What do you think of this?

May 9, 2008 5:47am CST
I have a female office mate who just recently made a really rude action against me. We were friends at first Because I really did everything just to get along with her since I was the newest addition to the office, about a month after she got in. I respect her a lot coz she's older than me and I thought she was more mature and knowledgeable on certain things. I also did the same nice things to my other office mates even jut the ordinary employees. So, I never had any problem with any of them. But as a few months passed I noticed her slightly different behavior towards our subordinates and even to our senior bosses. She' aloof and too snobbish on a lot of things especially on food. She doesn't eat anything that is sea food because, according to her, they are smelly. but still I managed to keep cool and be nice to her. But at the turn of the year, she has gone really worse. She would order me around like some top boss and snob my comments on a lot of things. Even our subordinates really hate her, as what they always tell me. And just a couple of days ago, while she was at our higher unit office, she told very single employee that I am such a boot-licker that's why the bosses like me and turn to me for almost all things. I remembered, recently she just got relieved from her other position and was transfered to another one without her knowledge. And I took over her previous position. Anyway, the employees from our higher unit, out of concern and sympathy for me as they told me, reported to me what she just did. Surprisingly, I wasn't upset coz the employees didn't believe her. I am really wondering why she attacked me that way. She could have just told me straight what she thought of me. I really feel bad coz I respected her and looked up to her. But I also learned from her previous workplace that she was also hated at that office. If this happened to you, what would you do? I really need lots of advices on this issue because I don't think I could continue being nice to her from this very moment. Thank A lot guys!!!
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5 responses
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
9 May 08
It sounds like she is just jealous of you. Jealousy will make people say some pretty rude things. If you just keep cool and continue to be the bigger person it will only make her more jealous, which is the funny thing! If I were you I would try to avoid her as much as possible, but when I had to see her I would be polite and treat her with respect. This will drive her nuts and you can just laugh to yourself at how much you get to her!
• Philippines
10 May 08
Hahahaha!!! That's just what I've been thinking. Thank very much for that really wonderful advice. Being rude to her also would not make things any different for me so you're right. I'll continue doing my thing and watch her go nuts trying to compete with me.
@naseeha (1383)
• India
4 Jun 08
Thats disgusting of her and it is because she is jealous of you. She doesnt want you to be loved and respected by the other employees thats why she is doing it. Just ignore her and stop talking to her. She will understand the reason and stop spreading rumors about you.
@snowy22315 (99820)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I would just do your job and stay out of her way. You can and should be professional with the way you treat her,but I wouldn't go out of my way to be nice. I think she is insecure and jealous of you.
@nicky35 (747)
1 Jun 08
tell her to get stuffed,you owe her nothing.youre better than her.
@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
12 May 08
I think she's very jealous of you. Stop being 'in contact' with her wherever possible. I think this type of person; you should definitely stay away from.