More than friends?

May 10, 2008 9:10am CST
Hi everyone! I am new on here, and was really hoping for some help. I am a single female, and I work with a single guy, I have been divorced for about 7 years, and haven't dated in a very long time. Him and I have worked together for about 12 years, but recently have become good friends, and I am wanting to know How I can tell if he wants more than friendship? Do you think if he did he would just outright say that? Or do you think he may be holding back for fear of rejection? Or holding back just because we are coworkers, and if it doesn't work out...we still have to work together? Thanks in advance for any and all advice.
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• China
11 May 08
if he really want to be together with you,i think he should tell you truth,but keep slince.and if u love him,you should let he know in other way,and if it doesn t work,you must regulate yourself and work harder. a good mood can give you a colorful life and a great decision.believe yourself. wish you have a good mood .lucky u
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• Nigeria
10 May 08
I fill it will be bad of you to propose to him first, but I think you can have him talk if you play your role as his friend, first I don't think if it is bad of you to ask him to express his filling as a friend if he is in you shoe as a friend, what i mean is to give him a test. wish you luck, take care
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
10 May 08
Hello,you have done a great job i say well done there for stayin for 7 yrs wow,Base on Men studies they dislike being turned down and are always or sometime scare not to be rejected, with fear most of them come over and express thier feelings well on your case the guy may want both of you to take the friendship to next level cos men never and will never take women as just a friend no matter how long you've known each other he may one day show you he's intrested in you thats for sure,lol,for him i dont think i will outright and say it just like that but slowly he will let you know by his actions.cos Actions speaks louder than voice.
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@amirev777 (3939)
• India
10 May 08
Hi! i think that if you really have something for him in ur heart u shud express it to him or u can just start by asking his feeling for u.other way wud b to take him for a drink-men usually have tendency to speak their heart out when they are drunk.
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@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
10 May 08
oh wow! that is kinda difficult. in my experience, a girl has to wait before the guy really says it out loud that he is interested. it is not safe to assume that he is interested, only to find out that he is just a caring friend, nothing more than that. so i dunno really. or if you are really anxious, maybe you can just ask him outrightly if he is interested in you. :-) good day!
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@kykidd (6818)
• United States
10 May 08
It depends on his personality. I knew my current bf of 5 years for 3 years before we started dating. He is a big flirt, so with him it was easy to tell. Maybe you can see how he reacts about other women while you are around. If they are attractive and he would normally give them attention, but doesn't around you, this could be a sign.
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
12 May 08
i think you are feeling the way that there is something more than friends. it may be true also. in this case he may be thinking the way that you have guessed. may be in fear of rejection or something.so i think you can wait.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
11 May 08
Hello. ... There are many options to consider: He might be interested but holding back since you work together and think that might be inappropriate. He might not be interested. He might be afraid of rejection, or shy. He might be in another relationship that he thinks might be significant. And other factors as well... I think you ought to ask him out to dinner and see how he takes that proposal. If he accepts, tell him you are interested in him over dinner or after a movie. There is not much to lose if you are gentle about everything. Even if things don't go the way you plan, at least you know how he feels, and you two should be able to work together just fine thereafter. That's my opinion. Best wishes. :-)