Man or woman?

@meiteoh (420)
Switzerland
May 13, 2008 11:41am CST
I just got back from my medical examination, which required me to strip. The best part? There were two men (the doc and a student observing) excluding my hubby (yes, I'm a woman) in the room. When the two stepped out earlier, two ladies beside me started to fret, saying stuff like "How many men are there inside the room???? Nooooo, I want another doctor!!!!" and so forth. It just made me wonder... If you had to strip and have a doctor go all touchy-feel (for medical reasons, of course) on you, which would you prefer - a man or a woman - and why?
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@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
13 May 08
I had to get a medical exam for a trip abroad. When given a choice between a male or a female doctor I chose to go to the female doctor. Good choice for me as she was very touchy-feely and personal during the examination. I also chose a female obstetrician-gynecologist (are there any men anyway?) when I got pregnant. I prefer to go to a female doctor specially if it will involve a very personal examination.
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13 May 08
Actually there are a lot more male OB/GYN practitioners than female in America. In 2004 only 1/3 of the workforce was female. I don't know why, maybe because women prefer to be midwives? Yikes, just looked up some stuff on wiki. Training to be an OB/GYN is insane. Maybe women don't manage to get all the way through it without becoming mothers themselves?
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@meiteoh (420)
• Switzerland
13 May 08
The hospital I went to has about six OBs and they are all men. The OB nurses on the other hand are all women (yes there are make nurses). Even in M'sia, there appears to be more male OBs. I actually don't mind getting a male OB as I know of friends who had a female OB going all emo and judgemental on them.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
15 May 08
I see. This is interesting to know. I wonder though why they chose that profession when it is such an intimate one involving women's bodies. I'd be too embarassed to go to a male OB/GYN (no offense meant).
@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
13 May 08
I prefer a woman doctor mostly because it is more comfortable to be so vulnerable in front of someone who is of the same s**. (yes I blanked out the word because of the stupid mature setting. I'm going to fix it now lol) I certainly wouldn't have allowed there to be 2 men. You can say you do not wish the student doctor in the room. It is your right. They actually should ask you if you are ok with it.
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@meiteoh (420)
• Switzerland
13 May 08
Unfortunately they didn't. =.= There was a female nurse there so it wasn't that bad. I actually am okay with it since I'm used to hospital trips - when I was a kid, I had to go to the hospital at least twice a year. I was nekkid in a surgery room in front of at least four male doctors for an angiogram. I just found the two ladies' reaction amusing... :)
@jdyrj777 (6543)
• United States
13 May 08
In Houston Texas in 1982. That is where my daughter was born. As i was being wheeled into the delivery room to my horror the wall was lined up with student doctors that were there to witness a birth. I asked that they be removed from the room. I was told they had to be there, i had no choice. Don't worry, soon you won't even notice them. I cried for 2 hours after the birth. It was the most humilitating time in my life and should have been one of my most personal. And to not even have a say if they should be there. All the nurses and doctors kept asking me why was i crying.
@meiteoh (420)
• Switzerland
14 May 08
Exactly! If you had asked, then why should they force you to put up with it anyway? ...That's just terrible. Talk about making your something wondering and amazing just downright horrible. =.= (I would have filed a complaint with the hospital! I hope you did!!!!)
• Norway
13 May 08
because im a woman, so i would prefer a woman to do medical examinations on me especially when i have to take off my clothes(though there are underwears on).. i know its for medical reason, but im not comfortable taking off clothes infront of anybody, especially with men.. they would say, men doctors and nurses have seen a lot of "flesh" so, its just like a normal scene to them watching girls without clothes.. But then, for someone like me who are not used to be half naked infront of these men is really really really really awkward. But, most of the time, you cant choose whom to examine you. YOu cannot just say in the hospital when a guy doctor or nurse would come in the room, "no, i wont do it unless a female doctor would examine me" or "can i have a female doctor to examine me?" maybe when you are a VIP person, its possible. hehehe
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13 May 08
Of course you can chose who will do an exam (to a point). At least in Britain and America, and I'm sure plenty of other countries.
13 May 08
Female, just as I'd generally expect men would prefer a male doctor. This isn't totally about me being a prude but that women know women's bodies better than men. That and my male doctors have generally been uncaring, cold, calculated, brisk and stuck up... they just make me feel like they think I'm beneath them, that they think I'm just a stupid little girl and there is in fact nothing wrong with me... But that's just my experiences and my bizarre diseases that seem impossible to diagnose... maybe they just didn't like coming across something that defied them.
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• United States
31 Aug 09
I agree. The male doctors I have been to are seemingly uncaring, calculated, and cold. They don't really listen to what you have to say. I do not go to the doctors every year, so when I go it is for a reason. Luckily, I have found a doctor who is personalble, caring, listens to my every word, and is very thorough. The doctor has turned an uncomfortable situation or two, into a tollerable experience -- just by being "human". My doctor is a woman and I am a male. I would seek woman doctors from this moment forward based on my primary care doctor, she is great.
• Malaysia
15 May 08
All the doctors that I had went to were man. Actually I've never gone to a female doctor, I wonder if that would be weird form me?? I don't know. But never had a doctor that had a student there while he was checking on me, only and assistant that allways is female. I think that's why for me is ok to have a male doc, because the assistant is always very nice to me and always asks me if I'm ok or if I need something.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 May 08
Well the truth is at first i alway wanted to be examined by a female doctor as a woman. But I happened to spend 4 days in the hospital and all were male doctors, looking up my c*nt. So after that experience I no longer care who does the touching and looking. A doctor is a doctor, and most of the time a male doctor gives a better explanation of what's wrong with you, than a woman.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
14 May 08
I don't care if its male or female as long as they are competent and not rough during the exam. I don't want a student in the room however. I know they do have to learn but I like my privacy. Most doctors I go to require a nurse be present during female exams. However the gynocologist I sometimes use doesn't. He just does it himself which is fine. He is really quick, gentle. Its over and I can get on with my day. The less people in there, the quicker it is over the happier I am.
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
14 May 08
Well, I don't have a preference. I've had doctors of both genders. But there usually is a female nurse or my husband along with me. So, I don't feel as uncomfortable. And I'm sure I can make out the difference if a doctor's feeling me up or making a health check.
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• India
13 May 08
i think if it is for medical reason then it wont matter for me whether its male doctor or female doctor. once i had my medical check up, which i needed me to strip it was female doctor but there was nothing like touchy feel or so she was doing it as her duty and nothing else. So it hardly matters.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
13 May 08
For medical reasons or not, if I have to strip and have a doctor go all "touchy - feel" on me, I'd prefer a woman since, I'm a guy.
• United States
14 May 08
I'd prefer neither. I don't like doctors. I don't want a man feeling up on me, and I've been molested by a woman doctor.
• United States
14 May 08
It doesn't make a lot of difference to me. I don't like the students or extra observers though, male or female. I prefer as few people as possible in the room.