Losing a Mylot Treasure
By Sparks
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
Regina, Saskatchewan
May 14, 2008 12:59pm CST
I have just come from a discussion that has broken my heart.
An original user here is withdrawing from activity.
Now mylot is made up of different 'levels/classes/groups' whatever way you want to quantify it, of people.
There are those who are here for the money, those that are here for opportunity to improve their English, those that are here because it is their lifeline to the world outside, and those that are here just for the fun and a way to pass time with friends.
I don't really care why you are here. What I care about is the experience I have with you. Some are positive, some are not so positive, some are just plain ambivalent.
ONE stands out among all others. Our gissi's mom. She is a mylot treasure. Her humor, her caring, her trials and tribulations, her gissi stories about and from him, make my day.I have never seen her be mean, abrasive or negative to anyone in all the time I've known her. For someone who's life is filled with constant pain, to be able to maintain her belief in people, her positive interaction, and spread her love in ways most of us can't even fathom, is a triumph of human nature and we can ALL learn from her.
Lately though, mylot seems to be going through a period of negativity that is seeping into the consciousness of so many users, and manifesting in ways that are so disheartening to so many of us. It seems now that our own dear gissi's mom has begun to feel it too.
Do you know what true sweetness of nature is? Have you ever been touched by the sheer goodness of a person that you instinctively understand, regardless of your belief system, that you are in the presence of an angel - a pure soul? Such occurrences are truly very rare. Such individuals are truly very rare. Our gissi's mum is one such soul and we are killing her spirit with negativity. Most of us don't even realize what we are doing. Such is the state of our own state of mind in this tough, tough world we live in.
So on behalf of our gissi's mum, of good people everywhere, I urge you, I implore you, I beg you:
Stop and think. Find the 'angels' in your life and treasure them, protect them, exalt them, learn from them. Bring some sweetness and purity back to your own heart and life.
Earn your wings before you die.
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33 responses
@shannonjyl (421)
• Canada
14 May 08
Hi sparkofinsanity. You posted a really nice discussion. I have not met her but i understand how important people like her to have in our world. You must be a angel yourself to feel so touched by her. †
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
14 May 08
Whoa wait a sec here.."Gissi's mum" is leaving?? WHAT?! 
Did something in particular happen or is she just drained from all the bshyt?? Wow that so sucks..She can't leave!! I FORBID IT!! She's just so flippin adored here she can't go...
Mylot really REALLY needs to get a handle on the crap goin on around here starting wiht the trolls and cheaters..
Too many good long time members are tossin in the towel because of these b0neheaded wastes of space, skin and oxygen...
Did something in particular happen or is she just drained from all the bshyt?? Wow that so sucks..She can't leave!! I FORBID IT!! She's just so flippin adored here she can't go...
Mylot really REALLY needs to get a handle on the crap goin on around here starting wiht the trolls and cheaters.. Too many good long time members are tossin in the towel because of these b0neheaded wastes of space, skin and oxygen...7 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Here's the link to her discussion Raven:http://www.mylot.com/nr/newresponse.aspx?qid=1515516
Like you said - she is adored here, and always has been which is why her discussion cut me to the core to realize she is feeling this way.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Heck sorry - wrong link. Here's the right one:
www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1515516.aspx
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
14 May 08
Sounds good to me! I only wrote something slightly negative once, when I said I thought that "you are all nuts!" but that is mild coming from where I have lived and considering all the things that I have heard in my life time! I hope she stays with us and starts some good, positive discussions, because it is not easy to find those type of discussions!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
I remember the "you are all nuts" comment! LOL
Yes, Gabs always has such uplifting discussions and when her Gissi posts it's always a hoot. I've never seen Gabs say anything negative and losing her and her discussions is going to really ruin a lot of days here for me. She is such a joy to read.
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@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
14 May 08
I don't even know what to say! Gissi's Mum is someone I like to see here! She makes me laugh and, I love when Gissi speaks! This is sad! No one deserves to be hurt here and, there are some that need to be protected from the negativity here.
