My Fiance Can't Decide : Any Ideas on Groomsmen?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
May 15, 2008 1:20am CST
My Fiance has been a bit worried about what to do when it comes to his groomsmen..... He would like to use all of his close friend's but I will only have three bridesmaids. He has decided to ask his dad to be the best man , and he's worried that his friends will be upset. I have told him that they won't be and that they will understand. I had the idea of using one of his friends for something else significant in the wedding, but we're not sure what?
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Does anyone have any good ideas for what his extra friend could do for us in the ceremony?[/b]I don't think that they'd be very happy with being the ring barer, as well, his father will be holding the ring anyway. I can't think of anything, and wanted to know of everyone's ideas.... oh and before you ask, no they won't be the flower girl either. I wouldn't ask, and they wouldn't do it anyway.
If it helps, the theme is western.
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3 responses
@hcpoirot (1562)
• Indonesia
16 May 08
How many close friends did your fiancee had? Its a toughie situation here. In a wedding, the most important part beside grooms and bride are the groomsmen and the bridemaids. You need to check on lots of internet about wedding ceremony the. I am out of ideas here. Hello anyone? This is a real interesting topic and only 2 people response here???
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 May 08
He has three really close friends. It is a tough situation, which is why I asked for advice. Thanks for responding, and I am surfing the net for ideas...
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
16 May 08
Yeah I have three really close friends who I want to include in the wedding,and one who isnt as close and that if I could include him it would be cool,but I am not gonna stress on whether he is in the wedding or not,atleast not at this moment.
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@hcpoirot (1562)
• Indonesia
17 May 08
Congrats for both of you hellcowboy and somecowgirl for your soon to be wedding. 
I had a simple advice, why not asking hellcowboy mom as somecowgirl bridemaid also? So you will have 4 bridemaid and 4 groomsmen.
I know somecowgirl only wanted 3 bridesmaid. But i do think parents should have special dispensation as special bridemaid.
I had a simple advice, why not asking hellcowboy mom as somecowgirl bridemaid also? So you will have 4 bridemaid and 4 groomsmen.
I know somecowgirl only wanted 3 bridesmaid. But i do think parents should have special dispensation as special bridemaid.1 person likes this
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
18 May 08
First of all, I'm sure his friends will understand his father being his best man. As for your actual question, I'm not sure what denomination you are, but there are usually several readings during the ceremony. Could he do one of those.
One one of my friends did, was instead of having them involved in the actual ceremony, they all gave a short speech about their friend/the couple at the beginning of the reception. This makes it much more casual, but just an idea.
Congratulations and Good Luck!
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
18 May 08
Thank you for your suggestions, but it actual got worked out all by itself. A friend of mine and my fiance had asked to be one some months ago, but we weren't really sure whether he wanted to or not. Yesterday we talked to him and he's really excited about it. Also, his fiance, another one of our friends will be another one of my bridesmaid. If a friend of mine doesn't want to do it, we'll ask his mom to step in.
Thanks for the suggestions though, and I think that it's really cool that your friend had their friends do a reading for them at the ceremony. We will consider that, if anything else comes up about descrepences for the wedding party.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Yes we got it all worked out,and I am very glad that we did,because it was a lot less stress on us,and my friends were very understanding when I told them I want my dad to be my best man,except now we have decided to kick out most of the bridal party,and replace three out of four of them with people from our county,and we already have people in mind,we just have to talk to them about being in the wedding,the one we are keeping is already from our county,and we trust her to actually go all the way when it comes to helping us prepare for the wedding,and we trust her to actually show up on whatever day we set for the wedding.Also, we have relinquished all contact with her friends, for other reasons.They probably will not even come to our wedding, which is kind of better,because thats a few less people at the wedding,which will help cut down on expenses and means a little less money we will have to spend on food.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 May 08
I can't see his friends doing that. Thanks for the suggestion, it had crossed my mind when I read something about wedding ceremonies online just a few minutes ago.
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