Do you control other people through spending?
By Ellie
@ellie26 (4139)
Malaysia
May 3, 2008 12:33pm CST
You may have learned as a child to manipulate your parents or others through spending. A new dress, an ice cream cone, or the latest game or toy satisfied you for the moment. Over time, you saw how easy it was to get the attention you needed. Display strong feelings, and someone would spend money on you. It become a way of life.
5 responses
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
3 May 08
As far as I can remember, I haven't done this.. My mother had too many kids to be manipulated, we never had money to get extras and never really knew there might be extras out there in the world that we might get if we did throw a fit.. I do know that once I threw a fit, or just stood my ground, to make hubby and son take me out to dinner, (I was to tired to cook), but I believe the clincher was when I said that I wasn't cooking and they would starve if they waited on me to cook for them.. We went out to eat and had a great time.. Sometimes you get what you want just because someone knows, if they give you what you want, you will just shut up about it..
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
4 May 08
OMG, did you really throw a "tantrum" so that you escape from cooking? lol. Nice one. Well, I see many parents just give in to their children demand just so they will shut up and stop making a scene in public. I think it is ok if it was not to be repeated, I mean to shut the children up.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
4 May 08
I did throw a teeny temper tantrum, but I was about 58 yrs old at the time.. I really haven't thrown one before in my life, but I was so tired and did not have the energy to cook.. I really didn't lay on the floor and kick and scream, but I might have if the situation had warranted it.. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do, and that goes double for us females, lol..
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
5 May 08
I did not used to display strong feelings, as a child, while demanding anything. If our parents said - 'NO', it means 'No' for us, and we did not used to argue with them or press further for our demands. However, our kids are opposite, if they want anything say toy, CD or anything, they would press us, even if we refuse them to buy it, they would argue with us and if you ask them to do a house-hold job, they would put the condition - "Buy us that toy etc., then we will do the job" ....LOL!
It really becomes difficult to make today's generation understand that all their wishes cannot be fulfilled and we cannot go beyond our limits.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
3 May 08
No I don't do this, but I've been exposed to it. Its called dating... and it happens like this for the sake of "tradition" or "chilvary" (but really the abuse of both words).
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@Elixiress (3878)
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10 May 08
I am not sure if I do. If I spend money on someone I expect them to be thankful and appreciative. Is that controlling? Or is it just what everyone expects.
@obidan (367)
• Romania
3 May 08
I understand that my parents work for that money and I keep my requests to a minimum. I don't ask for a lot of stuff either so I don't think i'm manipulating them. I also repay my parents when I have the money. I have yet to meet someone like those spoiled brats on tv shows that go ,,Mommy, I WANT THE NEW SUPERCOMBO3000 WITH light vision!'' and the parents really get them the object.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
4 May 08
You know parents sometimes spoil their children too much. And when children get this type of treatment, they soon learned to manipulate their parents to get what they want. From your response, I can sense that you are a nice person with much respect to your parents.