I am sorry to hear that Gissi's Mum is feeling that negativity. If I could, I would make sure that she never sees any of it here.
In fact, I would gladly stand in for the abuse. I would take the blows for and around everyone here so that it never touched another person here, directly or indirectly. Throw it at me and leave everyone else alone. If those that are so negative here need somewhere to put their negativity, they can put it all on me. I can handle it. I, however, can't handle my fellow myLotians feeling it, baring it, having to put up with it, being effected by it, and wanting to give up all together because of it.
I hope that Gissi's Mum can close her eyes to it and continue to move and be moved by those who have nothing but the need to have fun here on myLot!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
I've just come from her discussion again, and she's feeling much better. Her post count will go down, but she's not leaving for good. I'm sure we'll see more of Gissi now though than Gabs. I'm so glad we keep in touch off the lot. She's a darling and I do so feel for her.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
14 May 08
im not aquainted with this person you speak of.. but im very sorry that this is hurting you the way it so obviously is.
you hear people mention how random acts of kindness spread out like ripples in a pond from a tiny pebble tossed against its surface. the same holds true for the negative as well. people can either fuel and continue the positive or they can fuel the negative.. and i agree with you, that alot around here as of late (mostly newbs from what ive seen) are choosing to fuel the bad. im sory that the environment has turned so vile that yer friend has chosen to leave rather than weather it out until the wind changes directions. as i said earlier in my response to yer other discussion.. there are those who make it their goals to harm others.. regardless of their reasoning, theyve had a bad day, theyve got a hair across their a55 towards someone.. this behavior, this want and desire to hurt others as a form of entertainment.. is simply evil at its core as far as im concerned. if it brings any comfort at all.. what goes round DOES come back round.. Karma exists whether one believes or not, and these vindictive people who have caused yer friend to choose to flee.. will have to deal with what theyve chosen to put out into the world.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Well gissi's mum is feeling better now that some love has been rippled her way, so that's good. She just won't be here so often.
She is a tender heart and a mylot original and I've never in my life been so touched by the purity of soul as I have with Gissi's mum. She called me once and the son to be ex answered the phone and wouldn't let me talk to her. This tender, quiet, wouldn't lose her temper if her life depended on it lady, got so mad she called back a few minutes later, knowing I'd be sitting by the phone then. She then proceeded to tell me what she thought of the sob and it was all I could do not to drop my jaw in shock and/or laughter! She's a treasure and dropping her post count is going to make my days here boring indeed!
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@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
14 May 08
It's good to know there are other real people out there. That think about how special each of these other people are that we are in correspondance with. People tend to forget that on the internet, you are talking to real people. Real people read your words, and respond with real emotions. People should appreciate this openness and and sometimes frankly, the truth we all live every day....
thank you for showing me you are one of these beautiful people...
Sometimes we feel like we are just the receivers, the people who see this beauty in others, but that is what makes us a part of them, we are connected, we are alert and receptive to that which is genuinely good in this world..how beautiful..
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
14 May 08
Maybe myLot should make it a requirement that we use our real pictures! I use mine, so I know that what I say can and will come back to me! I remember hearing it in the supermarket one day a few months ago, the words I wrote about me, wanting to make friends! The person was not trying to make friends with me, just telling someone else what they read!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
What a lovely lovely post pitgull. I rather think you're beautiful in your soul too. How wonderful!
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@mamakat (321)
• United States
20 May 08
I'm so sorry to hear this! Though I've not been really active here yet, I do remember reading many of Gabs' discussions. I think I'd even responded to a couple of hers too.
How sad that there are so many people in the world (and more specifically, here) who have no problem bringing others down with their poor attitudes and overall negativity. We need more people like Gabs to bring people up with their cheerful, beautiful hearts and spirits.
Again, even though I'm not here nearly as much as most others, I will truly miss seeing and reading discussions and responses by Gabs. 
