why do parents spoin their children

Its ok to want your child to have everything thats possible however its only ok if it comes along with a talk on money and the cost, like often I will tell my children no until we have saved the money but I still buy them things they want when I can. To me spoiling a child is always saying yes no matter what giving them it or allowing them to do as they please, that is spoiling a child and will not create a very nice adult all children need to learn the word no and realise they have to work for things but that doesnt make it wrong to want your child to have everything you did as long as they know what it takes for them to have it.

My parents never spoiled my sister and I, but as we were financially stable, we also never went without the necessities - but we knew there was a line, and it never got crossed. We never asked for ridiculous things to be bought for us, and never had a lot of toys, junk food or expensive outings. The way we were brought up gave us the appreciation for the value of money and value of working for things that so many kids these days don't seem to have. They see something on TV or on someone else, and they scream for it until their parents give in, even if they can't afford it. And parents do think that this will make their children love and appreciate them, and so often it doesn't - and it certainly doesn't earn their respect. It's quite sad =(

My daughter has every thing I want her to have. At 17 months she really can't ask for things yet, so the way I look at it she has everything I or her dad (my husband) want her to have. To look at her room or play room you would say she is spoiled as a child can get. But the reality is she is a deserving child. She is extreamly well behaived for her age. I can take her ANY where with me and know that I am not going to be embarrassed. When she gets older and starts asking for things we will limit what she gets. I won't mind giving her the world as long as she respects me and understands the value of a dollar. If you know how to parent you can have it all. Your child can have every thing they want and you can too. I am not nor will I ever be afraid to tell my daughter no. My two step kids are 11 and 7 they know that when we say NO we mean no. There is NO argument about it. No means no. They have a lot too. They get almost every thing they ask for. Some times they have to work for it (washing the car, doing extra chores) some times they just get it. It all depends on how they ask. If one of my kids threw a tantrum because I told them no - they wouldn't need to bother asking for any thing else for a LONG time. They know that, they understand that. So as long as your child is respectful, listens to what you have to say, does well in school, and knows where money actually comes from (not trees) then why not spoil them??