Restraining Orders and Peace Bonds

Here in PA they are called protection from abuse (PFA's) and restraining orders but are both exactly as you described. I had a PFA filed against me when "some guy I used to know" )but for the purpose of this discussion and since I love the word, I will call him nukfuts for the duration of my comment)wanted to get custody of my 18 day old baby. I threw him out and he ran to the county court house saying I assaulted him and shook my baby because he wouldn't stop crying. The courts gave nukfuts custody of my son for 10 days until the hearing was set to hear the case. I was found not guilty of assaulting nukfuts and not guilty of any child abuse and no PFA was entered against me but the judge wouldn't make nukfuts give my son back to me because "a father has just as much right to raise a child as a mother does and I could file for custody if I wanted my son back." That just wasn't going to happen so I devised a rather inventive way to get my son back and 2 days after the hearing my baby was back in my arms. On the flip side, when I threw nukfuts out again (yeah I don't need the "are you really that stupid lecture") the end of December of 2006 I really thought we were going to be able to be amicable in regards to my kids. I let him come up a month later and stay in my house with the kids while I spent the weekend with my boyfriend. I got a call around 11 that Saturday night that my avatar couldn't breath and wouldn't stop crying, so I rushed home. When I got home she was fine but I decided to stay at my house that night just in case there really was something wrong with her. My boyfriend left and I ran to the bathroom to pee since I was bloated, had cramps, and my eyeballs were floating. No sooner did I drop my pants did nukfuts come barreling into the bathroom screaming at me calling me all sorts of nasty names that I couldn't even begin to type here thanks to the language filter. He slapped me across my face while I was still going to the bathroom then cornered me in the bathroom while he continued to scream at me. We fought the whole way through the dining room into the living room and he was standing in front of the door so I couldn't get out and proceeded to continue to kick my @$$ right in front of my avatar who was in her swing through the whole thing. To make a long long story short he ended up throwing me out of the house with no jacket on at the end of January after midnight in the snow. I walked/limped the 6 blocks to the police station only to find that there weren't any cops there when I arrived. They were at my house because a call came in from 911 that the "female of the residence was drunk and high and had come home and assaulted the man who was there for his visitation." So I had to walk/limp my way the whole way back up to my house. When I got there 3 cops were standing outside waiting for me and one of them asked me what had happened but while I was telling him another came out of the house and said I was lying and probably drunk and they wanted to arrest me. I glared at him and told him to give me a blood test and breathalizer right there on the spot and the only damn thing they were going to find would be midol! I made the sergeant call the officer who was on duty the night I had thrown nukfuts out in December and after he showed up everyones tune changed. The cops escorted nukfuts to the local Salvation Army because he claimed he had no money and no place to stay. Not 30 minutes later nukfuts was back on my front porch trying to get into the house. The cop who initially thought I was drunk and lying arrested him on the spot and the "assault" charges that no one was going to press turned into assault, harassment, trespassing, disorderly conduct, and disturbing the peace charges. I got a 1 year PFA against nukfuts 3 weeks later (which could have been entered up to 2 years but I didn't think he was going to be a problem after my boyfriend threatened to rip his f'in head off right in front of the cops who "didn't hear a thing") and I patiently awaited his criminal trial. He agreed to a plea deal that he would plead guilty on the assault as long as the other charges were dropped (he has a criminal record in another state for assaulting me previously)but then the genius didn't show up for his sentencing hearing. There is now a warrant out for his arrest in PA and the plea deal is off of the table. If PA ever catches him I hope he is ready to do some significant jail time and pay one healthy fine.

havent ever hd one placed on me.. but did have one taken out on another. ex of mine didnt take too kindly to being kicked to the curb.. and decided that if he couldnt have me.. no one would. typical phsycotic drunken behavior... i didnt have to go through as much redtape as you did however.. thanks to the tracy thurman laws, stalking and threats are taken quite seriously now. the restraining order however didnt phase the ex much, and i had to send my daughter away for her safety and put myself into a safehouse until he was arrested. after a bit of playing hide & not-be-sought, i got tired of being the one locked up and played bait for the police. antogonized the jerk, got him into action to come on down and kill me.. and the cops finally grabbed him. he went to jail for two years.. and by the time hed gotten out, the order was no longer in affect (same as you, they only last a year) by then id moved and didnt need to worry about it any more.

I had considered one once to be put on my son when he was acting out, he was over 18. But I decided against it and that was okay things settled down after that.