@mamakat (321)
• United States
20 May 08
I'm so glad to hear she won't be totally leaving! 
From what I've seen, it would be a huge loss for the whole community for her and her gissi to be gone altogether.
I don't know if I'll have the opportunity to tell her myself, but if you get a chance, tell her I'm glad she'll still be with us.
*gianormous hugs*
From what I've seen, it would be a huge loss for the whole community for her and her gissi to be gone altogether.
I don't know if I'll have the opportunity to tell her myself, but if you get a chance, tell her I'm glad she'll still be with us.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
21 May 08
I will mamakat - it will make her very happy.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
20 May 08
Cheer up mamakat. Gabs is still going to be here, just posting less. We won't lose her completely. She got such love and support from the people here who COUNT (lol) that she decided to stick around, just on a more 'back burner' basis.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
14 May 08
wow, girl you really touched me with this post. to be able to know people like that is a true blessing. and i am sorry to see her or anyone else leave mylot. I she finds it in her to stay and be around those who bring that smile to her face and pay no mind to those who want to bring you down. misery loves company and you have to be very aware who you allow around you. I am going to look for her and give her big ol mylot hug.
you 100% right, when you find people who have that inner love and beauty you make sure you keep them close. those are the people that make you a better person
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Gabs is a mylot tradition momma. She is THE shining example of love and support and friendship and to know she feels this way is a crime. Do go and give her hug, she deserves it in spades!
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
14 May 08
Your discussion was touching. I know there are people on here that are so encouraging and uplifting. I do not understand why anyone has to be rude, negative or downgrading. We are not put in this world for that reason. We are put here to uplift, encourage and be there for one another. I would count it such a blessing if someone were to say just a small percentage of good things as you have about gussi's mum. God bless you, Gussi's mum.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Well how's this mama:
Your response here has lifted my heart. To 'meet' a new person, and find them full of love and understanding instead of meanness and rudeness when they don't know me and I don't know them, is a blessing, and what puts the magic in mylot.
Thank you so much for your kind words, and please join my friends list. You sound like my kind of people and we can never have enough of those around here! Hugs.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Hello mama, and welcome to my list. Good to have you!
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@mummymo (23706)
•
14 May 08
Spark my darling you have made me cry! I wish I could put my feelings out there in this way , in any way - to have such eloquence and heartfelt emotions and be able to express them so clearly! As for our beloved Gissi's mum I do understand what you are saying! I am not sure exactly what has happened but I am going to try to speak to her right now! It does tear my heart when friends are hurt in this way - I just think that we have to be there for him , to try and make them see their worth and their goodness and to build up their confidence and self esteem! I love your post and I love your heart and most of all sweety I love you! xxx
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Mummy, I know that you talk to her all the time. Between you and me - reassure her as much as you can. She is soooo tender hearted and feels things so deeply. So many people love her, but don't really understand her. I think you do. Be there for her, let her rant and rave and cry, and as YOU said - build up her confidence and self esteem. She IS a treasure and if I could be with her I would. So I'm counting on you to take care of our girl off site, ok? Thanks sweetheart - I love you too.
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@mummymo (23706)
•
15 May 08
Thanks spark - and I think I do understand her quite well - I am even allowed to tell her off without her getting upset , as long as I don't tell Gissi off! Spoke to her last night and I will today again! I think she will be ok - but also needs a break and a bit of space from here just now, even if it is just for a say or 2. We will have her so full of confidence soon if I have anything to do with it! Hugs xxx
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
14 May 08
Well that certainly was a mouthful. LOL. I respect you sticking up for a friend in this manner. I hope she doesn't leave, but I too have considered leaving in the past, although I was talked out of it. I know how discouraging the negativity on this site can be.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Join dumblindizzy's (see post directly above) Marble Brigade Kat and we'll never let the negativity get to you again. I wish I'd been getting alerts on your own problem and I would have been there for you too. It's shameful what some people get away with here.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
18 May 08
I know whom of which you speak and She is usually in all of my discussions and she brings such happiness with her. I always look forward to hearing from here and I miss her. She is a wonderful person that I am grateful that I have gotten to know her. I hope that the negativity that has been going on soon ends and that She will come back to us refreshed and more wonderful than ever.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 May 08
Yep - she's decided to stay but just post less. The outpouring of support for her was amazing and she's feeling much better. Now if we can only do the same for oneandonemakesix (Mooch), I'll be a happy camper!
