If you were adopted, would you want to meet your bio parents?

@kaysue4 (951)
United States
May 13, 2008 4:43am CST
I found out I was adopted when I was 12 years old. I had actually grown up with my biomother and at the time didn't know she was my biomother, I was told she was my sister. I never really went out looking for my biofather and then one day I got a phone call asking if I ever wondered about my real father. I was 20 years old and tried to get to know him, but he turned out to be a jerk and even insulted me by saying that I was to stupid to be able to homeschool my boys. He didn't even know me enough to make a statement like that. I have tried to go back, but I just can't have any type of relationship with someone like that. I did feel bad when his oldest son was killed and went to the funeral, but I just still couldn't get to know that family. What would you do if you found out you were adopted? Would you look for your bio parents?
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@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
13 May 08
Hi there Kaysue! I'm sorry to hear about how your bio father turned out to be like. If I am adopted, I would definitely look for my bio parents just for the sake of knowing. I will also try my best to not be affected with whatever they are like and go on with my life after meeting them.
@kaysue4 (951)
• United States
13 May 08
Well, I was glad to find out a bit about health history on his side of the family. Most women are overweight, so am I. There are a few other health issues also that I am glad to know about. I just don't let it bother me any more on how he was, it is just sad that my boys have never had a grandfather in thier life.
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@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
13 May 08
It depends upon the situation. If ever my adopted parents is very good in taking care of me then by maybe I'd rather stay not knowing them for the good of everyone. I will just ask reasons why it happen why Im with them. But if ever my adopted parents are terrible then definitely I will look for my bio parents.
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• Bahamas
13 May 08
Hi kaysue. It would depend on where i was in my life. When i was younger i dont think that i would have cared, but now that i'm older i think i would want to know where i came from and what were the reasons behind my being put up for adoption. Deep inside of everyone there's a need of identity to know who we are and to feel as if we were loved by those who brought us into this world.
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@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
14 May 08
I am sure that at some point I would like to find my Bio parents. I would think that from a medical standpoint, it would be a very good idea to do this as well. Its always good to be familiar with your family medical history.