A 6:30 a.m. Call ~ A Trip to the Emergency Room with My Son

United States
May 4, 2008 8:34pm CST
My 24-year old son had a problem with his wrist a few days ago. It was red and he was complaining that it hurt. He hit it on something and I told him he may have chipped a bone and he should get it looked at. He told me that I was a worry wart and that he would ice it and take some ibuprofen and he would be fine. Now it is Sunday, my day to sleep-in. I heard the phone ring at 6:25 and it woke me. I lay there and hoped I was dreaming. The phone rang again at 6:30 and I got up to answer it much to the displeasure of my hubby. I don't much like to get phone calls at that hour of the day, they are usually bad news. I didn't reach the phone in time and had to call the number to see who it was. It was my DIL and she said that my son had been up since 2:00 a.m. in terrible pain. I told them I would be over to pick him up as soon as I was dressed. We arrived at the hospital at 8:45. Thankfully the waiting room was empty and he was taken right in. They did an xray and found nothing. The drew blood too. My DIL and I were allowed to sit with him after a few minutes. He had an IV in his arm and they gave him pain medication. It was nearly 10:30 before the doctor actually took a look at his hand. He told us that he would have to lance the hand to relieve the swelling. My son began to panic. His wife had told him that it was probably what they would do. He was relieved that he wouldn't have to spend the night in the hospital. The doctor cleaned the area and numbed his hand. He then made an incision and you could hear the puss gush from his hand. That was gross. My DIL watched the procedure, I sat at the end of the bed doing my crochet. I occasionally rubbed his leg to calm him down and told him to breathe through it. He was getting tweaked over it. The doctor left us for about 30 minutes while he attended other patients. He returned and packed the wound. The nurse started an anti-biotic drip and told us it would be about another hour before it was finished and we could leave. The swelling in his wrist and hand began to go down almost immediately. He has to go back tomorrow and have the packing removed and so the doctor can check the wound. The infection had started to spread up his arm and the doctor drew a line around the red site so they could check it tomorrow. He was put on oral anti-biotics that he has to take 2x a day. He also has some pain meds that he can take too. When my kids were young I would often hear people say that when the kids grew up that you wouldn't have to worry so much and your obligations were less too. I believe that once you have children your job as a mother never ends.
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31 responses
• United States
5 May 08
i am so sorry to hear what happened to your son i hope he has a speedy recovery, it doesnt matter what age your children are we will always worry it is always your obligation. HOW DID HE GET PUSS? I'M JUST CURIOUS.
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• United States
5 May 08
The puss welled up inside of the wound in his wrist. He cut his lower thumb a week ago and then hit his wrist on a nail a couple of days later. The wound festered. Thankfully the pressure was relieved when the doctor drained the puss from his arm.
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• United States
5 May 08
oh my godness he has to be a bit more careful, hope he gets well soon,
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• United States
5 May 08
I hope he adheres to the doctor's orders. He can be very stubborn. He was advised of the seriousness of the infection and how lucky he truly is that it wasn't worse.
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@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
5 May 08
This just proves that children of any age still feel invincible and that mom/dad still don't know what they are talking about.(lol).What caused the infection? I hope the hand is not damaged too much.And of course this proves that a mother's job is not one you can retire from.
• United States
5 May 08
I forgot to mention that he cut his hand on a can when he opened it. A few days later he hit a nail with his wrist. The infection spread from one cut to the other.
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• Canada
5 May 08
Thank you for clearing that up.That explains the infection.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
5 May 08
I hope that it helps your son. I do agree your work never ends. You never stop worrying either.
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• United States
5 May 08
I hope that he rests better tonight. The swelling was down when we left the hospital. It was down even more an hour later.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
5 May 08
I hope your son feels better real soon. That is very painful and it scares you too when you see that red streak running up your arm. I totally agree with you, when we become a mother our job never ends.
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• United States
5 May 08
When my DIl told me about the streaks I was pretty scared. I wish I had convinced him to let me take him on Friday. If so, he may have avoided being in such pain.
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@minnie_98214 (10572)
• United States
5 May 08
Yeah our jobs will never be over I know I still need stuff from my mom and dad and im 29. And ouch I was cringing when I read this discussion that poor guy that all had to be painful.
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• United States
5 May 08
My 29-year old often calls for advise, not directly seeking it out, but beats around the bush. She knows where to come when she needs something too.
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@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
5 May 08
I am glad to hear that your son is doing better. That had to be a horrible experience that he was going through. It sounds like he was in tremendous pain but fortunately you and your family where there to help him through it and that he had a good doctor and nurses to take care of him as well. I would probably panic myself if I had a child and they were in tremendous pain like that.
• United States
5 May 08
You never know how much you can take until you are faced with a dilemma. I reminded my son that he has put me through a lot over the years. I hope that he doesn't have to do the same with his kids.
