How to prevent falling in love to somebody when you are away?
By agihcam
@agihcam (1914)
Philippines
May 21, 2008 2:08am CST
I've been assigned to Japan for six months way back 2001. We are group of 20 peoples, 16 among us are girls. Before I leave, my wife keep on telling me to be straight, put some pictures of my kids in my wallet and my bag.Shes always saying to read Bible in case I was homesick.
When we are in Japan, as a leader of the group, I did have a bible sharing schedule weekly within my group to atleast avoid any love interest with each other instead spread the words of God and share our actual experiences from there.
Two months passed, new day started, I dont know the reason why my feeling was already developed with one of my members and I've got cheat with my wife and kids.
I was posting this scenario just to get an idea or advise just in case I will be away again from my family. Thanks everyone.
4 responses
@nanayangel (7877)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Hi there agihcam!
it will be very difficult but I would recommend that you pray whenever you feel that you're getting weak against temptation. Do not give a chance to temptation. Avoid being alone with a girl and just always pray.
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@agihcam (1914)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Thanks everyone. Thats what I did in the first place anyway, in fact I did lead a bible sharing weekly, but still the temptation is there and we all knew that.
I agreed that prayer can help everyone to get away to temptations, but our eyes and mind sometimes hard to control, yet our hearts can be focus to our family and sometimes mind dictates that it will only be a play for sometimes but we still love and family is our priority, yet we don't know that we already cheating our family.
I did post all of these since it was happen to me in reality and I didn't expect that my loyalty with family and GOD in the first place will turn into sin, but I did accepted that and repent to GOD many times. Thanks everyone, I guess I should have pull of armors when time comes I've been away again to my family.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 May 08
Actually i think human mind is so much complex. also its just not possible to control the mind all times. when you are away from the country, its not the case that you will not feel attaracted to some.it happens. try to think you have a lovely family and KIDs. God will punish if you do anything wrong.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
21 May 08
Yeah, if you so much so love ur wife, you wouldnt cheat on her. And yeah sure it seems you r cheating on ur family. Well yeah keep the word of God with you, and get to know it. Keep ur thoughts focussed on ur family first, and that you dont want to hurt any1 in ur family.
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
21 May 08
" Out of sight, out of mind" by Virgil. Well, I won't be judgmental here but long distance relationship is kind the hard specially when you are not used to it. If you can't help falling then I suggest you weigh what's more important to you, your family or the girl. If you decide then go for it. If it's your family then go home it's the only way for you to deal with it, to stop having an illicit affair. If the new woman then be honest to your family and most importantly to yourself. Good luck, hope you make the right choice.
