How did you deal with school bullies?

United States
May 10, 2008 3:55pm CST
When I was in the third grade there were two really mean bully girls. And, they picked on everyone. For some reason both of them did not like me. More than anything, I don't think they liked anyone at all. I tried talking to the teachers about them, but they weren't interested in listening. Anyway, one day,I had to stay in class alone with this one bully girl (while the rest of the class went outside for recess). At first I was afraid. But, for some reason, she didn't pick on me. She seemed like a normal person, so I tried talking to her. And, I told her how the other girl said mean things about her behind her back. Needless to say, she had no idea she was being bad mouthed. After that she stopped being mean to me. Ironically, the other girl stopped being mean to me, too. So, how did you deal with bullies in your school?
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
10 Aug 08
I've been bullied all the way to and in high school and I had a hard time dealing with it. I've been picked on because of my bad motor skills and balance impairment. It didn't matter what teachers said, what I said, if I tried to be nice or just to stay out of the way. Nothing seemed to help. This one day I was so fed up with the guy who bullied me I was about to cry in his presence (I usually cried at home but never in school, not even the time they put an ice ball in my neck and held me till it melted down my spine, it's a very bad memory...) and I exploded verbally. I don't even remember what I said but it wasn't pretty. I told him how pethatic he was for picking on a little girl (he was two times my size) and that he should feel very proud of himself showing of to his no-good friends because he had no actual skills to be proud off(something like that I believe... was a long time ago). Ever since that day at least he left me alone. I don't know if it's the best way to handle a bully but it surely was the only way to handle him. I felt proud of myself and I felt bad for shouting at him at the same time; I wish I could've handled it in a more friendly way, but there was no other way around it and they had hurt me for too long. Good thing you managed to work things out with your bullies .
• United States
11 Aug 08
Sometimes that's the best way to handle a bully. Bullies respect force. They really do expect a person to stand up for themselves. I learned that the hard way awhile back. I had someone stalking me. I finally called the police on them and threatened to get a restraining order and I haven't heard from them since. It's the only language a bully understands. Feel proud of yourself! You did a good job.
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
11 Aug 08
Thanks beautyqueen, I do agree bullies only respect force or people who are stronger then them. I know for a fact that the brother of one of my friends who couldn't stay at home any longer as he threatened and choked his own parents was a doll in the army. He literarly told his supperior that he had respect for him just because he knew he couldn't take them
@SViswan (12071)
• India
11 Aug 08
I don't remember anyone really bullying me...but I do remember two instances (at different schools) when 2 girls were mean to me (I think they were one time incidents...but can't be sure). Anyways, one thing led to another and in one case, we ended up having a fight...a physical fight where we pulled each other's hair and pushed and pulled. We laugh about it now...but it wasn't very nice then. But we patched up really soon ( ac ouple of days) and have been good friends since. In the other incident, the girl said something mean to me and it was at a time when my mother wasn't with us (she was in India because she had lost her father) and I was really hurt by the comments. I remember going to a corner and crying by myself.
• United States
11 Aug 08
It's good that things worked out for you and your friends.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I was never bullied at school because if I was, they had my twin sister to deal with as well as 3 brothers to answer to too LOL. I hung around with a good bunch of neighborhood friends that stuck up for each other so if any one was being bullied, they were helped out of the situation.
• United States
11 Aug 08
You're so lucky!
@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
10 May 08
I always just did my best to ignore them. I wasn't bullied too much, I was picked on a bit, but never actually bullied. Now my son is being bullied and picked on in school. He has had kids punch and hit him, and he always just sat there and took it. I finally told him to hit back, and he did. He came home with bleeding knuckles one day. Well since then he hasn't been being bullied anymore.
• United States
10 May 08
Once when I was in the fifth grade I had to do the same thing. A girl kept pushing me and hitting me and I had to shove her down in the mud. After that, she didn't bother me too much. She had it coming though. She had been picking on me for two months. I gave her plenty of time to shape up. And, she didn't. You can see all kinds of news stories of bullying that has gone too far. The stuff that kids get away with, by punching and kicking other kids (bullying, I mean) would land an adult in prison. It's illegal! Kids should defend themselves. Sometimes I think the best answer is to stick up for oneself and fight back. Apparently, just doing nothing, doesn't make the bullies go away. Thanks for your intelligent comments and insight.
• United States
10 Aug 08
when i was in the 1st grade there was this big girl named Alana that was supposed to be a bully. I say supposed because she didn't instill any fear in my heart. I had to go to the doctor to get a shot and that made my back sore. We were going back in the building from recess and we had to walk in a line. She was standing behind me. She kept hitting me in my back. I told the teacher who told her to stop but she kept doing it. When I get mad it's kind of scary because my strength meter seems to shoot up. I balled my fist up and hit her in the face. Believe it or not she was out cold. They even thought I had a rock or something in my hand but it was just my strength. They got smelling salts from the cafeteria to make her come back around. I didn't get into trouble but they did contact my mother who told me good job. lol. The bully moved away for a while and we didn't see her again until middle school.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 May 08
The only thing I knew to do was try to inore them. I like your idea though of tellingone of the bullies about the other one talking bad about her.
• Philippines
10 May 08
When I was a little kid, I was bullied by other kids in school. So what I did is befriend those big kids who have the ability to fight. I used my brains as a trade. I help them in their quizzes and assignments and they protect me from bullies. That works while I was in grade school. Nobody bullied me in highschool, I bullied them. I have learned karate. But now no more, there are no people bullying me already! Peace is everywhere...