Making bad choices doesn't make you a victim...or does it?

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That can apply to my life as well but it was a friend's relationship situation that made me think about it. I'll give you the shortest version possible and would like your opinions on whether she is a 'victim' of bad luck or if it is her own fault for the choices she's made. When we first met she led me to believe that she's had a lot of bad luck with relationships but held out hope that her current boyfriend was the answer to her dreams...well since then I found out that her first husband was the result of a brief relationship, they got married quickly and by their first anniversary she was pregnant and going throught the process of a divorce. Her second child was the result of a one night stand roughly a year after the first child was born. Fast forward a few years and she was in yet another relationship, this one being with an abusive alcoholic...but she "loved him" and so she stayed for two years until his untimely death in an alcohol related accident. While at the hospital she had the 'pleasure' of meeting his other girlfriend of 6 months. Two months later she met the guy she was seeing when she and I became friends. She herself told me that she invited him back to her house the very night they met...soon after he moved in. She was sure he was the one...but then after a few problems popped up...that she insisted were his fault...he suddenly moved out again. That was on a Sunday...Monday night her new boyfriend spent the night with her and now all she talks about is how happy she is and that sh'e "finally got it right". I really don't understand. She goes from one guy to the next yet blames all of them for it...even the one that died since he'd still be alive if not for his addiction. So do you see her as a victim of circumstance or just a very lonely woman with low self esteem that continues to put herself in situations destined to fail?