If your significant other cheats on you, will you give him/her a second chance?
By _Honey_
@_Honey_ (780)
Philippines
May 11, 2008 1:31pm CST
Yes guys and girls.. say for example you have this guy/girl you have a relationship with. you really love the person and you trust him/her with all your heart. all of sudden, you find out that he/she's having some time with other girls/boys under your nose? are you willing to give a second chance? :)
7 responses
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
12 May 08
I believe the person deserves a second chance. Anyways you have to examine yourself also, there is a reason why guys do it, probably you are part of his reason. Or maybe he was bored with the relationship, stuffs like that. A nice talk would necessary. Anyways, If he will do it again. Then I guess, that would be it.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
12 May 08
that is so kind of you. i am impressed by the way you try to be objective. indeed it is true that there's also something wrong about us that makes our partners take a glance on someone else. it is true than an open communication in a relationship is a must to work things out. an open communication that most couples fail to do.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
12 May 08
If my man cheats on me the relationship is over. I do not condone cheating and if he cheats on me then i'm leaving the relationship because obviously he doesn't want to be with me.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
12 May 08
at one point of my life, i had the same thoughts as you do. but i must say that it doesn't mean that your boyfriend doesn't want to be with you anymore. but the fact that he's looking at someone else, hmm.. it's understandable that you can't help to think that he doesn't love you anymore.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
11 May 08
It would depend....mainly on how long it'd been going on for...the sleepign with someone else doesnt bother me its the lying and hiding things that would set me off..So that being said the longer its gone on the less and less I'd be willing to work it out..
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
11 May 08
I used to be a forgiving person but no more. I make that really clear at the start of a relationship .. if you want to go elsewhere for fun then make sure you pack your bags and take them with you. I have no problem icing someone in a heartbeat if they cheat on me ...
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
11 May 08
hmm. i know how you feel. to be honest, i don't know too if i can forgive if my partner cheats on me. i mean, for me trust is very important in a relationship and i can't promise that i can still trust my partner if i found out that he's having an affair with someone else.
@meiteoh (416)
• Switzerland
11 May 08
I can't...no matter how much I wish I could, I don't think I'd ever be able to forget AND forgive.
My ex and I had a lot of issues revolving around trust; one of which was that he would often go to his girl best friend whenever he has problems with me instead of talking to me about it. I never knew about it until she came to me and told me that I was a lousy gf and that I was making my ex's life a misery, etc, etc. There were other issues which I forgave and tried to forget...but his long term crush/love for his girl best friend broke the camel's back.
Since then, I can never accept betrayal - cheating consists as one of these things, emotionally or physically. To cheat on me is more than just being unfaithful. By cheating on me, my partner is saying that I'm not even worth talking to, that our problems are not important and that I don't matter at all anymore.
So why should I give a second chance to someone who considers me to be all those things?
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
11 May 08
your words are heavy and i can feel it's content. somehow i can't help not to understand and at some point, agree with you. For me, trust is such a fundamental element ANY type of relationship should and MUST have whether would this be just plain friendship, or even business. Trust keeps the relationship going. Once it's gone, it takes such a vveerrry loooong time to regain it, and worse some can't just regain it at all.. just my two cents :)
@praveenjena (1304)
• India
11 May 08
well it will indeed hurt a lot if she cheats to me.... but after all that if she is really sorry about that and still loves me then i may give her a second chance.
but only she is really sorry about her deeds.. then there is no second chance.
have a good day.
