How do respond to "How are you doing?"

@jalucia (1431)
United States
April 30, 2008 11:14am CST
I was just wondering how you guys responded when someone greets you by saying "How you doing?" If I'm walking down the street, in the store, or something like that and someone I don't know greets me by saying "How ya doing?" I just say "Hi." I usually don't answer the question if I'm just passing someone by. I don't know, maybe subconsciously I figure that they don't really care how I'm doing, they're just greeting me. So, I respond with a greeting- hi or hello. Sometimes I might answer the question. I'm more likely to do so if I know the person or if I'm going to be engaged in additional conversation. When I was a child it was also emphasized that you dont respond to "How you doing" with the word "good". Using the word "good" isn't good enough. Then, as I became a teenager I learned that if a guys asks you "how you doing" and you say "fine" he's likely to say "You sure are!". Get it?
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5 responses
• United States
30 Apr 08
I'll say Good. I've come to the conclusion that alot of people will ask, How You Doing, then before you get a chance to respond they walk away or they turn their attention elsewhere. I really believe that this casual greeting is said so much lately that it is just a mindless thing, where people aren't really looking for an answer or really care how you're doing
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
1 May 08
Yeah, I guess I just assume it's just a mindless greeting, also. So, I just respond with a hi or hello and don't even think of it as a question that requires an answer. Not that I don't appreciate the greeting. In this day and age, for a stranger to extend a greeting is a pleasant and rare occasion. Most people just go on about their day not paying much attention to those around them.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
30 Apr 08
It depends on the situation. If a stranger says it to me I say hello. But, if someone I know asks me, I usually say fine and reciprocate the question and ask them how they are doing. And, I never got the "you sure are" from any guys asking me that question. Well, maybe my hubby! LOL! Not that I am not cute or "fine". Actually, I think that I haven't gotten cuter the older I have gotten. But, back when I was single, I was too thin (really high metabolism) and pretty shy. So, for now...I just gage the situation in which the question was asked and respond accordingly.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
1 May 08
Yeah, it just depends on the situation to me, also. And, if your hubby says your fine, that's what really matters, right? Must make you feel good. I'm sure you've gotten better with age in a lot of ways ... You've probably come out of your shell and all :)
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I respond with a "fine and you" I had some one ask me once and it had been a really really bad day so I said - Not good - its been a really crappy day would you really like to hear about it ??? Her answer was wow I never heard any one say any thing other then fine or okay. She asked! lol. It really was a bad day.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
1 May 08
Well, at least you don't let things fester by holding them inside :)
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I usually respond with "Fine, thanks." That covers it. I don't think there is any need to be rude. If I am not sure if I am the one intended for the greeting, I ignore it.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
1 May 08
No, there is definitely need to be rude. And, I don't think I am. At least that's not my intention. That's why I posed the question, to see if I was coming off as less mannerable than I should be. But, I always appreciate someone I don't know taking the time to notice my presence and extend a greeting.
@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I usually just smile and say "fine thanks. And how are you?" They will generally respond with some form of fine and we move on with our day. If it is someone I know asking I tend to be more honest and share more than just a fine. Sometimes I will elaborate on recent events and they will as well. But for just a walk by greeting the first response seems to work well enough.