That man begged my pardon

@gxnfly (1147)
China
May 10, 2008 2:24am CST
Remember that man who insulted me and my people yesterday.He just said sorry to me trough msn,here are the lines, "i am very sorry.at that time i was very angry and it all went wrong when i saw ur work.I am really very sorry and i beg your pardon" I just ignore him,I don't feel like talking to him anymore,not after those mean words he said to me yesterday.I was hurt,and I don't think it's worth my time to deal with him anymore.What do you think?
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12 responses
• United States
10 May 08
An apology is always either accepted or rejected. No one can tell you if it is right or not whichever you choose to do for you have a right to your feelings. However I sense you are not sure. Perhaps you should sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow. :)
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@gxnfly (1147)
• China
10 May 08
Thank you . How could he says he is sorry when he said those dirty words to me yesterday.That's strange.I guess he was high or something yesterday.Never mind.I told him he should be careful about his words.That made it worse,more mean words came from his words.What a jerk!
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@littleowl (7157)
10 May 08
Hi gxnfly-I would of told him exactly how I felt and that I would zI would accept his apology but it wouldn't change what he had said in the beginning-littleowl
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• United States
10 May 08
Saying sorry doesn't erase the hurtful things he said to you. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't respond to him anymore, at all. He really sounds like a scam artist, and you are better off not assosiating with the kind, unless of course you'd like to see what a jail looks like from behind the bars.
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@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
10 May 08
I think that you should wait till you're calm and if he contacts you again tell him you'll accept the apology but your opinion of him will not change. That lets him know that he is a jackass but you're big enough to forgive his character flaws. By ignoring him at first-or forever-you're letting him stew in his regret. That's good for him but not good for you! You have to resolve this issue one way or another or it will eat at you and disturb your life. He's such a pig.
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@winterose (39893)
• Canada
12 May 08
it is up to you hon, but I would accept his apology but not do anymore work for him. Tell him that those words really hurt, but you accept his apology.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
11 May 08
If he can do it to u once, he can do it to u again, i believe.. Maybe he's hard up or trying to make use of u, so he has to beg u now.. After u'r done with the work, maybe he will be the one to start ignoring u instead..
• Singapore
11 May 08
I feel as long as you really feel he's sorry for what he's done. Holding the grudge wouldn't be a good thing. It's always better to have a friend than another enemy. It's how you think if the person deserves to be forgiven or not.
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@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
11 May 08
What he said to you was very nasty and you have every right to be angry. But like what most of the others here said, wait until you are calm to make a decision. Its good he apologized, you can always accept it but you don't have to talk to him again. I know that if someone has hurt me and has acknowledged it, I will accept the apology since an apology is a gift.. but that doesn't mean I will speak to the person again. Wait until you are calmer about this and make a decision then.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
11 May 08
I think that forgiveness is an important thing for both the person forgiving and the person being forgiven. I can understand why you may not want to be kind to this person because he was pretty nasty to you. (I read the original post too) However, you might want to consider simply sending him an email thanking him for his apology and saying that due to the fact that you wish not to deal with people who would speak in such a way that wish to have no further association with him but that you appreciate the respect he showed in sending you an apology. That would say a lot about the person YOU are.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
10 May 08
Just forgive him for your own sake, as it takes energy to be angry and hateful as well as resentful! It is better for you to forgive him and get on with your life!
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@renee0909 (152)
• China
10 May 08
dear, I think your mind is still not calm now. If I were you, I wouldn't think about it until I really got equanimity. When a so sensitive girl loves a man so deeply, it's hard for her to quit him, no matter how she wants to. If your mind is made up firmly, just do it.
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@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
12 May 08
I would do the same as you and ignore him.