Mother in law - Like her or not?!

I just hate my in-laws in general. When we were dating, they were tolerant but never actually welcoming. When I tried to help with Thanksgiving dinner one year, not only did his mother yell at me and make me cry the night before, but the day of or after I never got a single ounce of appreciation, thanks or anything. But when his 16 year-old brother knocked up his 17 year-old girlfriend they were all over her and if ever she made them Hamburger Helper, all his mother could do was gush over how wonderful and helpful their great new daughter was(they weren't even married). Then, when we got engaged, they were too enthralled with the pregnant teenager to even congratulate us, much less act like they gave a damn. Then they started insulting me, not to my face but when they knew I was in earshot and I come to find that they'd been insulting me behind my back the whole time. Not only that, but they constantly insult, offend, manipulate and guilt trip their own son. It's now 2 weeks before our wedding and they probably won't even attend. Not that I really want them there, but it's still just sh!tty of them to do that to their eldest son.

My fiance's mother, or my mother in law is a very nice woman. She does butt in on occasion but only when she feels that she should. It's more of a motherly thing then any kind of evasion of privacy. She's respective of us and our privacy.

I can't stand my mother in law. SHe is the queen of negativity. YOu could tell this woman that you found the sure for cancer and she would find something negative to say about it. Also she tries to make everything about her. She didn't even acknowledge our first anniversary and when she was called out for it, she started bawling crocodile-tears and tried to turn it into something where we shoudl feel bad, not her.

My mother-in-law has been good to me. We get along very well. I like her very much. Though most of the time she wants to control things and sometimes puts words in my mouth or does my thinking for me - like what food I might not like - I don't react negatively to it. These are little things not worth arguing about. She gives us a lot of advice but we only take what we think is right. What's great is that I think (and my husband thinks so too!) she likes me. She loves bringing me my favorite food or going out to the movies with me. And for the record, my husband's aunt (his mother's sister) like me very much too. She always asks to speak to me first whenever she calls.

I do like my mother in law she does alot for us but yeah she buts in alot trying to tell us the "right" way to do things. hubby kinda gets mad and yells about it but I usually just smile and say oh okay I didnt even think about doing that then I go ahead and do it my way anyhow.

I have the best MIL imaginable. She is totally respectful of the fact that we have a life apart from her, but she is always welcome. She calls before visiting, and is always willing to help us if we need it. Too, we are always willing to help her.

I absolutely ADORE my mum in law....Shes a very sweet and wonderful woman! I wish I could have met her husband too whom my husband says I would have gotten along with amazingly but unfortunately he passed away before I even met my hubby...My mum in law is a very kind-hearted, accepting Christian woman who has welcomed my children and I into the family with open arms...She's been nothing but loving to us and I couldnt ask for another...My kids just adore her to pieces too