Obsessed with weight?
By cebran14
@cebran14 (19)
United States
November 1, 2006 7:27pm CST
I just went to a diner, which is what sparked this thought. I hate being a female sometimes, because I think it relates heavily to the importance I put on my weight. I'm constantly ordering food I don't particularly care for, because it's healthy, and because it's extremely low in fat, sugar, carbs, salt- and taste! I don't like the pressure of always thinking of my weight, not enjoying food, and never enjoying a meal at any cost. I've felt this way for awhile, and when I do eat I feel the need to work out. It's a rough cycle to break once you've gotten yourself into it, and I don't know the answers. I look in the mirror, and like many others I really don't like what i'm facing. The thought "I'm fat" must cross my mind a gazillion times a day. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, and I am for the most part, except when it comes to my weight. Any suggestions on how to get out of this funk?
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6 responses
@Donnyboy8 (786)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I am a guy and definately see the difference. guys can be heavier and still be ok in society. But it is much tougher for women. It seems especially other women can be vicious with their comments.
@cebran14 (19)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Yes, there definitely a difference. And yet I wonder, I always read in magazines about how "society" creates this difference, and i'm always baffled as to what they mean by that statement. Society is formed from people, so it isn't society as a whole that made the issue, but rather people who held similar beliefs that created and using the word society to me just seems like a scape goat in some sense. Although, I could just be over analyzing.
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@cebran14 (19)
• United States
4 Nov 06
That's like the whole south beach diet, idea. According to it you can eat cake, yet not the whole thing. Like, don't deprive yourself of certain foods, it's more like a taste. For example, using the whole cake idea, your body just wants the satisfaction of tasting the food, and because it's something your telling yourself you shouldn't do, for whatever reasons, so you want it even more. So just take a bite, or two, then throw the rest out. It's hard to that though, that first bite kinda makes me want the whole damn thing, lol. Thanks for the reply. :)
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@mauldinmama (1501)
• United States
3 Nov 06
Just relax and be good to yourself....Stop stressing over your weight and enjoy your life....or else it will pass you by.
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@cebran14 (19)
• United States
4 Nov 06
It sounds so easy, but I need to keep thinking that I suppose. Constant reminders might actually do the trick, plus what else have I got to lose, aside from these negative, and really self-destructive thoughts, and criticisms I bestow upon myself. Thanks for the comment.
@deeds14 (815)
• United States
2 Nov 06
If you spend every second counting calories and criticizing yourself, how are you going to enjoy your life? It's great to eat healthy and exercise, but do it because you care about your body and it's good for you, not because you think it will make you more beautiful - you already are beautiful! If this is really weighing heavily on you, see a therapist to talk about it. I've been to therapy tons of times for other problems, and it has always helped me so much. Think about it!
@cebran14 (19)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Thank you very much for the response; i've told myself things around those lines before, but repetition is very helpful. And that wasn't sarcasm at all, it's completely different when you try to tell yourself something, verse hearing it from another person. I don't know why we are so inclines as humans to never do what's best for us, or simply listen to our own golden advice. Baffling.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
4 Nov 06
I am obsessed to gain weight. In the USA since the late 60's it became the way for all women to look, THIN. Other countries are not like that. I have no answers, as I am at fault myself. I'm not heavy, and my husband would still love me if I were. All my family is obese though. So, I am always thinking about my weight.
@working4theweekend (2403)
• United States
3 Nov 06
Gaining and losing weight is always a hard road to go down -I have struggled with being overweight my whole life but it has really caught up to me lately. I gained 50 pounds in the 5 years I have been with my fiance (I went from 135 to 185). I am not at the point where I'd do anything to lose weight but I have no time. I feel controlled by food, I would rather have something good to eat than ignore the urge. I don't like water, I usually drink soda or juice. I don't have time to work out b/c I work constantly. But now I am grotesquely overweight and have heartburn all the time and have to unzip my pants at work b/c I can't breathe. It is really embarrassing and my fiance and I don't even have "relations" anymore b/c I'm not attractive, even I wouldn't do it with me. We still kiss but that's about it. I have a black dress I used to love b/c I looked really good in it, now I look like I'm pregnant. I wish I had some advise for you, I guess try hard, drink water, take the stairs instead of the elevator, and don't beat yourself up over it, you can't lose weight overnight, and even if you could, it wouldn't be healthy.
@cebran14 (19)
• United States
4 Nov 06
I know it's cliche, but they see the easiest way to be sexy is to have confidence. I know it's strange coming from me based on my topic, but easier said then done I suppose. Anywhoot, I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful. Thank you for such honesty in your reply.:)
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