Do you mommy your husband or significant other?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
April 30, 2008 10:38am CST
Women find themselves mothering their husbands because of societal pressures to be the ultimate woman. We've been taught that the way to show love is to do for others and some women believe that the more they nurture, the better a woman they are.
Ever found yourself nagging your husband to take his daily multivitamin -- or, worse, bringing it to him with a glass of water? Instead, "put it on the table, tell him you love him and then shut up."
The same goes for other coddling behaviors, like pestering him to eat his vegetables. Too much of this type of communication, she says, and your relationship is likely to signal an S.O.S.
Babying the man in your life can mean two things: A. You've been spending too much time being mommy and may need a break from the kids, or B. You need more adult contact, whether it be a weekend away with the girls or a few hours at the mall while the kids are with a sitter.
Are you a mommy to your husband or significant other? What types of things do you do for him/her that make you feel you are?
5 responses
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
9 May 08
Well I do joke and say I have 5 kids, and he is the biggest one. But in reality I know he has a mother and that is not my place. He doesn't need two mommies, the one he has babies him enough:)
I do find myself trying to help him correct his wrongs, or eat better, or study to past a test(he's a mechanic), or things like that. But that's out of my love and concern for him. I don't nag him to do these things, I just inform him of information he may not have. I do baby him a bit when he's sick. But he is the breadwinner in our family, so the sooner he is back up and in the game, the better for us all.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
1 May 08
I suppose I do mommy my fiance in ways, but I do not mind it. I know that most will say that I eventually will, and that may or may not be the case, but for now I am enjoying being his "mommy". It makes me feel important, and he feels nurtured too.
I love nurturing, so it's just nature for me to do it for him.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I used to date a man who I basically played Mommy too. I hated that feeling and after four years of it I ended the relationship it took too much out of me.
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I really only do that when my hubby is sick. He deserves a bit of mommying. Now I have caught myself asking him to change his shirts if what he is wearing makes him look to much like he's wearing a janitor uniform or prison outfit. You know all one color. But in general no. My hubby is his own person. He has a mom. I am his wife.
@kezabelle (2974)
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30 Apr 08
God no theres no reason for me to baby him, he is an adult and can look after him self perfectly well, infact if I found the only way to show him I love him were the things I did around the house id be pretty horrified and make changes satright away!
