How do you pick yourself up?

@LouRhi (1502)
Australia
April 29, 2008 8:25pm CST
It is not often I find myself in a less than jovial mood, however the past week or so I have had a lot of difficulty remaining bright and chipper about life. Granted there are a few less than pleasant things happening in my life at present but these are just the general trials and tribulations of life so it shouldn't be a big deal, though I guess dad being in hospital is not going to help. Anyway the point of this discussion is to ask you what methods do you use to help you through the harder times in life. Personally I find writing helps, though sometimes my brain just won't let that happen! Meditation and reflection had also worked well in the past but it is just a matter of being able to make the time! So please share your secrets to happiness ~ may in every way this be a special day ~
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Lou I hope things turn around and you are able to cheer up soon. For my own Pick Me Up methods, I'll have to say music for most. Art and gaming also work too. Then there are times I try to seek something positive to inspire hope (or at least something positive). I'll also admit, I've made a couple of modest donations when down too. Each one did make me feel better, different degrees of effectiveness, but I do recall feeling better. If its a lot of pain though, you may have to just let it out. Cry, shout, yell... if its too much to bare then let it out.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
I found it interesting that the modest donations have made you feel better, I have found that this has helped in the past as well. Yesterday while I was at the beach I picked up a heap of rubbish and I was surprised at how much better I felt afterwards. Crying shouting etc are also good options, but sometimes no matter how bad you feel they just are ready to be released yet!
• Regina, Saskatchewan
30 Apr 08
Join my 'messing with your mind' interest group Lou! Guarantee you a few laughs, help you see the silly side of life, and if you post a discussion or two there about even mundane things, I promise we'll have you laughing your way right out of the hospital as laughter IS the best medicine! Good luck.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
Yes laughter is the best medicine you are so right. Sign me up and show me the way!
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
1 May 08
Hi LouRhi. Sorry to hear your not at your best. I ahve a feww approaches I used and they're all based on what is going on at the time. There are times I may: *Just sitting in solace and emptying myself. Just letting go of every care and even happy thoughts whicch may end up leading me back to the source of my grief. Sometimes I fall asleep or I may find that something starts occupying my mind that allows me to escape from my pressures for a while. After this I may or may not feel like facing my problems and I go with the feeling. *Turn on some music that will soothe me or make me dance exercise whatever to just burn some energy. I must take time out from those around if even only for half an hour. *There are times when I must rant. I need to just expel things from system and release my inner tensions. I dont necessarily do so to anyone. I learn to talk to myself in the mirror and I try to be rational so that if I am wrong at all I can admit it to myself. * If I am angry with the things in my life then I take my rant to God seeking to find out why. I am not one of those persons who just sits around and accept everything as the will of God. I question things that I do not understand which may seek to overwhelm me. Ah well there we go now. Those are a few ways I deal with bad mood. Sometimes i wallow but I really hate feeling sorry for myself and hate to feel backed into a corner. (lol)
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
2 May 08
Hi tjades, Thanks for stopping by and sharing your methods with me. It has been really inspiring reading how others deal with things. I know what you mean about hating feeling sorry for yourself and being backed into a corner. I feel the same way. Things are slowly getting easier to deal with. It is all just a matter of how you look at things really. I consulted my Fairy Cards this morning and they directed me to some positive affirmations to help make me stronger. ~ may in every way this be a special day ~
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
it is easier said than done, right? But whenever i feel bad, i pray.. i talk to God.. He is the only one who can carry all my burdens.. God is so great that he make sure that we can handle every problems we encounter. Also, we cant just leave evrything to him....we need to act accordingly.. Talk to your friends, listen to their advice.. i am sure that it will help you a lot.. Sometimes, voicing out what you have inside alleviate the pain.. Talk to sometime you had a fight with, explain your side but make sure to listen to his side.. a lot of problems starts with misuderstanding.. Before doing any action, ask advice from God. He's always willing to help.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
2 May 08
Yep sure is easier said than done. Thank you for reminding me that God only gives us what we can handle (even if we don't think so at first) I have shared this advice with many in the past but forgot to tell myself recently!
• United States
30 Apr 08
Music, writing poems, taking a nap to forget about it a little, and calling a friend or family member for some support.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
Hi BabyGirl, welcome to myLot and thanks for sharing your methods with me here. You are very lucky being able to find a release through poetry. Unfortunately my family is unable to help much at this point in time as they are also struggling to deal with things. Where most families can come together in times of need, we seem to needlessly bicker with each other!
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
30 Apr 08
The best way for me is to cry. If I feel like crying I will not feel better until I do it. Then I have a big bowl of ice cream and read a book or watch a movie that takes me away from my old problems. When I have no motivation to do the things I normally enjoy I try to do them anyway and hope that the enjoyment will follow. As they say 'fake it till you make it.'
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
Fake it till you make it hey? I like it! Could become my new life motto. Though I think it would be fair to say that I have regularly used this in the past! When I was younger I did have a selection of movies that I would watch when the world got to much for me. While I still have the collection who has time to watch a movie when there are little ones about! As for the comfort eating....well when I went to do the weekly shopping last week I walked away with 4 packets of chocolate biscuits and not much else! Luckily they were on special
@kykidd (6818)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I find music helps me release my inner feelings. Sometimes just letting out some tears can be soothing. Then you can pick up where you left off and get back to the grind.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
yes I am always a big believer in an old cry, however sometimes when I need it the most my eyes seem to insist on staying dry. It is like my body says no this is not the part you need tears for, wait and see what will happen first. Music is also helpful, any suggestions on what music may work best?
• United States
30 Apr 08
i have my music collection and if i need cheering up i sing and it always helps to put me in a better mood
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
30 Apr 08
Yes music is a great form as well. I actually put one of my favourites on yesterday. Meatloaf's Bat out of hell. It worked a treat but unfortunately was only short lived! What type of music works best for you?