Can a child ever have too many cuddles?
By liquorice
@liquorice (3887)
May 15, 2008 6:49pm CST
Do you think that you should always give your child a cuddle when they want one, or do you think it makes them too needy and dependent on you?
I feel that you should be liberal with your cuddles! It's important for a child to feel loved, supported and reassured, and I don't think it's possible for them to be cuddled too much (unless it's actually against their will of course 
). My friends agree with this and we all show our kids lots of affection, but I've heard other people say that you shouldn't 'over-cuddle' your children or they won't know how to stand on their own two feet and will grow up spoilt.
What do you think?
). My friends agree with this and we all show our kids lots of affection, but I've heard other people say that you shouldn't 'over-cuddle' your children or they won't know how to stand on their own two feet and will grow up spoilt.
What do you think?1 person likes this
3 responses
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
16 May 08
Oh I think everyone needs hugs no matter how old they are and when they are younger and want them more often it can be hit or miss when they are in the teens. My youngest 13 and oldest 23 love hugs still to this day. My middle daughter does not like them as often but every once in a while she will come to me and she has a look that tells me it is hug time. I myself and a very huggy kind of person! I love hugs giving and receiving. No child can ever get spoiled with too many hugs or cuddling time in my opinion.
@liquorice (3887)
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17 May 08
Yes, I think that's true, eveyone needs some comfort sometimes. It's so sweet that all three of your children still come to you for hugs, even if the middle one is maybe isn't so keen sometimes (probably at that awkward stage!)
I agree about not being able to spoil somebody with too much cuddling time, thanks for your answer.
@WANDALIE44 (888)
• United States
16 May 08
its good to give your baby/child hugs it shows you love them and you care, i always hug my kids, i could just be sitting their and ill tell them come mommy wants to give you a hug. i feel better after we hugs. so yes hugs are good.
@WANDALIE44 (888)
• United States
17 May 08
yes y daugther is very close to me, my son fights me half the time, but i know he loves me very much too..
@liquorice (3887)
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17 May 08
Yes, hugs are nice for mummy as well of course! Your kids must feel like they get lots of affection from you, and must feel very close to you, which is lovely.
Thank you for your answer.
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
16 May 08
As long as parent and child are happy together, I don't think its possible for the child to have too many cuddles. If the child acts like s/he's feeling smothered, then the parent should back off, otherwise, I think all will be just fine.
@liquorice (3887)
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17 May 08
Yes, I agree, cuddling someone against their will is a bit cruel; I'm careful to only cuddle my daughter when she wants me to. Lately she's started to come to me for cuddles a lot more, think she's going through a clingy stage. I'm fine with this (of course!) but wanted some opinions about this, given that I've been hearing the opposite view as well.
Thanks for your answer.
