones had not quite become the norm when I was a tween), I did not always like it because I felt like the only one who didn't have one. And it seemed as though if your parents didn't buy you the latest in technology, people would look down on you and think you were poor or something... or it was used in some way to measure your supposed worth as a person, which leads me to believe it has something to do with "competing" or "keeping up" with their peers. If the teen has a job of their own and is paying for it themselves, that is one thing, but I never understood the parents that buy their kids laptops and cell phones and all this other stuff if they do not need it or have done nothing to earn it. Kids just seem to be getting more and more spoiled these days. As for MySpace pages, I developed my first personal website when I was about fifteen or sixteen. I would have started earlier but was having trouble finding the time to do it in the way that I wanted to. My parents never had any problem with me having a website, and they weren't overprotective when it came to posting pictures of myself. This was, of course, before the days of MySpace, and I eventually became a part of the "teen domain scene" which was basically this "elite" group of domains owned by teenagers. With me, it was just exploring developing a passion, not exploiting myself and my personal life in provocative ways. MySpace is a networking platform and is therefore a little bit different in many ways than maintain a website. I use it primarily to promote my work, but most use it for social purposes. I am not a parent, so it is hard for me to give a good age limit. However, they need to understand and use the right precautions, know how to go about this in a mature, civilized manner (even when I had my websites at a relatively young age, my parents would not allow certain content such as vulgar or offensive content, pictures of myself in revealing clothing, use of the "f" word, and stuff like that). Just my reflections on these subjects. Of course times have changed very rapidly from the time I first gained experience in these areas.
• United States
1 May 08
no myspace is for all ages so i dnt know what you talking about and you think having a cell phone is to young no it is not if she have a 14 and 17 someone need to start paying bills i know when i was 17 i had a mint phone and then i worked my way to a bill she need to let them get a mint phone and when she trun 18 she can get what she wants and the same for the 14 yearold and her bill will not be high but the internet on her phone is going to make the bill high but if i was you i would tell her to take them off of the family plan and go to mints
• United States
1 May 08
I think she learned her lesson about having a family plan. As for the myspace issue, if she could show that she was responsible enough then I wouldn't have a problem with that, but she has not shown that, twice she has gotten into trouble over something to do with myspace, my opinion is she would not be allowed to have it.
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Ok first I think 14 is way to young for a myspace page. I think if this girl has one the parents and any responsible adult should be monitoring it. I do support kids having cell phones in this day and age. Real emergencies are happening every day to children. Things that weren't happening when we were in school. An $800 bill is outrageous. I recommend a Firefly.It limits access to children . It has 3 features. One button for mom one for dad(or adult of parents choice) and one for the police. Period no large bills. Until a parent is certain about how a phone will be handled by these kids this is the phone they need. Hope the 14 year old will be paying back that money. Either by choring it off allowance, whatever.
• United States
29 Apr 08
I agree that is too young for myspace, I am on the computer or have the opportunity to be more than her dad does, and I have come to the conclusion it never occured to her mom to check it out. My sister also suggested the Firefly, and I think that is a good suggestion. I don't have any say so as to if she will be paying it back, that is up to her mother. I do know that if she had done that to me, she would be paying it back, and firefly would be the only type of phone she would have until she could get her own.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
29 Apr 08
It's hard to put an 'age' on these things since one 14 year old might be way more responsible than another 17 year old. In general, I think they feel they need 24/7 access to these things because they are in that 'lovely' ego-centered phase of life and truly believe that the world revolves around them. The myspace thing...Mine will be allowed before they are 16 BUT I must be on their friends list to monitor them and I must be given the password so I can monitor things if I have suspicions about anything.
• United States
29 Apr 08
I agree, I was on her friends list until yesterday lol, when her dad sent her mom an email stating that I thought she was grounded from using the computer. So she figured I must have mentioned it, which I did, however, she seems to have forgotten that my oldest daughter is on her list as well as her dad, which I set up his account so I can still monitor her's from that one. I don't want to come across as the 'wicked' witch, however, if I think there is something he should be aware of I inform him, and let him take it from there.
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
I got my 1st phone when I was 16 (i'm turning 22 this yr) right before I got to college. My dad gave it to me coz I was going to study in the city and I'll be staying in a dorm. It was a prepaid line and my dad gives me P500 (thats around 13 dollars) load allowance per month. So if I'll need more than that, I have to take it from my own allowance. I think thats good coz it taught me to budget my money. My younger brother got his last month and he's just 13. Its for emergency purposes. And its also prepaid. A similar rule applies to him, he's given only P300 load allowance a month coz he goes home everyday and he really doesnt have to make phone calls. Regarding MySpace account (and the likes), I really dont know. My brother has a friendster account but he doesnt post photos, bulletins,etc. So I really dont know...