should your parents decided on whom you marry?
By danoluma
@danoluma (817)
Kenya
11 responses
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
8 May 08
a big no no for me. some people ends up in divorce because of that reason and that their interest don't match and they don't get along well. so they always ends up in fighting with each other or his/her partner would end up cheating
@PhilipGeorge (103)
• India
26 May 08
Only arranged marriages ends in Divorce? The rate of divorce in love marriage is much more than that of arranged marriage? all those celebrities who weds for just weeks are arranged married?. It is funny to know that cheating and fighting happens only in arranged marriage.
Love marriage is not love always it is a matter of physical attraction, once the attraction is over the marriage is also over, you will then find the bad side of your partner(while loving you will not see it at all, remember , love is blind!)
why do you marry if you love? what is the significance of marrying in the presence of children?. I feel it all are a drama. I dont know the meaning of cheating? Attraction towards men and woman is a basic nature, if you feel love/attraction towards one, and you are not interested him/her, then what is the meaning of cheating?
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
27 May 08
lol not all people who ends up divorcing are what we called arranged marriage. if you want to know what's the meaning of cheating then try to search it in wikipedia or other some dictionary sites
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
5 May 08
They are not the ones who is going to live with my husband to be. hehe... I think they will give all the probable outcome of a married life... But I have the final decision on it. However, their approval to whom I marry is important. And their blessing as well.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
5 May 08
This one topic I am ver strong about. I dont think any one should let there parents pick there spouce. I say that it is YOUR life and YOU should get to pick the one you want to marry not your parents. YOU are the one who has to live with that person for the rest of your life not your parents.
Growing up I dated a few guys that my mom wanted me to marry but she always told me the final decission is mine because I am the one who has to live with the guy and deal with him on a daily basis to the ultimate decission was mine.
I am happily married now because I was left to make my own decission. If my mom had made trhe decission for me I feel I wouldent be as happy as I am right now.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
27 May 08
no it should not be up to the parents. I think if you marry you should marry for love not who your parents like .. What kind of relationship do you think you'll get from that? But it is all about culture is it not? Where I live we marry for love and whom we are compatible with and that is what I will instill in my kids. LOL!!!
@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Parent are our guide but they are not the one who choose what our heart want to be love. That is still than in other country. My parent did not do that to me they know that it my right to choose the man I will live. They are here to guide me, support me, give me advice, help me. And I'm so thankful that they are here for me.
@danoluma (817)
• Kenya
28 May 08
What if they guide you in a direction that suggests that your partner is not the best for you, what will you do? will you defy their guidance and follow your own instinct or will you go a head and follow their advice not to marry the person you love so much?
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
5 May 08
parents should not decide whom their children are going to marry. they are not the one who will get married and live with the other person anyway. they should let their children whom they are going to marry. the responsibility of the parents is just to give advice to their children.
in our family, im blessed to have parents who always support me in all the relationships i'd been through. although i always did some mistakes, i never heard them blaming me.
in our family, im blessed to have parents who always support me in all the relationships i'd been through. although i always did some mistakes, i never heard them blaming me.
@metrobelle (398)
• India
8 May 08
This is very common in our country that parents decide whom one should marry. But personally, I don't agree with this because it's me who is going to stay with the person whom I marry, not my parents, first of all. And also, I do disagree with my mother for the choice of clothe she buys for me. So I doubt if I would like the life partner she chooses for me :-)
@curious888 (1212)
• Malaysia
27 May 08
NO ! Parents should not decide your spouse. Yourself should decide. But parents can give advice, because they are more experient than you.
