Just put me in a blender !!!!!!
By tmsmith
@tmsmith (85)
May 2, 2008 6:40pm CST
I am a member of a blended family. My parents divorced when i was around 4yrs. old and my sister was 2yrs. My father remarried a couple years later aquiring a step daughter and a step son (both older than me). My mom remarried 10 yrs. after the divorce, my step father has 1 daughter (younger than me) My mom and step father has 2 sons togeather. they are 14 and 15 years younger than me. At one time or another i have been the oldest, the youngest and the middle child. My mom introduces my step-sister as "my daughter" and when i married my mom suggested that both she and my stepmom light the candle togather because they had both raised me and both deserved the honor.My Mothers talk on the phone and when i was younger they backed each other up. I thought this was normal but as i've gotten older i keep hearing that it is not the normal way for blended families. So have you been in the blender and if so how did it turn out?
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@goodhappens (671)
• United States
3 May 08
I too am a member of a blended family, we joke and say we put the function into disfunctional families. My mom had 2 children, divorced had me, then remarried a man that had adopted 2 children from his 1st marriage and had 2 children from that marriage, he had custody of all children, that made us a family of 7 I have always been the baby. They have since divorced 20 some years ago and all of us are still pretty close, and my mom is still everyones mom and dad is still dad to all. There were some pretty ugly custody battles with the other kids, there was nothing nice or cooperative as you had it, I remember one of my brothers getting "kidnapped" by a PI his mom hired, he took my bro to California, then my dad had him "kidnapped" back, needless to say my brother was pretty messed up for a while, he is doing great now, after many years of counceling. But I think all us kids learned alot of what "not to do".
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@goodhappens (671)
• United States
3 May 08
That was a good thing that at least your mom and step mom got along, my mom didnt talk to my dad's ex, but she never said anything negative about her either. I know during my divorce I remembered how awful my brother would feel when dad would say something bad about his mom and I vowed to be more like my mom and not to do that. I learned all that does is hurt the child and that is not what any one is trying to do.
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