Update on dad

You are very sweet to care for your Dad like this..Though you say he can't stand it, and I can kind of see his point of view of having his child care for him when he feels it should be the other way around, I am sure he also appreciates your efforts..

I am a caretaker for my 81 y/o mom and it is difficult at times. She has mental problems on top of her other health problems. Actually the mental problems are the worst. It is very hard to care for her. She seems to resent it and will go out of her way to do the opposite of what I tell her to do. Sometimes it is so frustrating. Do you have that problem with your dad?

I hope the check up goes well for your Dad Grandpa Bob and that he gets the treatment he needs to get better :)

Looks like there is not all that much left that needs to be cut. I can see why it is only about once a month. I am sure that as much as he hates having you have to take care of him he is also pretty darn grateful.

I did not realize that your Dad had had a fall, I am glad that he is OK, and it is a good job he has a good son to take care of him so well!! When I was a care assistant in a nursing home I used to have to shave the male patients, they all suffered with varying degrees of alzheimers and dementia. I remember my first ever shave, it was awful, and I had one of the worst residents of the home too, he had alzheimers and when he was lucid he was lovely, but then when he was not aware of himself gosh he was evil!! I sat him there and I shaved him, I had been shown how to give a proper shave and followed what I had been taught, so why did he have small chunks missing out of his face when I had finished? He wanted to see himself when he had been done, and when he did he went nuts, he clouted me around the head, I ran out of the room quick and he chased me all around the nursing home until eventually he forgot what he was upset about, and then wondered why I was not being friendly with him!! That was just one of many clashes that we had.

Hey Grandpa Bob! I am glad to hear that your dad is doing ok! And, he will probably be appreciative when all is said and done and he realizes how great you have been with making sure he does what he needs to do! You are being a great son! Well done!

I'm answering this from the link in the email notification.. but I will have to come and see the pic of your dad.. He's very lucky/blessed to have you! [And you him of course!]

Well Grandpa Bob whether he likes it or not whether he is happy with it or not he has to put up with it I am sorry that he can still not walk properly yet though I hope that will soon get better to

Glad to hear dad is still doing pretty good. That fall gave us all a scare. I wonder why he's not walking too good? Lazy or he really can't. Good thing you are his caretaker, Grandpa Bob, or your dad might not even be alive today or at least he would be in worse shape if he was still by himself.

Well AGB you are doing the right thing - my Gran gets mad with me when I make her do things like go to the Drs or not climb into the loft lol - she thinks she is superwoman at 84! I know it can be difficult when we have to take charge of our elderly parents or grandparents but we have to grit our teeth and remember that one day that old pain could be us! xxx

GP Bob only shaving him once a month? Now I can see the hair cut, but shaving, is he trying to be a mountain man, lol? No I understand where you are coming from. It is really hard on our parents when they become dependent on us for care. Before my mom passed away she lived with my sister. We had an aide come in twice a week to help with her baths and such, because my sister has ms and I have 5 kids to look after 6 at that time. I would go over to give my sis a break, and one time it was bath day. Mom made every excuse in the book to keep from getting a bath from the aide. She finally reluctantly agreed to let me wash her, but you could tell it was very undignified for her. We have to make some hard heart breaking decisions sometimes when we assume care for another, but they are really grateful, even under all the protest. The physical therapy will be good for him, so no matter how much he protest, make him do it, heck volunteer to do it with him, some good dad and son quality time. Blessings Marilyn

I'm glad to hear your dad is doing better that must of scared you when it happend. I guess I missed that discussion on when he fell. From the sounds of it you are doing a great job on takeing care of him he looks good. I give you credit for doing what you are doing for your dad I'm sure he appreciates it but dosn't like the part of going to the doctor's that's understandable who does. I hope he does well w/ the physical therepy and improves even more as the days go on good luck to you and take care.