What will you do when your husband raise his voice at you when he is angry?

Some men are like that and I would advice your friend to speak with him on this topic whenever they are in a cool and comfortable atmosphere. She should explain to him how he affect her whenever he behave like this. Sometimes we women get low self-esteem when our husband/lover behave in a disrespecting way but we must express ourself to them so that they know that they are hurting us. Some men will adjust while others will not.

There is a saying that goes; You are the master of your words until the moment they pass your lips. It's good that you are there for your friend and can comfort her but it's impossible to ignore hurtful words when they come from someone you love and who is supposed to love you. Maybe your friend should talk to her husband about his hurtful words during a time when he is not angry and see if he will stop. Otherwise she may decide one day that she does not want to be his wife any longer.

I've never had Hubby insult me like that...I wouldn't stand for that. I have had him get heated about a topic and raise his voice and I just tell him "Alright, cool down, you don't need to shout". He gets quiet for a few minutes and then we talk normally again. I'll admit though that when I get heated up about something I tend to be the same way. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Mostly man shares his high-tones to his woman, just because the girl pushed him too hard, in the wrong place and the wrong condition. This is a time where he needs his own space. Because in his normal state, a man would think ten times before yelling at his woman/wife. Usually, a woman who kept complaining her problem without noticing the right timing, either her husband is ready to listen to her or not, will have a chance to face this kind situation. We suppose to learn on how to detect his situation. Does it the right time, that's what we need to ask him. Sometimes he is tired after comes home, and want to watch TV without bothering from her woman. He needs to be relax. When he returns, then it might a chance he will listen to us. The more chance we create for him, the quicker he will return to us. If we kept pushing, his emotional will be felt confronted. That time his emotional will build an emotional barricade to hold her woman's word. Even more he will stop to listen and return it to his woman, you'd just mentioned about the rude word. That is where he is in the phase. If she kept continuing the words, usually there are two outcomes, physical abuses or he leaves his woman -get key car, lock himself in bedroom, you named it. This depends on how bad his mood is at that time. You had done half part right to tell your friend to ignore him. But just because your friend now felt unfair on how he responded to her, she will continue "trying to cure" his husband. Probably, she will keep pushing on him later, then until one phase, she will stop. When she stops, the relationship is in the middle of the line, it can be go to "separation" or "normal" field. It all depends on how both personality deals with each of their forgiveness. If they stand on the ground persisting each argument, she will be likely lost hope and love from him. That time, your friend will totally blame on herself. The sign of hatred to enter into her emotional, also the dawn of her relationship's fall.

I think the best thing at that time is to keep quiet. It will affect more than uttering few bad words to the husband. In the moment of heat it will be better for the partners to keep quiet at that moment.

I'm quite sensitive with the way husbands treat their wives because I am a wife myself. Good thing that I have a loving husband who loves, respects and treats me well. Women who suffer bad treatments from their husbands must not take things sitting down. If I were your friend, I will call my husband into a heart to heart talk to let him know my feelings. But before that, the wife must first and foremost submit herself to God and pray hard so that she would be given the wisdom on how she would confront the man. The Bible is very clear on this matter as stated in Ephesians 5:25 " Husbands love you wives even as Christ loves his church and gave himself for it." If the husband will still not change after the heart to heart talk. The wife should continue praying for her husband and may I suggest that they should go to a Marriage Councelor.

I have a quick temper and if he raises his voice to me I raise more :) But nowadays I try to think for a second to see if he is right and then try to wait him to calm down and then take my revenge :D

It's different if he's upset and she takes it personally, it's another thing if when he's angry he attacks and harrasses her. That's not a good sign of a healthy relationship. If she's never stood up to him, maybe she needs to. She needs to let her husband know that she is supposed to be his other half, and she can handle him being upset, but not him directing his anger at her. If they have other issues, they need to talk about them, and be open with each other. This can only lead to worse fights, or worse, directed towards her later on. She shouldn't be putting up with her husbands insults, a husband is not there to tell you that you're a bad person, a husband is supposed to be on your team. If he's demeaning you and has no respect, there are a lot of other issues you'll have to deal with forever...