Would you dump a guy on his birthday? Or, wait until the next day?

United States
May 20, 2008 10:51am CST
Once, I heard about a woman who was kicked out of her house with her baby by her husband on Christmas morning. And, I was pretty sure that wouldn't make him look good in divorce court. What kind of ogre kicks his own baby (and baby mama) out into the cold on Christmas? So, has somone ever broken up with you on Valentines day or Christmas or some other special day like that? Would you break up with a guy on his birthday? Do you think people do that kind of stuff so the breakup stings worse than it should? Sort of adding insult to injury. Or, indignity to defeat?
5 people like this
13 responses
@Shaun72 (15965)
• Palatka, Florida
20 May 08
Oh yes two of my ex boyfriends broke up with me either the day bbefore my birthday or on my birthday. Then my ex husband left me 2 weeks before Christmas. I am glad we never had any kids. He was a big waste of time.
1 person likes this
• United States
6 Jul 08
What a lousy thing for a guy to do!
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
20 May 08
i think if the opportunity comes, i will break up with the person, no matter what date it is. i just had to tell him that we need to break up or i might have to wait for a better chance again.
1 person likes this
@nancyrowina (3850)
20 May 08
It depends on the circumstances, if he thought everything was fine and was happy with me I'd leave it till the next day, but if we'd had a huge argument and the feeling was mutual I'd split up with him. I'd never throw my partner out on Christmas day though that's just going to far. It's hard to find alternative accommodation at that time of year and all that especially with a baby. We don't know what the woman had done maybe she deserved it, but the baby was innocent and could have been put in danger so it's a terrible thing to do.
1 person likes this
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
20 May 08
My next oldest brother had this girlfriend that dropped him at his 30th birthday party and to make it worse another girl walked behind while he was sitting at the table and said, "is that a bald spot I see" that was not a birthday he ever wanted to remember for sure. To make things even worse she and his best friend started going out and eventually got married. He never forgave them, even to his dying day.
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
20 May 08
I would never do anything to intentionally hurt someone on his birthday or any other special day and on one's ever done anything like that to me. I did read somewhere that Christmas is the most stressful holiday so maybe the man you mentioned just snapped...on top of being a jerk.
1 person likes this
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
21 May 08
I've never broken up with anyone on a holiday or had anyone do that to me. I think it's probably just a way to twist the knife a little more. Some ppl are really cruel that way. I wouldn't break up with a guy on his birthday...if things are bad enough to break up I'd probably do it before the birthday. That way maybe the birthday will cheer him up. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• United States
6 Jul 08
That's a good idea!
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
21 May 08
I won't break up to him on his birthday. It seems to be so cruel. After all, I loved him before and I am unable to do so. I don't think it's good to break up in special holidays and days. It makes people feel worse. I love China
• United States
21 May 08
Yes, it could be bad luck to do such a thing.
• Canada
20 May 08
If I was going to break up with someone, I'd just do it on some ordinary day of the year, not on a day like Valentine's Day, birthday, holiday, etc. I think that's a pretty dang low thing to do to someone, and I would never do that.
• United States
6 Jul 08
Way low!
• United States
6 Jul 08
wow. that is crazy but there are a lot of heartless people out there. I wouldn't want that done to me therefore I wouldnt do that to anyone else. Thinking about breaking up with someone is never just an impulse thing. People often think about it for a while. Therefore, why wait to do it on a holiday? People who do that are looking for power over your emotions. Something to make them feel that they are in control. The only way I would break up with my boyfriend on his birthday or any other holiday is if he just outrightly disrespects me with no regards to my feelings or cheats on me in front of my face...or something extreme like that. If someone is willing to do that, then we definitely dont need to be together.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
21 May 08
I think I'll wait till the next time (unless I hate the guy so much that I forget it was his birthday!) I think it's really mean to break up on a special day and spoil the day for the person concerned. People might do it to hurt someone else....but I don't think I can do it...even if the other person has been mean to me or hurt me more.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
21 May 08
In rationally thought, it would be a crude timing. But once anger is inside the quarrel, it won't remember, "Oh now it's X-mas, we better continue this quarrel tomorrow, deal?" or "It's X-mas, I will kick you out tomorrow." Broken-up comes is exactly the same on how the love's appeared in a couple.
• United States
21 May 08
If I had plans to break up with someone I would make sure to do it before any major holiday. I think it's downright terrible to dump someone right before or after a birthday (yours or theirs) or a major holiday, especially if that person just went out of their way to buy you an expensive gift. It's like using them just for their money.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
21 May 08
i think no, not on his borthday. whatever may be the reason, still that can hold for 1 day more. birthday is a special day for any person. the pain would be more. also this will be inhuman.