Toddler not talking yet

United States
May 2, 2008 1:35pm CST
Hi everyone, here's what I've been worrying about lately. I have an 18 mo old girl who is not talking yet. She says "dada" but that's it. She was born a preemie, (2 mos early). Lately, while in the supermarkets, I've noticed other people's children talking. When I ask how old they are, their the same age or close to it. When I pick her up from daycare the ride home is horrendous because she's pointing at things and I'm trying to tell her what they are and she gets angry and starts yelling. I don't expect her to carry a conversation but a few other words would be nice. I keep trying to show her things and tell her what they are over and over again. She's going to her pedi next week and I was going to bring this issue up there as well but for the mean time, what do you think about this? Should I be worried or should I just give her some more time?
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@babykeka80 (2084)
• United States
2 May 08
I would definitely bring it up to the pediatrician. Does she have older siblings? Sometimes they can cause a delay in vocabulary because they tend to speak up for the little ones. I do believe that preemies are suppose to be a little behind in development though. Like I think she should be on the 16month path but she should still be saying more than one word. Could it also be her hearing? I know that has a lot to do with speech development. Either way I would mention it and see what he says. It never hurts to ask and if there is a problem you would rather catch it sooner than later. Maybe he can give you some ideas to help you help her.
• United States
2 May 08
Yes, she does have an older sister who's 10. I never thought of it that way. I'll definitely bring this up at the docs.
• Canada
2 May 08
I had this issue with my son because my mother left when he was a year he stopped talking completely and didn't start again untl I put him in speech therapy. My mother leaving was tramatic and that was his way of dealing with it. Now my daughter is 22months and barely talks. I haven't been too worried about it because she has an older brother that seems to talk for her. Now I know that isn't a good thing but until I can get her into speech therapy theres not a whole lot I can do. When small children don't talk it could be so many things including needing tubes put in their ears. If they cannot hear how to pronounce a word they won't say it. When in speech therapy the person says a word with an object in their hand and if the child wants it bad enough they will say the word. This can be very frustrating but it works. Lets say your child wants a ball your say "Ball" and wait for a reply if you get nothing you keep repeating it until they even TRY to say the word it doesn't even have to sound like the word. If they are trying you praise them for it and give them the object. I would say to take your child to the doctor and have your doctor refer your child to a speach therapist and get some hearing tests done ASAP
@forance (151)
• China
4 May 08
checking in time is needful.but a child not talking,which maybe not the problem of hearing or speech barrier.It possiblely caused by the temper.either which one of the causes,also needing to peace her temper and keep on firstly,and then to seek any other method to resolve.The cause is the most important.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
3 May 08
I wouldn't worry too much. Does she try to communicate in other ways (like pointing at things, as you mentioned)? Does she babble or make sounds? Does she seem to understand what you say (you can determine this by asking her to point to something, or asking her to do something)? If she is doing any of these things, she is communicating, and language will come. It is common for toddlers to not speak very much, sometimes until close to 2 years of age. You can encourage her language development by looking at her when you speak to her so she can see your expressions and facial movement, point to things and name them, and talk to her often. Talk about what you are doing, did, will do, anything at all. The more she hears language, the easier it will be for her to pick it up. If doing these things frustrates her, don't push, since that could make her tune it out. Just do it for as long as she is interested, or at least not upset by it. I do think you should bring it up to her pediatrician, since he or she may be able to give you more tips or reassurance.
@Breath (1297)
• United States
2 May 08
I would not worrie to much about it just yet...Both of my kids was preemie and they took just a little longer...If it really worries you go ahead and talk to your doctor...Good Luck!:)
• United States
2 May 08
I'm glad you seem to know what I'm going through. Everyone else seems to be freaking me out! Even still, I'm going to mention it at her next appointment and see what they say. Hopefully, she'll just take a little longer and that's all like you said. Thanks!
@renee0909 (152)
• China
3 May 08
hey, my mother couldn't speak until she was three years old. There are those who begin speaking later than others. If you do worry, ask doctors for some information. Best wishes to you and your girl!
• Canada
3 May 08
Hmm it could be that shes a slow learner? many poeple are born with learning disabilities so theres no need to worry. But if you are really impatient try going to a doctor?
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
3 May 08
Well.. not to scare you but it is best to address this. I was speech delayed, my son is also speech delayed and he is 4 and just starting to talk (and he is under the autism spectrum), my daughter was ALSO speech delayed (she is NOT under the spectrum), she used very few words at 18 months and didn't really start talking until 3 and a half.. now she is 6 and she speaks like an 8 year old! However, when my daughter went for her 2 year check up the pediatrician said its time to get her onto a list for speech intervention. The government takes their time, thats for sure. We did have a speech therapist for her at 2 but it didn't do much. We saw she was just progressing with her speech at her own rate and now she is fine! More than fine. I am not saying that your child is under the spectrum by any means.. my daughter is not and she was speech delayed. And it may very well be a case with your daughter as far as her developing at her own pace. But.. its best to not put it off and address your concerns. Remember, she is REALLY young and will be okay!
@only1shi (404)
• United States
3 May 08
i would take it seriously, especially since she was two months premature. you never know what my have not developed because of being born early. if your pediatriacian won't take your concerns seriously, find another. or a speech therapist. but another thing to consider with preemies is to not judge them by their actual age, but by their gestational age( the age they would've been had they been born on time) a lot of the time, their mind and body are trying to play catch up to their age. and keep in mind that the "milestone" indicators that everyone is always talking about are not set in stone. all children develop at their own pace. maybe she's just not ready to talk yet.
@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
3 May 08
?At 18 months yes you need to take this seriously. Call your local school to get info on how to contact an Early Child Development center usually called ESU they will send over a speech pathologist to test your daughter and then they will offer help. One big thing have her hearing checked alof of times when kids are not talking it is because they can't hear very good. ESU will guide you to that and also they can have her work with a speech pathologist etc. It does work both of my kids have used them!
• United States
3 May 08
i think when you go to the doctor, and this is mentioned and noticed, he will request a hearing test - if there are developmental delays, you may be able to get help (from state and/or county - don't hesitate to ask - extra testing can be VERY expensive!) with any kind of therapy that may be required. keep us posted, and the best of days to your family.