Having Problems In A Relationship. Anyone want to help?

United States
May 6, 2008 8:59am CST
I'm having some problems in my relationship and I'm wondering if I can get some views. It's a lot so I don't want to type it here but if your interested in helping, add me or tell me to add you and we'll talk in private messege. Thanks.
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@DJfrOKI (251)
• United States
6 May 08
Relationships can be very difficult at times. My wife and I have a great relationship because we leave the anger out of it. We always talk, not fight, about a problem that comes up. That's any problem. Communication is key and of course trust and honesty.
• United States
6 May 08
That's the main problem I'm having. We can't seem to talk. He never listens to me or my side on anything. It always has to be his way and if I don't agree, he's quick to just say he doesn't know what's going to happen between us as if he's just going to leave me.
@DJfrOKI (251)
• United States
6 May 08
Well, I can tell you this. You need to tell him that you want to sit down and talk to him calmly about this latest situation and the future. Tell him that you're not looking for a fight but a mature discussion on your relationship. If he doesn't give you anything positive back, again, state that you just want to talk and his attitude isn't appreciated. It shows a lack of respect from his side. Tell him that you want him to hear you out then you will hear him out. I can go on and on about this but take these steps first.
• United States
6 May 08
I'm at the second part then because I did sit him down to talk about it but as always my words mean nothing because he only thinks of himself in important decisions. He just talks over me or tries to make it sound like something is wrong with me or I'm too attach to my family since he thinks I do whatever they say which is not true. Yes I'm close to them and hear their words just like he does his but he doesn't like my family and feels they are nothing or his family is better. He's given me a choice, go with him or we're over. He didn't say "we're over" but hes implying it because he always says, If I don't go, well he doesn't know what's going to happen between us. He never said we can have a long distance relationship or we'll work it out. He just keeps saying he doesn't know what's going to happen with us.
• United States
6 May 08
Have you two been together long? Is it possible that he actually does want out of the relationship and is maybe using your closeness with your family as an excuse. It's hard for men to just come out honestly about their feelings. Relationships are a two-way street. He should have enough respect for you to listen to your concerns like you listen to his. I tell you, relationships are hard sometimes.
• United States
6 May 08
I just sent you the messege in Pm. In a few more weeks it will be a year we have been together but because of his school and job I only get to see him on the weekends, if that so it feels like we have been together less. I always think about how my decisions will affect him but he doesn't do the same for me. I'f I planned on moving into another home, I'll think of moving closer to him or his job so that he doesn't have to drive hours to see me but I feel he wouldn't do the same for me as of lately. It just seems to be getting worse.
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• United States
6 May 08
There is something definitely going on Exodus and it may be something you don't want to hear. It could be that he has interests with someone else. It's dangerous for couples not to spend quality time with one another because it makes it easier for someone else to come in. I of course, do not know if it's true, just saying maybe because I was just in this situation and there was someone else spending time with him but that story is so long. Do you still love him?
• United States
6 May 08
Thank you. You know the most about my situation and it has helped me a lot to clear my mind and see what I didn't want to see. Talkingto everyone here has made it easier for me to deal with this and it will help me when I come to my decision. I have a few more things I need to say to him and his answers will let me know if we can continue or it's best we let go. Thank you very much.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
12 May 09
Relationships and problems seem to be hand in hand. But I believe nothing cannot be solved however hard the situation is. If it's 3rd party issue, I suggest you leave your partner if really situation is at hand. But if it's worth the love, then fight for your love. All the way. If it feels good to be with that person, means the person is worth it. Really.
• United States
14 May 09
Thanks for your response. As you can see though this was a year ago. Lol. Everythings been done and moved on and forgotten about but thank you for your input.
• Estonia
6 May 08
Lets talk about it, if you do not mind.
• United States
6 May 08
Thanks. My computer is being funny again. Sorry I tooke so long to respond.
@donzik (25)
• Nigeria
11 Jan 10
Well to get started you to itemise what the problems are.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
7 May 08
i think i can help you a bit. you are free to add me. also pm me if you want. i hope it will help you.
• United States
6 May 08
I would love to help out if I can. I have had problems in my relationship so I feel your pain. I'm here for you.