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
15 May 08
I have lost a mylot treasure, my friend Loungeact and I miss him so. I almost lost my other treasure P1kefish and I couldn't bear the thought of that either. Luckily he reconsidered. I don't know her but I hope for her sake she doesn't leave. I would have liked to meet yet another mylot person who could touch people like so many I know here do. Hopefully she won't leave! :(
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
15 May 08
If a 'friend' is questioning gabs, then that 'friend' really isn't a true friend. I may not know a whole lot about her but what I do know, I love and am learning more and more about the 'angel from overseas'.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Gabs is feeling better now Skinny. She will not leave for good, but will just post less. She was on the receiving end of a 'friend' questioning her veracity and it broke her heart. But there are so many many people who know her and love her and won't let her go. As for Loungeact - pm me.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
That's what hit her so hard briar. She and this person have known each other for so long, to suddenly lose trust now. But that's been the theme of mylot these past few months hasn't it? Trolls and others breaking trusts all over the place.
It's sad and sick and has to stop!
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
17 May 08
it can be painfull to loose someone who truly inspires us and make our lives easier,the sense of loss is enough to give pain but isnt there a way we can persuade her to stay and continue to inspire more people?i have actually persuaded somebody to saty on here along with some other guys and it ahs worked let us do same and i believe it can also work.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
18 May 08
am happy she decided to stay on eventually,and thanks for responding back to let me know
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
17 May 08
Actually BYOLA, this thread and the support she got from her friends on her thread, have convinced her to stay. She will post less, but not disappear. How cool is that! Mylot rocks!!!!
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
16 May 08
Amen Sparky! I could not say this any better even if I tried.... thank you for the wake up call. We all no matter why you are here need our Mylot Angels.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
16 May 08
Did you see Kamran's response? Do read it. He said it so much better than me. Every time I read him, I learn and often he makes me cry with understanding.
Such a treasure, him too, but our Gabs - I just can't imagine the site without her or Mooch.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 May 08
I quite agree with you that there are some outstanding members here on mylot, which make our day, which makes us smile and which bring in us a feeling of optimism and positivity. I am not sure about the member, you have mentioned, is in my list of friends or not, yet I do believe that she would be a nice person. You have written whole lot about her. I always try to bring smile on the faces of others with my positive efforts here on mylot and I constantly follow my path. I believe, if I can make anyone smile here and can make her/him feel happy, nothing like that. Likewise, when dear friends write sweet and kind words about my post, I feel elated.
An excellent post by you.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 May 08
Spark, Nice and kind friends like you always write positive and sweet things. Thanks for your kind words.
Deepak
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww, thanks dpk. I think you're pretty special too! Hugs.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Thanks dpk. You are always so kind and sweet and loving. You and Gabs have a lot in common. I think you would be great friends!
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
14 May 08
Hello Spark!:-)
You have such a way with the words and ability to write your heart out that, sometimes, I read your posts twice, not for comprehension but just to enjoy the writing. I see that there is much to be learned from you in this regard!:-)
As for Gissi's mom, our friend, Gabs, I came to know her a long time ago here. At the time, I thought of her as a beautiful young lady, always having avatars of smart blond girls in style, that communicated her innocence, fairness, sensitive nature and sweetness. When we met, it was by an accident, but a sweet one. We became friends. But, then, I moved out of this site for a long period and when I came back, I was only participating in argumentative and debating discussions. My loss of activity or just a mere accident caused me to be out of her list, but we met again when I came back to 'normal' discussion areas.
