age gaps in relationships
May 21, 2008 5:08pm CST
what are your views on age gaps in relationships? how many years apart do you think is too much? and how many is acceptable? my husband and i have a 25year age gap between us we are happy and have been together for many years we had afew problems to begin with we were both insecure and were scared of loosing each other but we sorted out our problems and we are so happy now and dont even notice it! but what are your views on this? thanks in advance for your responses
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22 May 08
Age doesn't matter if two people love each other. There is 26 year age gap between myself and my partner, and we are very happy together. He is 30 years old and I am 56 and we have been together for four years now with hardly a cross word between us and no problems with the age gap at all.
22 May 08
well congratulations i dont even remember there is an age gap any more and i am the happiest i have ever been! did you have any problems with your friends? my family and friends tried to brake us up when we first got together and it just made us stronger. thanks for your response! x
• United States
21 May 08
I don't think that age should be important in a relationship as long as two people really love each other. My husband is ten and a half years older than me, and we really don't notice our age gap at all anymore either. We both felt a little bit strange at first when we started dating because we had really only dated people who were pretty close to our own ages in the past. Now that we have been together for a few years though, it doesn't bother us at all and I usually forget that we even have an age difference! We are SO happy together and I wouldn't trade him for the world! :) Congrats to you and your husband, too!
22 May 08
thankyou congrats to you to! :) i forget there is a gap as well as we get on so well we are like friends as well as partners so its not till someone says something i remember there is a big age gap! i think as long as we are happy it doesnt matter!! thanks for your response
• United States
25 May 08
My guy and I have a 10 year age gap, and I always said I'd never be with anyone that much older than I am. My best friend is 25 years older than I am, so even 25 years doesn't seem that weird, now. I'm only 20 (almost 21), but I do think the age gaps matter more when one person is very young. I'd consider 18 very young to be in a long-term serious relationship, and seeing someone 10 or 25 years older, at that age, makes the different seem larger and more important than it is. I've been with my guy for three years, and I wouldn't trade him in for a younger model for any reason. At 18, I was concerned about him wanting to have children, since he's getting older and probably doesn't want to have kids in his 50s. My family reproduces late (so does his), and the thought of having kids at 18, 19, 20 was the big point of my insecurity. We've been together for awhile now and it appears that we'll be together awhile longer, so we've had time to hash that out (and a million other age-related issues) and come up with a suitable plan. Boy, a bit of a ramble! What, I guess, the point of that was was to say that communication, while important in any relationship, is probably even more imperative in relationships with 'significant' age gaps. It's acceptable, as long as both parties are of legal age, and as long as one party isn't 'taking advantage' of the other person -- as determined by the two people in the relationship, not by other people.