Why can't I just get over it?????

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I need some mylot help again. Here's the story. A little later this month is my Grandma's birthday. She died 20 years ago. My parents were very young when they had my brother, sister, and I and worked a lot. They left us with my grandmother. My grandmother was my mom. She was everything to me and more. She gave me so many things in life that I cherish. She took me to my first ballet class, was there at every single school function, she embraced my love for the arts, heard my first word, and even taught me how to walk. We were close until she died. I was 15 at the time. She got Colon Cancer, didn't tell anyone and 3 months later she was gone. She went to the doctor pretty much to find out and there was nothing they could really do for her, except medicate her and keep her in the hospital waiting to die. She was only in her 60's when she passed. So her life was short and not a long fulfilled one. Well, I can't get over her death. Not for a second. The wounds are fresh as if this happened yesterday. I have been to grief counselors with their textbook let it go B.S. My heart is still so broken and I don't think it will ever come back together. I have suffered an immeasurable loss and I just want some peace with it. I guess I have to learn how to grieve. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can get past this. Has anyone been through a devastating loss and what has helped you live with it? I know there are things in life we will never be totally over but I need to get over this one just a little. Any advicde is really appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my discussion.