Relationships - the most dangerous sport known to humankind!
By dreamhealer
@dreamhealer (812)
May 20, 2008 4:45pm CST
Oh my god, what a subject! Yes, I certainly believe this!! For this reason, it is and can bring the most exuberant highs and of course the deepest lows... Should we be pleasers? Should we be 100%, absolutely upfront with our partners at risk of shocking them? How far does diplomacy come into this? I am currently studying the Osho or Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh as he was formerly known philosophy. And he certainly has plenty to say on this subject!
What are other peoples' take on the subject?
2 responses
@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
21 May 08
We should be honest in our relationships. This is where most illusions start. People are dillusional, often times because they are lied to. If we are true to ourselves, then we are true to our relationships, and we have no reasons to lie. Lies come from other lies.
We shouldn't just please to please, but if we should be with the people that we are with, then we do get pleasure from their happiness. But we shouldn't be door mats. There are no double standards, treat the other as you wish to be treated.
Besides, if you won't stand up for yourself, who will?
@dreamhealer (812)
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21 May 08
This is not so much about telling untruths, but how we select the truths that we tell our partners. For instance, one partner is away on holiday, while the other one has to work. Is the partner away on holiday going to go into great detail about how they are enjoying their time away? No, because they will also want to express how missed their loved one is.
You submitted a brilliant comment though, because I had to think a while, before responding to it! Absolutely agree with you, that we shouldn't be doormats. Of course, looking at the other side, it's not good to be deliberately confrontational just for the hell of it...
@dreamhealer (812)
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2 Oct 08
Have just discovered the unresolved discussions tab! So am doing a bit of catch up with this at the mo. It was tricky deciding between these two responses, but you have got the BR!
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
21 May 08
We should be honest but diplomatic in relationships. Always admit the good but treat the bad with compassion and understanding. We don't want to hurt our partners (with some exceptions), but they do need to know the ugly. We should always be ourselves, no matter what. Trying to please someone if we don't feel right about it is being dishonest to ourselves and the partner. Communication is always the biggest factor in any relationship. Without good communication the relationship will break down and fall apart.
