Your child is going to die...

Thanks JJ and continue posting an interesting and a real life story!

You're more than welcome as this BR was well deserved by you, of course! I'll continue thinking of such hypothetical situations as they come to me to post as discussions. I find them the most interesting, don't you? They're quite enjoyable, and I absolutely love reading the responses because they're priceless. You never really know how you're going to react in any given situation until it actually happens, but it's sure a good thing to be prepared should a difficult circumstance come along in the future! Thanks for your comment as well as your "short and sweet" response that I completely agree with. Keep up the good work!

I couldn't have said it better myself! I really like how you say "we" implying that you and your significant other have already decided on the issue! You have a postive attitude, which I love. After all, doctors have been wrong before so perhaps your child will still live! If I were the one to choose the destiny of your child, I'd choose life as well. Thanks for the best response to this discussion. It's (obviously) just what I was looking for because that's the choice I've already made when I have children. Congrats and take care, my friend!

lovespecialangel it is to late to terminate the pregnancy.Therefore you have no choice but to have the baby.

I agree, DFollin. Thanks.

Excellent response! You seem to be a very kind and tender hearted person. How selfless of you to spend your short three weeks getting to know this child that you'll have to give up in only a short time. I love your answer because, as hard as it would be, I'd do the same exact thing. I'd take pictures and videos like crazy, trying to figure out in three short weeks what kind of personality my baby might have. I wouldn't give up hope either. Life is a valuable thing. Perhaps the baby would still live based on your reaction to the situation. I know I'm the one who made up the scenario (LOL), but I think your response would deserve a long life for the baby! He or she would have an excellent parent in you, and that's for sure. I love how you give the child a chance to live rather than giving up hope. You are a very positive person! Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful response.

You're right about that. A mother gets so attached to the child after carrying it for however many months until birth, some more and some less. I agree with you that just because a woman births a healthy baby doesn't mean her child won't have problems later on. Thanks for your response!

I do not want this to happen to anyone in the first place and I am always hopeful. My life has been full of shattered hopes and dreams but that didn't curb my spirit. Living the hurdles is but life!

Optimistic people are so easy to be around. I believe that if fate happened upon your situation (if this were a real experience you were having), then it would allow your baby to live for the fact that you were hopeful the entire time while going through such hard circumstances. That's the way I would solve the problem if I had any way to change fate for you. There's also the fact of doctors being wrong sometimes more often than not. I really appreciate your optimism because it's contagious! That's exactly what such circumstances would need. A positive attitude really goes a long way!

Having gotten to know you quite well, I know you're such a giving person and would never wish such a situation on anyone. I absolutely love what you said, "My life has been full of shattered hopes and dreams but that didn't curb my spirit. Living the hurdles is but life!" I couldn't have said it better myself. No one deserves to go through these hard times, but that's a part of life. Our character, I believe, is built upon our own life experiences and how we handle them. I thought up this hypothetical situation, which would also be considered a character-building experience if it actually were to happen to someone. I think you would make a wonderful parent for this child!

aw. don't flatter me that much. i also get pessimistic too at times. but in this case, i want to be positive because being a mother is the essence of a woman. i want to have a baby in the future, i want to experience being a mother so i'm putting all my hopes there.

I know you'll make a great mother because of the time you've invested in your response to this discussion and your sincere yet obvious desire to raise a child as your very own. There's nothing like being a mother! It's the most exciting and scary position to be in, in my opinion. It's really just because each child doesn't come with that instruction manual. (LOL) I wish you all the best and appreciate your response and comment!

I love your positive and hopeful response. I believe that's the key ingredient in seeing your beautiful baby live on past those three weeks! If I were the one who could choose the destiny for your child, I would allow your baby to live past those trying three weeks. You seem to be a very positive person even in such a hard circumstance. Our experiences do mold us to who we are, so I'm sure you've had times in your life when you didn't know what to do. I'm really glad you were able to look at this situation from a positive perspective. You're right about doctors sometimes being wrong too. If my child's life were supposedly at risk, I'd probably get 5 or 10 "second" opinions! (LOL) Thanks for your response. It had a really nice affect on this discussion!

