Do you find it easy to forgive?

United States
May 5, 2008 2:01pm CST
Are you able to forgive others easily after they've apologized for their wrong doing, or do you hold a grudge against them? Do you pretend nothing has happened the next time you see that person? Do you forgive if you still feel hurt, even though they have apologized?
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@rockvixen (894)
• United States
5 May 08
No, I am not one to forgive to fast. If I do, then yes, I find myself still hurt. There are things that I am still feeling hurt for, things which I wish I had never forgiven that person for. But I never forget, especially if it was something done on purpose. Like my husband, long ago he used to call me names, now he's nicer and loving and everything, but he apologized and to this day I STILL feel hurt over it. I had to forgive because he's my husband, but I will never forget.
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• United States
5 May 08
I am having the same problem in my marriage. We are beginning to work on things, but I find I am carrying baggage from previous fights and find it hard to forgive over little things now. Perhaps we need to seek councelling to find closure for our old wounds?
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
10 May 08
this would be the problem of many people in the world to forget and forgive. some people easy forget but they can't forgive. this is because of their ego that influence their mind. if a person who made a great mistake to me ask heartily my forgiveness. of course, i will. i am kind and easy to deal person.
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@sameroad (3179)
• United States
5 May 08
It depends on what they did and if I believe them or not. but usually I guess i can forgive easily but it really depends on what is it.. I have held some grudges in the past but eventually it'll be forgotten or forgiven.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
5 May 08
I tend to easily forgive people. However the forgetting depends upon the transgression. I mean if someone said something that they truly regret then that is easy enough to overlook and there are dozens of other things that may require apology that are just as easy. However, if someone stole from me or physically injured me or my family in anger then I tend to hold on to that memory and tred more lightly in the future. Trust is a fragile thing and not easily reobtained when severely broken.
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