About this second time here, I came to know about the troubles and misfortunes she has been through in her life. The dreaded experiences she have had are enough to make even a strong willed and tough person crumble, go insane, lose hope or even life. She didn't allow any of this happen to her. Instead, she fought like a warrior and not only was she able to beat these horrific experiences and move on, but she kept her humane nature intact. I don't know how much courage, strength and resilience she has, it's unimaginable for me, because with all those experiences it's not easily conceivable that someone can still be so positive, caring, friendly and sweet that she is.
I don't understand why anyone would or even could choose to be negative to her. In all my time here, whether or not we were interacting, I haven't ever seen her mean, nasty or just plain rude to anyone that I know of. She never tries to be confrontational either, as far as I know her. That makes it difficult for me to understand a behavior of picking on her . I wouldn't like it if she leaves this site and I hope she doesn't. In fact, if I am right in my understanding of her, she won't leave. she is a fighter, too, and as it's not fitting for a fighter to leave the ground so she wouldn't.
Thank you spark for this discussion!
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
15 May 08
I am really glad to now that she isn't leaving...I thought she wouldn't. I didn't really know what caused her discussion but I felt that she is really hurt and I felt sad about it. Thank you for your kind words, spark, but I am no where near in expression as you and many others here are, from whom I learn. And, thanks for the best response!:-)
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Kamran, you are better than you think. I learn so much from you. You deserve best response, believe me.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
15 May 08
Again Kamran, you have taken my meaning, my feelings and put them into beautiful words of your own. I am humbled.
You will be glad to know that Gabs is now feeling better - that fighting nature of hers - and though she will participate less, she will not leave us completely.
I literally cried when I read her last discussion and cried all through the writing of mine. To know that Gabs was so hurt and so undeserving of such pain, just broke my heart.
THANK YOU Kamram for your response. And many hugs friend - you are a true gentleman and an example to all as Gabs is.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
14 May 08
I guess just as there are people here for different reasons, different things get under different peoples skin differently. (Ouch that hurt my head typing that)
I see negativity all over this site. In both discussions and comments alike. I have been known to start my own negatively charged discussions but the proof of such has gone the way of the dinosaur thanks to admin but I admit to doing it.
But with the bad comes the good. I can get over the negativity because I know that someone is always at the ready with a kind word, a funny joke, or just a genuine "how are you doing" to brighten some of my cloudiest of days.
Don't get me wrong, I get the message you are sending to everyone and it is a good message and I am sorry that we are losing such a treasure but it is going to take more than some negativity to get me to go anywhere.
Maybe she just needs a break. Who can stay away for us for too long? Many have tried and failed. I predict she will return, well rested and ready to give it another go.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
I hope so Cyn, I really do. Gabs is unlike anyone I've ever met. She astounds me, she really does. I treasure all my friends - but there is a quality of the innocent about Gabs that brings out my protective instincts, and the whole time she is smiling at me and saying "it's ok sparks, it's ok, I'll be fine" but I know she won't and there is so little I can do to help her. I'm crying now....I have to go.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
15 May 08
Thank you spark for this timely reminder.
I do not know this member that you speak of but you are right in saying that the negativity of others can kill even the most beautiful of souls.
For some reason where ever I go at the moment, here at myLot and in the real world it seems as if people are being sucked into a vacuum of negativity.
While it may be true that at times the world seems cruel and unfair there is no reason for us to let that manifest itself within us. We need to embrace kindness and caring. Look for it where ever we go and deposit such acts where they are absent.
If we all took the time to just a little bit more thoughtful the world as a whole would start to improve.
As I travel through today I will have you words in mind as I free my fairies and angels within.
~ may in every way this be a special day ~
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
16 May 08
What lovely words and terrific response Lou. Thank you so much - and don't forget to play with those fairies and angels as you free them - spread the love and laughter! Hugs to you.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 May 08
Gaby's leaving? boo
Must go talk with her...
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 May 08
Go to Raven's response above #2, and follow the link I put there.
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