How would you deal with your lazy kids?

@Bebs08 (10685)
United States
May 16, 2008 3:57pm CST
wow!! this is what I would like to know from others. I know of parents who are not teaching their kids to do household chores that ended up the kids know nothing when they already are in their teens. Even to wash their underwear they refuse to do it. I'm just wondering of what future would this bring to their kids? Poor kids... How did you deal with your kids so that they would know how to do things and not become lazy?
4 responses
@phoenix25 (1542)
• United States
17 May 08
Well, my son is only 4 years old, but he helps me with household chores even at this young age. As he has gotten more able to understand and follow commands, I have slowly started to asks him to do more things. It is really just easy things like I will hand him wet clothes from the washer and he will put them in the dryer, or I will ask him to put something away in a drawer. I get him to throw trash away pretty often and I will tell him where to put toys when I am cleaning up. He is slow to understand what I am asking sometimes and somemtimes he gets confused. It often takes longer for him to do something than it would take for me to do it, but I figure that it is more important that he learns now that he needs to help with household chores than for it to get done quickly. The more we practice, the better he gets at it and he gets to see that cleaning up doesn't have to be a droll, boring undertaking. I think a lot of parents might not do these things with their very young kids and may not be patient enough to let their child complete tasks that are asked of them, so they just end up doing it for the kid. The kid doesn't really learn anything this way and as they grow older, they might not really be too receptive to cleaning up and doing chores.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
18 May 08
Good points!! that is really true.. thanks for replying
@kezabelle (2984)
17 May 08
Its simple they can do it or not do it but they know there's consequences if they dont. if they refuse to help me in the house then as they are little they get time out or a toy removed. I dont expect a lot of my children but I do expect them to grow up knowing that things dont just happen you have to work for them or make them happen wether it be a huge dream or a simple dinner. They have to help me clear toys and take their dishes out to the kitchen etc they are 4 and 2 and the chores are set to their level of understand and capabilities, every child will be "lazy" and refuse now and again the best thing that I see is to make sure they realise the consequences if they refuse make sure theres a punishment and stick to it. As for not ashing underwear if they are teenagers tell their friends that should shift them! My mum did that with my sisters filthy bedroom she said not to let her boyfriend in their my mum told him to go straight on through, she tidied it that night, at almost 21 she should know better anyway I think she learnt her lesson!
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
18 May 08
Well,That is also a good idea. Thanks for replying!!!
@mychattime (1013)
16 May 08
I must admit that when I was in my teens I was never given chores to do, however I got a part time job waitressing so I learnt to do things for my self, well cook mainly, i then moved away from home at 19 to be with my boyfriend (my now hubby), I moved 250 miles away and had to learn to stand on my own 2 feet so to speak! What I am trying to say is these kids will make what they want to out of life although I must admit when my son is older he will be doing chores, he is just 5 and already has to do little things like help tidy his toys and he puts some of his washig away but at the moment he likes to help, I know this will change as he gets older but I will try and enforce chores in our house as I think they are good and will prepare him for leaving home and not make him dependent on anyone else.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
16 May 08
Oh!! that's good!! at least you experience how hard it is to learn things when you are already older. You son will not be having a hard time in his teens because you are teaching to do things at his young age. I do hope that all parents would realized these things. thanks for replying
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
16 May 08
my teenager is very lazy and it is not that she doesnt know how to do things, it is just that she is too lazy! she seems to have no motivation and i sure hope she changes by the time that she hits adult hood or she sure will be in trouble!
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
16 May 08
Oh no!!! she must know how to do things now.. it will be very hard for her when she will be living alone? How would she be able to manage by herself? that's kind hard... I hope she would realize that before she moves away from you. thanks for the reply