When do you think your children learned...
By sisterjinx
@sisterjinx (1135)
United States
May 4, 2008 6:44pm CST
When do you think your kids learned what S** was? (you know the word that means two people having physical relations lol)
I always thought that my children were so innocent. lol I was so fooled.
When my kids were in elementary they went to public school. One day when my oldest was in about 4th grade, which made my other two in 3rd and 2nd, we were riding in the car and my oldest, Kyle, told me that a friend of his gave a note to a girl that said "can I do you". I was so in shock and kind of amused as well. I was sure none of them knew what this meant. And they didn't. Kyle thought it meant could this boy kiss this girl. So, because I didn't want any of them to make the mistake of using this term, I explained that this meant to have s** with the girl.
I then proceeded to ask my oldest two, who were the only two with me, if they knew what that was. Well I was not ready for this answer. I'm so soooo glad they were in the back seat and it was dark out because I was in tears trying to hold back my laughter. My little girl, who was in 3rd grade piped up and said I do mommy. "It means when two people get undressed and jump up and down on each other." I couldn't even speak. What do you say to that. lol
So I learned that day that kids learn about this much earlier than I ever imagined. When do you think your kids figured out what this is?
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4 responses
@paulw33 (297)
• United States
5 May 08
well you know what most of this is learned when they are in grade schol there was something in the paper where i lived ok it was this boy only 8 said he was going to rape and kill this girls oh yea its true everyone might think its funny that your daughter said that but ya want ot tr and clamp down now because her knowing that its only going to get worse not saying she would but you kind of laughed you said but what if when she is 12 she comes home pregnant then what noim not saying she is and im not saying you are a bad parent so dont take me wrong ok im just trying to make a point schools are bad now they are mamkeing 0ut right in school oh yes so ya better watch
@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
5 May 08
I want to let you know that this incident was a very long time ago. My kids are all teens now and only one is still at home. My daughter only lived another year before a car accident took her from this world.
I also want to let you know that we talked with our children about s** a lot as they got older. We talked about diseases and pregnancy. We talked about how this should be an experience between to people who are adult and in love.
We were never the kind of parents to just laugh at something and ignore the realities. I shared this as a funny little story but in the hopes that parents who don't realize how much their children know would see that there is a good chance that they do.
Thank you for your advice and concern but unfortunately there is no chance that my daughter will ever have a baby. And my oldest boy is now almost 18 with no kiddos yet and my youngest is 15 with no girlfriend yet and he is homeschooled. I am very protective of my children. I meet their friends. I know where they are. I don't let them go anywhere if there will not be adult supervision. These things are not because I don't trust them, I do. These things are because I don't trust the world and I know that things happen. You learn that quick once you have lost a child.
@mnflower (1299)
• United States
5 May 08
This is funny cause yes this is the age that they are learning this kind of thing this early in life and it is scary for sure, what you did was awesome cause that is the way that I explained them for it is best to explain it than for them to think otherwise and ask strangers.My oldest stepdaughter is now 14 and her first boyfriend and boy is that scary for her brother is 19 and a daddy of a 5 month old baby and his girlfriend is only 17 and my 14 year old is smarter and more alert than the 17 year old..My 14 year old is well aware of all the s.. and all the sayings for sure and if she don't know she gets ahold of me even if she is at her real mom's to ask me which is super cool and I love to answer for her cause she is so shy, she use to be tomboy and now growing into a real loving lady.Told her if she thought of do ing it she better take a look at her brother and his life and think twice.
@flowerhorn (1008)
• Malaysia
6 May 08
Unbelievable how kids nowadays get to know s** so fast. Guess they get it from TV.
Sure in an awkward position to explain it to them.I mean they are so small.
You can't filter the info, they will pickup it from somewhere.That's what worry me
@fiona08 (454)
• United States
6 May 08
I remember when my kids were little, I was waiting for the moment I should have "the talk" with them. I wanted to be a very open mother so that they would dare come to me with anything they needed to talk about. I read somewhere that you should answer anything they asked, that they are mature enough to know the truth about anything they are mature enough to wonder. This may actually be good advice if you realize that it is easy to give way more information than the child actually asked for. My daughter, who was very precocious, was in second grade when she asked me, "I know you need a mom and a dad to make a baby, but how does the baby look like the dad, when the baby is made in the mom's tummy?" I proceeded to tell her a very scientific description of just how the sperm finds the egg. I didn't talk about the act, itself, but explained which body parts went where. As soon as I finished, my little 8 year old collapsed on my lap, and cried. After I comforted her, she told me it was so gross, she was going to adopt all her babies. I realized far too late, that a much simpler explanation would have satisfied her question without freaking her out. She didn't ask HOW the sperm got where it was going.
@cmelton (160)
• United States
5 May 08
My little girl learned from an older cousin at 7. I didn't even know the word at 7. I was hoping she did not know the true meaning so I asked her what she thought it was. She said it was too gross to talk about. But she said I know you had to do it cause I'm here. It was a little humorous but I was also a little sad because they learn so much so quick and I feel like I lose my little girl each time.
