Are you the kind that lets household chores pile up?

United States
May 11, 2008 3:12pm CST
My mother has a terrible, terrible habit of leaving all of her household chores lag behind for weeks or months at a time it seems. She'll continue to wash clothes and never fold them or put them away until you can barely get into the laundry room to get ahold of them. She leaves a lot of things to the last minute to, so many things that it takes her days to actually undo all of the mess she's made. I try to take care of chores as they come in, but not her. I'd rather take 10 minutes and accomplish something instead of taking weeks to do it. Are you like my mother or are you like me? How do you keep your chores from piling up?
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
11 May 08
I take it one day at a time. I try to do things as the come in but having five kids sometimes I have to divert to other more important things. LOL!!!!! The chores are never ending.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 May 08
I am like you, I grew up with a mother who start and finish doing things in a day or less. From waching dishes manually, waching clothes manually(since we don't have any machine before) ironing it all, filing them properly and etc. She wants everything to be perfect and arranged and time to relax after! My sister and I got that attitude and I can say, I can relax best when I have no worries about undone household chores!
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• United States
11 May 08
I hate when she lets them go because it annoys me, but I don't want to do it all for her either because I feel like she'll never, ever learn and actually do it if she knows someone else will just do it all for her. However, all of her little messes really annoy me.
• United States
11 May 08
I understand and it's also not good to hurt her by telling right in her face that she has to do it and that....maybe you can do it in a joke style, she maybe raise that way so, she is used to it!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
12 May 08
You sure we don't have the same mom?Nah, my mom waits to do laundry every 2-3 weeks then has them all done at once and then ends up leaving all the clothes in the front room for atleast another week or two till they are put up usually when I go help her.She doesn't have a washer or dryer at home so has to have them done at laundry mat or mine or my brothers house. She hates housecleaning and when I lived at home it was me who had to do it all clean house and laundry and even cook 60% of the time. She rather be reading a book or surfing the net or doing something as far away from any type of housework she can find. She didn't use to be that way till I got to about 9 years old she had a nervous breakdown and then a light heart attack and later when I was 15 a mild stroke which she lost use of her arm and and had trouble walking or doing anything and took her over a year to regain use things. So now she just goes about her day doing what she wants and leaving the housecleaning chores for later..real later. She is starting to keep up with the dishes some more often like every few days instead of once a week or less often she did have the habit of using everything in her house till she washed dishes but now she has gotten better at it. Hopefully my talks to her are finally getting through. She still hates to sweep though since it is carpet. I help out occasionally whereas I used to do it all 2-3 times a week even after I married and moved out. I quit doing it for a year because I felt that as long as I did it she wouldn't and it has worked some. Now I have started helping her again not the 2-3 times a week like before but enough to help her out.
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@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
11 May 08
Hello, my name is Shannon and I am a chore procrastinator. Not to bad but bad enough. Usually only days and maybe a week at the longest. But I am getting better! :)
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• United States
12 May 08
Welcome to CPA Shannon. My name is Stefany and I too am a chore procrastinator.
• United States
12 May 08
I'd have to say that my husband and I are somewhere in the middle. We try to get to it during the week and we keep washing and trying to take care of stuff. Once the weekend comes, we get caught up, or mostly. Sometimes our weeks are so busy, with him working all day and me wrangling the kids and me working the evenings and him wrangling the kids that it's all we can do to keep the little heathens clothed and fed! Being a parent really inhibits the time you have to clean and be tidy unless that's pretty much all that you do. Neither he nor I want to spend all of our time cleaning. We like to enjoy our kids and the time we have with them. If that means the laundry isn't always folded and the dishes aren't always washed, so be it. Trust me, when they become adults, the kids will cherish the time spent with them.
• United States
12 May 08
This is what I try to let me mother in on but it doesn't seem like it sinks in. If you do everything as it comes, then it doesn't take you forever to do what you need to do. She just doesn't see it that way. She always says she never has time and she always does and then complains about how she has so much to do on weekends.
• United States
12 May 08
I'm in the middle somewhere. I've had people comment on how well I keep up on things, and I've also had people comment on my lack of organization and needing to get things under control. So, I guess its all in the eyes of the beholder. My house is messy, but its not dirty. I wash the walls, and keep up on the things I feel need to be done to keep my home safe for my kids. But I let other things slide. Laundry will be clean sitting in baskets for days. We homeschool the four kids, so papers are slways every where. I make a conscious decision to spend time with my kids and fiance rather than become a neat freak. Its a choice I chose to make.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
12 May 08
I do let things pile up till Saturday. I either clean on Friday after work or I spend the day Saturday cleaning. During the week after being at work all day and then coming home to cook dinner, have some play time with my daughter, get ready for bed (bath book and so on) I am too tired to clean any thing. I do - do the dinner dishes and any others that my lovely husband leaves me, but thats about it. I do a load of laundry during the week every once in a while but thats usually a Sunday thing.
