Court Case Result From Search Warrant Discussion - Do You Think This Was Right?
By ellie333
@ellie333 (21016)
May 11, 2008 7:13am CST
For those of you that missed the inital discussion I have pasted in for you to read and for those of you who responded to it I thank you all for your help and advice on this one. So refresh all your memories.
'My friend answered to door to the police to be told they had a warrant to search her house as they had just arrested her 14 year old sold in possession of a large amount of cannibis. Of course she let them in and they found in his bedroom weighing scales and more of this stuff. She is in total shock, she knew he had been moody and horrid lately but put that down to teenage hormones, has two older boys who now have left home who she never had any problems with and is now asking where she went wrong as if charged for dealing rather than possession she could be charged also though completely innocent. I want to be there for her but at the same time really don't want to visit as I don't want my children around anyone taking drugs as I have already lost someone close to me who was murdered by someone out of their head on drugs so it is a very sore point. How would you be there for her without involving yourself and what advice would you give. She is totally gobsmacked, can't believe this and she is definately not a mother that looks at her children through rose coloured spectacles'.
The outcome was her son was charged only with possession and has been given a 10 month referal order (like baby probation) He will also receive help with anger management and the smoking issue over this period of time. As he is so young I think this is the best move as being put away anywhere I think may teach him more wrong than good. What are your thoughts and views. Can this probation course with help and support help him back onto the right path?
Please hsare. Ellie :D
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5 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 May 08
I think this is wonderful and it would have been handled that way here in Montreal as well. Very good, the boy is getting the best help possible, sometimes a bad like this can turn into a good.
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@kaysue4 (951)
• United States
11 May 08
Well, I am also a mom of teen boys that liked to hide things from me. I was in total shock when I found out my son was smoking cannabis and drinking right here in my home. This was years ago and I had got him help, locked him up, had him put on probation. He got clean, then he turned 18 and got stupid again and now will be serving two years in prison. I aways knew my boys are NOT angels, it is just catching them and correcting them was and has been the issue.
You can only do SO much with your teens, even when they live in your house. The know all of the hiding places in the house and will even make new ones if they need to.
All you can do is give your friend any support you can, even if it is just a phone call to see how she is doing. I hope that the probation will help her son out and the other programs also.
I wish I would have had friends that I could have talked to when all of this was happening, it would have helped so much.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 May 08
Hi Kaysue4, I am so sorry that you have experienced this with your son it must be so hard. I have been there for my friend the initial discussion I posted was whilst I was still in shock myself because I wasn't aware of what he was up to either. She lives a distance away so visiting hasn't been an option, but I have just got off the phone from her now and she thinks just the fact that he had to go to court has shook him up enough and he now has to face probation and other help. I hope it does sort him out I really do but as mums all we can do really is be there for them and try to guide the best we can. Thanks you so much for sharing. I really appreciate it. Ellie :D
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
11 May 08
I am happy that it worked out so well
and I hope this boy had the pis*
scared out of him so he will
learn from this but many times the teens
that learn are the ones that get
the most severe sentences..
I hope to get this light sentence
that he had to give up some names!
oxoxoxoxoxxoxo
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 May 08
Hi Raydene, Yes I think it scared him, especially as he is so young, I don't think he quite realised just how much trouble he could get in so the trauma of the court case alone has shook him up a bit. It was a light sentence but here in UK in young offenders units they tend to learn more bad ways than good and upon realease a lot see the fact that they have been away as a badge of honour, bu the is the crazy world we live in now really eh! Thanks for sharing your views. Ellie :D
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
12 May 08
I hope it does help him, and at 14 there is a good chance of it. However, it will also depend on him staying away from those that he was hanging out with. I also hope that it opened up his mother's eyes, to be more aware of the signs, and I hope she implements a open-door policy in her home. And I hope she impresses upon him that trust is something you earn, it is not something you are given. I do know that at that age, I would be worse punishment than the courts would be. I also hope he knows just how lucky he is that he got that outcome, it could have been much worse, he could be waking up in juvey.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 May 08
Yes he is a very lucky boy and has been given a chance to change it around. Whether he will or not I don't know. A lesson has been learnt by all I think. Lets hope he doesn't waste this opportunity and doesn't get back in with the old crowd. Juvey would have just made him worse I think so by concentrating on his school work, anger management and the root cause the taking of the weed he has a chance to make good eh! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this one. Ellie :D
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
11 May 08
I hope it teaches him how to get by in life without going back to jail! I do not know if it was right, but I know it is always a possibility that surprises can happen! You never really know what is going on right in front of you sometimes!
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