What if he doesn't believe her?

@mamuzo (225)
South Africa
May 16, 2008 8:04am CST
A friend of mine wants my advice and I seek for your help . . . she left for Dubai in February to work there for a year or two. She is married and they both decided it was ok for her to go before they start a family. Whilst in Dubai she starts feeling weak and sick most of the time and she thought it was only the late hours of hard work which she wasn't used to here in SA. She phoned her husband and told him she wants to resign as she could not take it anymore. She resigned, waiting for her husband to send cash for her to come home she got even more sick that she had to go to the doctor. Doctor did some tests and found out she is about 2-3 months pregnant. She's not told the husband yet, she's waiting to come home first. She reckons he might have other ideas. Do think she has a reason to worry?? If you were the husband, would you believe her?? And what would you do if you were in her shoes??
4 responses
• United States
16 May 08
So your friend is worried that her husband might not think the baby is his? You say she left in Febuary, and she is 2 or 3 months pregnant...when exactly did she leave in Febuary? That is cutting it close, but it is also possible it's his child. If your friend didn't cheat then she has nothing to worry about! And if her husband really doesn't believe her than she can tell him she is willing to get a dna test! That'll prove 100% that the baby is in fact his. And he'll be able to trust her after that proof!
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
16 May 08
Thanks for your response, she in fact left on the 28 February (on their anniversary).
• United States
16 May 08
Oh well then there you go! That would probably have been the time she got pregnant then. hehe. But just in case he doesn't believe her, a test is all the proof he'll need. Who knows, maybe when she tells him he won't even suspect she's cheated!
• United States
21 May 08
Thanks for the best repsonse. I'm glad that I was helpful to you and your friend! At least I hope I was!! lol. It is quite a situation she's in! :0 Good luck to her! And Congratulations on the baby!!
@magrylouyu (1629)
• United States
16 May 08
That is a close call. I can see where he might be having his doubts in not believing her. I think he should send her the money to come home so he can help her out. If he still doesnt believe her they can just do a DNA test. If he doesnt send her some money maybe another family member can help her out to get back home? Good luck to your friend.
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
16 May 08
Thanks for your response, but does my friend have any reason to worry here? Can the husband just decide he doesn't believe her and leave her in Dubai??
@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
16 May 08
this is sort of a tough one but if i was in her shoes i would tell him because it is critical too make sure that the baby is healthy and that she does not have any complications during the birth process so my thoughts are too tell him!!!!
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
16 May 08
Thanks for you response, my friend is worried that the husband my have other ideas and not send the money for her to come home, this is why she needs to wait to get home first before she tells the hubby.
@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
16 May 08
if she's not far from the truth then she has nothing to fear,for me i left my hubby some time that months too she now told me she havn't seen her monthly period that makes nothing much to me cos i know what ever she said happened they both can calculate the months she left it's a simple cal she has nothing to fear only if she's not far from the truth.as for her husband she should pretend ontill she gets home then they go to a doctor over there not showing him the result of dubai. i guess if he's reasonable things will work out good.all the best.