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
12 May 08
This does sound like me when I'm going through what I call my 'lazy phase'. If I've been working heaps the housework will pile up until one day I'll get frustrated and I'll get a boost of energy and do it all. However as this tkaes so much effort I like to keep it under control. It is good to do a little bit of washing and folding evryday than it is to have to wash and fold and put away 8 loads of washing all at once. Today I should be doing one more load of washing to completely catch up with the laundry and also the dishes need to be done. However I finished work at three o'clock this morning and I'm tired and I have to be back at work at seven o'clock tonight so I'm not doing anything until the partner comes home from work and then he can help me
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@missbdoll (1165)
• Australia
12 May 08
The main thing that piles up with me is ironing, elsething ele pretty much gets done.Being on my own and working from home I spend most of my time working, I need the money.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
12 May 08
i am like you mother, i let my chores pilling up until a month or more. i have work everyday with regards to my offline business and i am a student at late afternoon, after school time for mylot so i don't have time to work on it. i wait my washier to do washing on my chores.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 May 08
I have to admit that I have let my laundry pile up sso now it will take several days to get it all done but the money factor is partly to blame for that and also I have very little use of my left arm 'so it makes doing laundry a real challenge but I can do it. I just have to motivate myself to get started.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
12 May 08
I really don't like it when I leave out household chores. It's like my day isn't complete when I don't do them. And I don't feel organized. They say that an organized person is a happy person and thoughts would also be organized. That is why I am like you... I do chores and finish them as soon as possible.
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@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
12 May 08
i keep up with my daily chores because if i do not the next day will be even harder for me. i like my house neat and organized and i work hard to keep it that way besides i have alot of other things on my plate that i have to keep up with. if i look around me and the house is out of control then i feel out of control and overwhelmed so i do it for my sanity.
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• United States
12 May 08
I am like you. I get kind of retentive about my house being clean. Its hard right now because my husband and I live with another couple who wont do their dishes until every single dish in the kitchen is piled up in the sink. I've noticed that i tend to feel very overwhelmed and get stressed out if the house isn't clean. My husband is a lot like how your mother sounds. He's gotten better at most things but laundry is the one thing that he seems to not be able to keep on top of. It seems that if i don't hang and fold every piece of his laundry for him it will never make it to the closet or drawers. Then half the time when i do, if i dont go ahead and put it away it'll sit there for weeks. So, I tend to just do it myself. I keep up on all my chores by doing them as i have time to. I'll set 20-30 minutes a day aside where I know that's just clean up time. It seems to work well for me because I cant stand to have one day where I do nothing but clean so i accomplish it little by little each day.
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
12 May 08
I have a tendency to let things pile up but lately I have been better with tackling it sooner and procrastinating less. It's so easy to procrastinate but when you realize you had put these chores off to the last minute, not only are you overwhelmed but you are feeling pretty bad about yourself. I know I scold myself asking how I could have left things so long.. but I seem to not always learn LOL
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
11 May 08
Ideally I wouldn't but I find that things get away from me. I get too busy. So my biggest things, are doing dishes and wiping the counters. I don't like to let these get behind.
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@AmbiePam (85183)
• United States
11 May 08
I like to get things done, but I'm not always super fast at getting to it. My place doesn't suffer because I take my time though. Everything is always clean. My mom used to be super organized in her chores, but since she got sick many years ago, she lags behind in the housework sometimes. So I usually do their laundry because after all, my parents are letting me use their washer and dryer. My dad tries to do the dishes when he is home, so we try to make it easier on her. After all, my dad really should help out anyway because they both live there, they both contribute to any mess.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
12 May 08
I do my laundry as soon as I take it out of the dryer. I may leave it in the dryer and have to refluff it but I don't leave it out once I get it out of the dryer. I try to do stuff as I see it needs doing but I don't do it that way all the time. I dont' vacuum and dust as often as I should but my house isn't a mess just strowed at times.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
12 May 08
Yes, I am that kind. I am that kind because spending time withmy husband, kids or grandkids is more important to me than a spotless house.
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
11 May 08
I do a combination of both. There is no way I could let stuff pile up for months or weeks, or even days for that matter. I despise doing laundry(or actually folding it rather, since the machine actually does it.)I will let it pile up for an extra day or 2, which basically just means that I am doing two loads instead of one. Not too big of a deal, but still procrastination. I also like to save the cleaning for one large time a week. Everything is kept neat, but I do a thorough clean once a week, including mopping the floors, sweeping the deck, washing all the bed linens etc. I like to try and stay on top of it to avoid what you have described. I have enough clothes to pile up like that, but I'd be wearing evening dresses to wal-mart by the end of it if I procrastinated like that.