Is Marrying Important now a Days?

United Arab Emirates
November 1, 2006 1:32pm CST
Is marrying important now a days? for me it is how about you? And whats the age you suggest to get married?
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@ladysun (635)
• United States
3 Nov 06
My husband and I value our marriage as the most important thing in our world. As parents to 7 children, we have told our's not to even contemplate getting serious or looking at permanancy until mid-30's. Our reasons for suggesting that wait...first, if you look at the high divorce rate's in the world...they do drop substantially for older couples over those who marry young. For most people your 30+ before you really come into your own and have an idea of who you really are, what matters to you in this life, and how you will choose to live your life. Couples who get together well before that maturity level are still changing and growing a great deal...and even if things are idealistic when you and your SO get together...since your both still continuing to evolve, there is no guarantee that you will both grow in the same direction....If your a bit older and more settled, the growth/change rate is not nearly so pronounced and there's a higher likelihood that the two of you will continue to have more commonalities
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• United States
3 Nov 06
I agree! My fiancee and I have been together for 2 years. We are planning on getting married this winter. I was previously married. I am 49, and wish I knew what I know today, many years ago. As far as the main question goes, I would say the best time to marry is when you really find the right one. Like you, I would think that wouldn't happen until the people are well into their 30s.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Wow for those who are planning to get married or in early stages of married life I suggest you follow their advice its to good to know that there are people giving advices for us tobe ready to face a new life in marriage :) thanks for sharing and the response
@anushri (961)
• India
3 Nov 06
yes it is important to get married and the age to get married is 26
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
hmm not bad at all lols :) anyways thanks for the reply :)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I totally think that it depends on the people, I know plenty of people that have been with eachother for a number of years and plan on staying that way without marriage. I know that me personally enjoy being married. I would not have it any other way.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Wed luck - A wed luck banner on my wedding :)
Yes your right, but same as you I also enjoy being married the thrills of day to day hapennings right:) anyways tahnks for the reply
@micheller (1365)
• United States
3 Nov 06
yes i think marriage is important only if you really love the person. and i think the age you should get married at the least is 25.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
wedding, love , deciration - This was taken during my wedding it was simple but everybody enjoyed my wedding, its a traditional one wedding so as you can see its little bit different in setting but I know people enjoy and I am happy in it :)
hmm 25 well not bad at all I think in that age you are little bit natured to make the decision but in real there is no right age to get married but it depends if you are ready and love each other.
• Philippines
3 Nov 06
Yes, it is. However, you have to be sure that you want to be with the person you are marrying for a lifetime. That you can accept his weaknesses. That you want to be with him/her thru thick and thin. That you love the person. Otherwise, your marriage will fail.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
I totally agree with you, you should fully accept first ones weakness and try to adjust to a new life and think for a thousand times before you commit to one another and understanding each other is the best way to keep the marriage intact. Thanks for the nice response.
• Indonesia
3 Nov 06
no. because we should can live alone without husband or wife. we can always get friend. 1 friend is better than 1 husband or wife.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
whoaaa are you serious in telling that:) haha well its your opinion and I respect it, but for all we know God created man and a woman right :) so it only means we need one another to live and besides no mans is an island right :) anyways thanks for the reply:)
@Flaine (404)
• France
3 Nov 06
i think it's important but less than is the past : times are changing ...
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Yeah you got a point on that, I also admit that there in coming of times importance is getting less and less but it depends on people who really think that they should marry and their tradition so its up tp them. thanks for the response
@saumya69 (382)
• India
3 Nov 06
otherwise we were not be there..... right
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
yha right hehe!!! so marrying is still important i guess :)
• India
3 Nov 06
YES MAy BE...BCz this season is best for.............u know very well
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
haha is theres a season for getting married :) lols but anyways thank for your reply :)
@shonali (1286)
• India
3 Nov 06
well according to me career is more important than getting married but for all indian women.... its very important for indians to get married early.... or there would be rumours and talks abt u in the society....which the parents wouldnt want happenning so they get their children married at a very ripe age....for me...though i am one of the indian gals... my parents are cool and never wud force me to get married if i dint wanna get married so i think more than getting married to a rich guy and sttling dwn the ur priority should be to make a good name for ur self!!!!!!!
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Yes I know what you are telling, coz I have been working with alot of indians and most of them are my friends actulaay I have accepted that that is your tradition to get married girls at a young age I have triedto argued them also before but I lost lol :) most of indian ladies have no choice but to follow their parents decision regarding who want them for you to get married I hate to say but there is no freedom to choose for yourself and love on it well thats their customs and I just try to respect that :) anyways thanks for the reply
• India
3 Nov 06
i think marriage is still improtant as it brings joy to the couples life. it also help them to grow in their life.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
yes definitely correct as ive said you cant call a family with out being married first,thanks for the response
@macubx (11421)
• Philippines
2 Nov 06
yes coz i dont want to grow up alone.. 30 if you want to enjoy your single year.. 25 if your a virgin..
