i am sorry if i don't like gossiping

Indonesia
May 5, 2008 9:30am CST
just feel spechless if my friends do gossiping about anothers especailly in lunch time. from gossiping celebrities to gossiping relatives in office (including our boss) and their personal life. i just don't have any idea to response this kind thing so it bring me just be silence often. what the interesting to speak about another weakness while we are also not perfect enough?what the benefit to talk about bad things behind another while doing nice things infront of them? i just give response euhm, yeah, ok, o really, and smile. by giving this kind response,, they usually just stop gosipping with me cause they think that i am not fun person. perhaps they think that i am not able to socialize with them but i don't take it seriously cause i know there lots think which need to talk and think seriously than this matter. so do you think i am kind unsocialize person? do you think i am weird person for this matter?
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
6 May 08
Dear, do not you know that criticising others is the favourite past time of many persons. They just love to do gossiping about others, because in heart of their hearts they want to prove that they are superior and wiser than others. They would prove by telling all sort of gossipping that 'how silly is unwise is other fellow'. I feel criticising others is 'negative appreciation' and those who make it a habit, does not do any good to themselves. However, one cannot escape from it. Sometimes, I too become victum of this habbit and start gossiping about others........LOL! (while in office). I have observed that women enjoy gossiping about others than men folk....LOL! (please do not take my statement otherwise). How are you? Have a great day! Deepak
• Indonesia
6 May 08
your point of view is correct dear. by talking about others weakness, they can show another that they have something which others not. and about women who enjoy gossiping, i think its naturally cause its one of their way to release any presure in themselves, but still its better by not gossiping another
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
6 May 08
Those who are in the habit of gossipping wont' give it up easily.....LOL!....you know old habits die hard..........LOL!
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
5 May 08
Oh no! You are the kind of person I would want as a friend. What some of these people don't realize when they are listening to all that gossiping and joining in is that as soon as their back is turned the same people will gossip about them, lol. I don't like gossip either. I will admit though that I have been sucked in by it before. I feel much better if I just pay it no attention and go on my merry way.
• Indonesia
6 May 08
thats sweet of you, dear friend and i would like to have friend as like you too. i think lots of things that can be topic discussion in gathering with our friends, as like fashion, food, good place to hang out and lots more. what do you think?
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
6 May 08
I agree completely.
@julyteen (13257)
• Davao, Philippines
10 May 08
gossiping is not good, it can create dispute or trouble and also can destruct/destroy good relationship to a family, friends or neighbor. i am not participating any gossip at home or in school. we have no rights to correct others mistakes even we also make mistakes. we must correct first our mistake before others.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
5 May 08
You are not weird and there is absolutely wrong about what you have done! Like you, I also end up saying, hmmm, ok, really? and a smile but they can't get any word from it to add about the gossip. It is not healthy in any workers relationship plus you also can't trust people, we don't know that it will be pass on to others and a lot of edition will be done! So, keep it up and maybe by that, you are also giving them an idea that they have to mind their own business and start evaluating themselves rather than criticizing other people!
• United States
5 May 08
correction for myself! There is absolutely nothing wrong.......Thanks!
5 May 08
No you arent funny Plum,im much the same as you,im not into gossiping.Where I once worked all of the girls gave up on me I think because they thought I just never said anything.It wasnt that im not into chatting,but im just so not into gossip,and if you have nothing good to say about anytone then why saty it at all?I can really see anything in ripping people apart,which in the main is what the gossipers do,they uswed to ask me my opinion and try to rope me into saying what I thought about it,but I just used to avoid it and walk away.where is the pleaure in just being horrible.If they dont want to socialie with you thats there problem,not yours and thats up to them.But I admire you for not gossiping.
• Indonesia
5 May 08
so you are just face the same condition as like me then dear friend. and i also think that be silence being a good way too in this matter although our friend will feel little bit uncomfortable to have chit chat with us and this is life, although we don't do any gossiping, we can be the topic of gossip
@Elixiress (3887)
23 May 08
I don't think that you are weird for not wanting to join in with gossip, but I do think that you could be more social, maybe change the conversation away from gossip or to a line of gossip that you are more happy with, maybe the lives of soap characters.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
16 May 08
I don't like gossip either, and I admire you for sticking to your own standards. Maybe they gossip because they have nothing better or more substantial to talk about. I don't think you're anti-social at all, even if it may appear that way to the gossips. I actually think it's they who are anti-social, because I don't think gossiping is a sociable thing to do.