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• United States
5 May 08
Yikes... sounds like a bit of a scary thing to go through too!!! I'm glad he's ok. I hate to tell you but I don't think "motherhood" ever ends. LOL They like to say you're stuck with them until 18 but I've yet to see a parent (my own mom & dad included) that isn't still always there even in the later years of life! I think that's a good thing for us though. Our kids and therefore family are what keep life worth living isn't it?
• United States
22 Jun 08
You are so right on that point. Our family keeps us going.
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
28 May 08
I have to agree with you and it really hit home when my daughter made the statement that she wasn't sure she could have her baby last year without her mommy........she was 29 years old at the time!! I was sick and didn't want to be around her or the new baby so I decided to stay home as much as I wanted to be there, but she felt that she couldn't have that baby without me there with her. She and I are not particularly close, but it made me feel good that she felt that way about wanting me to be there. I didn't get to see the baby until she was 3 days old and it hurt me that I wasn't able to be there. I have another daughter who calls me when she is sick since her husband doesn't like hospitals and I am usually the one who takes her if she needs to go. Mothering never does end.
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• United States
10 May 08
I am sorry to hear what has happend to your son. I know he was in alot of pain and for you to get the call so early in the morning and be with him at the hospital I'm sure put him at ease knowing he wouldn't have to go through it alone. I'm glad he got looked at and he should gone when you told him to but our kids are funny in that way for they don't like to take us parents advice when we know what's bestfor them. I'm glad to hear the pain is under control and and that when he goes to get it checked again they will tell him it's fine. I know how scary it can be as a mother when your child get's injured like that no matter how old they are. I know I will always be there for my son when an accident accures just like your son's has. It's part of motherhood and all us mother must face at one time or another.
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
7 May 08
Sorry to hear that it all happen on your day to sleep in. Your right a mothers job never ends. Thats good that he is going to be ok. I would of been like you sitting at the end of the bed. In the er they don't care who is around they will just do what they have to. My husband had to have something done similuar to that and they were sticking one of those long q-tips to make sure they got everything out and I don't like the idea of objects entering the skin. Such as needles and things I walked outside b/c I started feeling light headed and passed out lol. I woke up to the nurse shaking me and wondering where in the world I was.
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@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
7 May 08
As mothers, I don't think we ever really get to stop worrying about our kids. When they are little, we worry about them being hit by cars or breaking a leg or being kidnapped. When they are older we worry about whether they will get into a good college or if they will ever get married. When they have their own kids, we worry about whether their spouses are taking good care of them and if they are treating their spouses right. We worry about whether they are raising their own kids right. It goes on and on.
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@MsTickle (25065)
• Australia
7 May 08
I'm very lucky I guess ans besides a few childhood illnesses, both my daughters have always been healthy. I was the same basically. When I hear how sick people are on here it makes me feel so fortunate. Hope your son has come through things ok. It sounded really painful.
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@jdyrj777 (6549)
• United States
6 May 08
I truely agree with you. You never stop worring about your children. My son 33 and daughter 26 i still worry about. As well as their children. But iam not responsable for them even if i still worry.
• United States
6 May 08
I couldn't agree with you more. At 20, my youngest still calls me almost daily even though he is 2,500 miles away. I miss him terribly. I am his sounding board as he is going through a rough spot right now. I do believe that once you are a mom/parent, it is your responsibily to always be there for your children, emotionally and phsyically, whenever possible. I am glad you were there for you son. I hope he's doing better. Prayers and hugs.
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@magikrose (5423)
• United States
5 May 08
At least your son is fine now. I have to agree with you on 1 point tho. No matter how old your kids get you job as mom is not done. My kids are still very young and I know for a fact that I will always be worrying about them when they are out on there own if not worrying about them more at that time becaues I will not be there to help them pick themselves up when they fall.
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@longbangod (1791)
• Philippines
5 May 08
I appreciate youre being concern with your son even at his age. My mother is also the same. She thinks her responsibility to her children doesnt end when we got married. Until now we still feel her love and concern to us. Anyway, I hope your son will get well soon. He should worry much because his very loving mother is there to help, assist and support him. He must be very proud to have you as I am proud to to have my mother too.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
5 May 08
Wow, any idea how he got such an infection? I think you are right, a Mother's job is never done - but our son's are to cleave unto their wive's - still our love, compassion, and concern for them does not diminish.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
5 May 08
Oh dear, how horrible. I would have hated that to be me, what on earth caused that? I have heard people say that too that once the kids grow up you no longer have to worry. But in a lot of cases that I have seen, I would say that you have to worry more about them!!
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@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
5 May 08
Situations like this with your child is always scary no matter how old or young they are. Hope he gets better real soon and can put this all behind him.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
5 May 08
Absolutely your job never ends! My Father banged his elbow at work and had the same result. Huge swollen elbow and they had to do all the same things for him. Luckily both he and your son went before the infection could spread to their hearts. Soomer would have been better than later, but now he knows that. It's not a matter of being a worry wart, it's a matter of experience. I remember being young and almost waiting until it was too late to go to a Doctor. Take care. I hope your son gets better soon.