Great answer. I wouldn't have even thought about the second and third opinions, but that's definitely a smart thing to do. Your response is very realistic, and I love that about it. You also brought up the subject of adoption. That proves to me that you're the kind of person who's one step ahead and looks on into the future to consider how your choices here and now will affect things later on. I couldn't have said it better myself! Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for your geniune concern. No, this is not a real situation that I know of; however, I was inspired to begin this discussion through a true story I heard of a few months ago. I'm not sure how long ago this took place, but a young and newly married couple had their first little baby girl. She was beautiful, but had several birth defects, which I'm sure the couple knew before giving birth. These birth defects gave the baby extremely poor health. Her parents knew she wasn't going to make it very long after birth, but they raised her anyway. I believe the husband took off work for a few weeks to care for the newborn with his wife. They loved that baby so much and gave her the best life she could've ever had. The baby lived for 20-some days...not even a month. The parents had plenty of pictures and video footage. They even posted their story on the Internet. That's how I found out about it. So sad...but they made the right choice, in my opinion.

PS I hope this is just a hypothetical question and not a real situation. That would be heartbreaking...

I do not think being sad over it and moping around will help in any way. I used to be like that earlier. If I knew someone I loved was going away in two months, I would start being upset right away. Then one of my very good friends told me that instead of enjoying the two months I had with them, I'd just be wasting all that time being sad for something that was yet to come. And as far as the baby goes, doctors are not Gods and sometimes miracles happen and I believe in them. I would believe there was still hope for my baby till the time comes for him/her to go. I will feel sad for a while. But I will also be glad that God did give me the chance to have this wonderful baby for atleast the short time...and it's so much better than not having one at all. I also feel that I will be able to appreciate every moment of the baby because I know that I have such a short period of time with the baby.

You're so right. Moping around and being sad never did anything for anyone. It doesn't accomplish a thing. It's just the same as if you were to complain about something, it wouldn't change anything. I really like your response, and that's exactly how I would respond as well. I would be thankful for the child God gave me. He obviously had a plan in giving the baby in the first place...maybe it would be to perform an impossible miracle, like you said. I believe God would do that for a willing and kind heart. He would see fit to allow your baby to live...and would give you blessings of raising the child because you would be a good parent with a positive attitude.

Your picture albums will be full with pictures your baby! That's a wonderful thing to do because memories are priceless and really cannot be erased from our minds. I believe your baby would be very lucky to have you as a parent. You're right that abortion wouldn't even be considered an option, especially at this point and time in the pregnancy. I know I did mention there were choices to be made, but really I just meant that as the mother of a child you know is going to die in three weeks' time, you just have general choices to make regarding how you will cope. You answered those unlisted questions quite nicely. I don't think you left any issue unanswered in this discussion, if that's what you were asking. The only choices you have regarding the situation are the choices you make for yourself...in how you would react to the whole situation. I think your decisions are wonderful, and I would make the same ones! Excellent response. Thanks for your honest insight.

If you were to be the mother of such a child, the difficult task would be to decide what to do. You would have to decide how to carry on your life afterwards. Would you attempt to raise and love the child when you know he or she will only life three weeks? How would you carry on afterwards? You would have approximately a month to figure out what you would want for the child's life. Thanks so much for asking. I apologize for any confusion and surely hope that clears things up for you. I'm looking forward to reading your response.

this is the most devastating thing to happen to any woman and I am happy it never happened to me. You can't predict how you will react until you are in the situation, I know woman than never ever got over losing a child and others that accepted it after awhile. I would love the child like any other, and hope that maybe God willing a miracle would happen and the child would not die. My feelings afterward as I said, I cannot predict.

I really like your outlook. Wonderful response! You're right...doctors have been wrong before, just like weather broadcasters. (LOL) We're only human and can all make mistakes. I'm sure if this condition had been around for a little while, they would've been working on a cure immediately. One of the only conditions that doesn't have a cure right now is cancer. It's quite rare doctors don't know a thing about a certain condition. I'm sure I don't know the least of what doctors go through and how much they go through finding cures for everything, but your positive outlook, I believe, would definitely deserve the life of your child. Thanks for your wonderful response!

Thankfully, doctors are wrong quite often. In cases where there's bad news involved, a doctor being wrong could definitely mean good things! You're right that the choice should be easy in this case. Life is such a precious thing, and something that shouldn't be taken for granted. I really like how your response reflected your concern about the baby as well. It's very kind and unselfish of you as well. Great response, and one that I agree with completely.