• United States
15 May 08
You are not weird. I hate gossip too. If we actually sit and listen to that stuff, we are just as wrong as they are for not stopping it. I ususally tell people that I know that I don't want to hear it because you are gossiping and we shouldn't do that. Or, I would say come on now, that is not nice, just to try to break up the conversation.
@julyteen (13257)
• Davao, Philippines
10 May 08
i admire you, you are a nice person i know here. gossiping is not good. i don't also participate in any gossiping session in our school. by doing gossip or participating the discussions it will create misconception and turn into trouble. we are not perfect, we have also shortcomings, before we correct other we must correct first ourselves.
• Indonesia
7 May 08
Well, personally I don’t have the interest to gossip either. They can do it towards the others in front of us, and they might just do the same towards us on our back. So, usually I would also give similar responses like you always did. Some people would just find me as solitary person, but when I met those who loved gadget, news, or any common topics (and not the celebrity things or gossip ones), I would respond more and we would even have a long talk during all the hours. I think talking about the latest technology updates or latest news events would be better than gossiping about people or celebrities. So, you are not alone, and you are not a weird person. Don’t worry about that. :)
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
6 May 08
no I dont think that . Its just not right to talk behind someones back and then be nice to face and I would join in either they need to find something else to talk about!
@ellie333 (21018)
6 May 08
I feel the same way as you and I will not participate in any conversation at work that is being not nice about another person. If I can't say something good about someone I choose not to say anything at all. I get on with everyone at work and will have a laugh about general things and by doing this I have never been a target of their gossip. I have also said whilst they are being nasty about someone else 'I hope to don't to about me like that behind my back I would want you to be upfront and tell me to my face' so I have their respect also which I feel is what you probably have. They will only trip themselves up by gossiping, their is no mileage in it at all. A lot of the time they gossip about others to hide their own insecurites about things. Ellie :D
@subha12 (18452)
• India
6 May 08
i am something like you. i do not like gossiping. i hate ity. its regarding whoever may be. i think its just waste of time. we can idulge in something productive instaed.its my question also, what is the point of benefit in discussing bad about people.
@gy850710 (90)
• China
6 May 08
i dont think you are a unsocialize person.i have the same charecter of not gossiping anothers.ostensibly,it seems we are not humorous,but we humans are different from each other.to be honest,i prefer those who are speaking little.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
6 May 08
i don't like to gossip as well and i usually just keep quiet when people start to gossip about other people... i don't even response or anything... same like you, i just smile or keep quiet... that makes me being isolated sometimes and i usually the last person in my workplace to know about the latest news because i don't mix with people who gossip... take care and have a nice day...
@riveream (111)
• Philippines
6 May 08
You are not a weird person. Actually, I am also like you. I also do not like to gossip. Actually, it is my friends who are more interested in gossip than I am. It is not just fair to gossip other people's lives when we, ourselves, are not that perfect. Besides, what can it help us. Gossip other people's lives is just a waste of time. Dissecting their private life in public! What is the purpose? It is just not that good bad-mouthing other people. I much prefer to read pocketbooks than to gossip. I cannot learn anything from gossips.
@cream97 (29164)
• United States
6 May 08
No. I don't like gossiping either.... You are not weird for feeling this way... In school, I distanced myself from drama as this, myself. There are so much better things to do in life, than sit and just gossip. These people obviously have no life of their own. They feel as if they can make themselves feel better by bringing someone else down... What they are doing is hurting themselves, plus they are bringing bad karma as well...
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
6 May 08
i don't like gossiping. it serves the purpose of hurting the other person. its better to be quiet. i don't think people realize when they gossip they're committing murder. this may sound crazy to you. i feel that a person who is being talked about the reputation is being scarred for life. he feel that he can't trust anyone to tell anything. he or she feels that it will be in the streets. he will be the subject of redicule, feeling like an outkast. if we talk about somebody it should be in a positive manner otherwise keep silent. words have power. they can either uplift or bring u down.
• Philippines
6 May 08
Nope...i bet its just a natural feeling..even me hate someone gossipin somebody's life~` why care they don't know the really WHO we are ... i wonder why not they just speak to us personally what has in its mind and confront the issue so that we can talk about it and understand why does it is so....## JUST BE YOURSELF...dont mind their gossip they don't own ou life..## @jam@ ~enjoy life~be contented***
@Hatley (164229)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 08
No I do not think you are unsociable just because you do not like gossiping. a lot of people do not like it myself included. I hate to listen to people tearing someone down or belittlingsomeone and will oftenjust walk away if they cannot talk about something else. Why tattle and spread crap about people? I would not like to know others talk about me behind my bank and I do not do so behind others backs either. I live by the golden rule do unto others as you would have them do unto you.