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
hahaha well go and find one in the field lols :) anyways thanks for replying
@cmcc33 (72)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I'm on my second marriage. We've lasted for 7 years and it looks like we're pretty strong. Ok here's the advice I wish I'd known before I married at 19! Know yourself before you commit #1. #2 Commit and don't give up---the first year is the worst in marriage!! Why?? Because you are both trying to set up your roles in the marriage. What causes the most conflict is when your spouse doesn't act the way you think they should. When mom doesn't do the cleaning like usual. When dad doesn't take out the trash because he has for 13 years....whatever. Sometimes it gets more complicated ........I'll tell you what the first year when reality conflicts with your idealism you realize what marriage is all about. For example, you envisioned that handsome hubby to always be so kind and listen. However, you never thought the kind man would leave his socks on the floor, steal your side of the blankets, snore, pick his nose or whatever. Take a year for yourselves if you plan on having kids and then have them because that adds a whole new dynamic! My first marriage failed because I wasn't really ready. The second was rough to start because of my then 3 year old son and the struggle to define our roles in that first year. After that things were much better. We have three of our own and we all enjoy our family. Life is full of ups and downs and to be able to ride it out with my family gets me through.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
wow this was the best advice for marrying :) Its good that you shared your experiences so for those who are planning to married event though how difficult it could be in the start try to figure out and adjust to the situation, but oneformost is before you commit to marriage ask yourself if you are ready for a lifetime commitment and aready to face new chalenges in life, its a whole new world in marriage so I guess try to thik not a hundred times but a thousand times before commiting your self to it but surely its fun when you succeed :) thanks for the wonderful response.
@alamzaib (1287)
• Pakistan
2 Nov 06
i think it is very important.man should marry within the age of 25 to 32.and woman should marry within tha age of 18 to 27.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Thanks for agreeing with most of us, but I think theres no right age in marrying its up to both to decide when to marry each other right its along process involve. thanks for the reply
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
2 Nov 06
rings - wedding and engagement rings
No I don't think it is anymore, I think it would be better for people to sign a pre-living together of what each own prior to moving in together... Like an ownership contract so it is easiet to claim if things don't work out...when the kids come along things are a bit different, maybe again a contract of some sort...
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
Woooooo a contract lols !!!!! getting married is not like a contract that expires lols :) when you get married you think it over a thousand times before going into it but most of us depend on the divorce which is allowed in other nations when it not worked out and they got an option ending the relationship which is bad now adays. anyways thanks for the wonderful reply :) Contract hmmm why i dont think of that lols :)
@suzieque (2336)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
No, marriage is not important now a days as it was in the earlier days. There are a lot of single people that are happy with their lives!
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
ok I respect your opinion but isnt there is a saying that no mans is an island :) but for sure you do also want to get married right :) any ways thanks for the response
@Riah50 (672)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I dont think its important. Some people feel like they have to be married to be complete..but you dont. Its a personal decision. There is no right age to be married either. Just whenever it happens. I wouldnt say get married young because it seems that most of those marriages dont work out. Give it some time and make sure its what you both want first.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 06
hmm ok then your right theres no right age tobe married but if the right man for you comes then and you him so much would you not marry him even you know you are made both tobe together for eternity :) Let me us you wouldnt you want to get married also :) any ways thanks for the reply
@RieRie (820)
2 Nov 06
I don't think it's important for everyone, but I would like to get married before I'm 30.
• United Arab Emirates
2 Nov 06
haha well it seems its still important for you right :) lols anyways thanks for the response I know every womans fream is to get married so its still important then :)
2 Nov 06
No I hardly know of anyone getting married these days, but i remember when i was a kid, the amount of weddings that i attend with my family. People seem to get engaged and that is how they stay I think it has something to how much its cost getting married, the price just seems to be double than what it was when i was a kid.
• United Arab Emirates
2 Nov 06
well its not the price of the wedding that matter for me what matters is you love each other and the people are happy to see you exchanging vows to each other, I have celebrated my wedding to the minimum because thats the only I can give but people are happy then coz we entertain them to the most of we can :) anyways thanks for the reply I respect you comment on this :)
@astone83 (129)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Yes marriage is important. I don't believe s*x before marriage is right so according to my beliefs we would all be virgins without marriage. I don't think there is a certain age that is right. I was 21 and my husband was 20 when we got married. That was a good time for us, but I think it depends on the person
• United Arab Emirates
2 Nov 06
Yha your right there there is no certain age for marriage but there is legal age age to marry some one 18 for girls and 21 for boys but it doesnt mean you have to follow that but thats only allowed by the state and church, anyways thanks for the reply.