Having a hard time getting along with step children?
By Bebs08
@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
May 15, 2008 7:30pm CST
Many step dads or step moms said, it's hard to get along with step children. It needs patience and understanding. some also are not having a hard time. They proudly said, their step children are good, respectful and nice kids.
How did you manage to get along with your step children?
I just want to know, I might gain some insights.
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4 responses
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
16 May 08
I married an older man, so my step-children are all grown up. At first some of them thought I was the bimbo their Dad hooked up with, because I'm so much younger, but in time I proved to them that I married him because I really love him, and all is well. My youngest step-son is the only one who is youner than I am. LOL He's a teenager, and when he realized that I was NOT going to mother him, we got along just fine!
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
16 May 08
I feel that it is easier to get on with step-sons than daughters as of what I have seen from others, and have found out myself.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
16 May 08
My husband and I both came in to his sons life at the same time. He was just 18 months old. It was the mothers fault, she never told him that he could be the father. Anyways, ever since my stepson was 2 years old he called me Mommy. He will now be 5 in 2 weeks. His mom doesnt like that he calls me mommy, but he is doing it by choice. My mom told me I'm obviously I'm doing something right to get that title. I treat him with the same respect and love I give my own 2 daughters. He even gets "mommy time" with me. I pick one day to spend with just my oldest daughter, then another day with my youngest daughter then I pick one day for just my stepson. In my household there is no "step" we are a family and he is just my son. The world doesnt see it that way but we do. He loves the one-on-one time with just me, he talks to my parents on the phone, instead of my daughters going to the store I ask him if he wants to go. It's little things like that, that truely make this little guy happy. I hope everything works out and this gives you a little insight. Good post
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
16 May 08
I really like the way you deal with your step son. The good thing here is that.... your step son is still a young boy. it is different when you are dealing with step children who are in their teens. The young children would just be easy to deal with if you treat them like your own children.
congratulations!!! thanks for replying
@caramello (4377)
• Australia
16 May 08
Well for me it failed and therefore I have come to the conclussion that some "children" even though they can be adults choose not to get along and that is that. Hence my hubby very rarely sees his 3 daughters and the youngest no longer talks to him. For some time I blamed myself as my 2 children treated him with respect, but now have moved on from the situation and accepted it. For some it can work but not for all. Good luck as this is a hard one.
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@brucekaushik (891)
• India
16 May 08
well i think it get hard if you don't understand them or if you don't want to understand them ... but all i say is to treat them well like your own children and your hard times can end soon.
