How to get over the fear?

United States
May 22, 2008 12:05am CST
I've done my fair share of applying for jobs but I haven't been lucky enough to actually obtain one. One thing is holding me back from applying for more jobs though; the reluctance and fear of learning something new and trying something new, especially for superior's. It's kind of stopping me from applying someplace new but I really need to find some type of summer work. I am a student in college though, so I haven't been entirely lazy or anything I have done my fair share of work, just not for pay. Has anyone else ever eperienced this? If so how did you get over it and just get out there and apply and survive the first few days on the job? Any pointers at all?
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
22 May 08
They understand that you don't know how to do the job. They will teach you. Nobody, unless they have previously had the job, expect you to enter a new job knowing what is expected and how to do it.
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
25 May 08
Thanks for the best response.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
23 May 08
Once you get hired, you just hang in there and do your best. Most bosses and co-workers are very understanding. It takes a bit to get comfortable and confident. I've been at my same job for over 15 years and so I'm sure it would be difficult for me to go to something different at this point but I would if I had to. Prior to this job, I'd always done office work and loved it. Due to circumstances, I was in need of a job and could not afford to be picky. I applied everywhere and landed this job. It was supposed to be temporary until I could find something more up my line. I hated it at first and well...ended up loving it and staying on. You never know.
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• Canada
22 May 08
I definitely have that fear. I just graduated college in April and I've been too afraid to start applying for jobs out there in the real world. Eep!
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@twallace (2675)
• United States
22 May 08
This is something that will always be a pet-peve when it comes to finding a job. The thing is a college student has a better chance to get a job no matter what you apply for. I have gone through rejection and that is something that doesn't brush off easy. So look at it like this the more that you apply for the better your chances of landing one out of 10.
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
22 May 08
Hello highflyingxangel, When I was a student, I always work during summer. I guess being confident in yourself will help you get over the fear, just do not be afraid to try something new, you will always learn from it and there are people out there who will guide and help you, the only thing is, do not afraid to ask and never scared to commit mistake, we learn best from all of those instances! If you believe in praying, pray a lot,go out with friend and learn from them,start to have self confidence by seeing and recognizing your own potential!
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@yparson (582)
• United States
22 May 08
Hi Highflyingxangel, I've been reading a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Here's a statement that I like to share with you. Like the wind which carries one ship East, and another West, the law of auto-suggestion will LIFT YOU UP or PULL YOU DOWN, according to the way YOU set your sails of THOUGHT. "If you think you are beaten, you are, If you think you dare not, you don't If you like to win, but you think you can't, It is almost certain you won't. "If you think you'll lose, you're lost For out of the world we find, Success begins with a fellow's will- It's all in the state of mind. "If you think you are outclassed, you are, You've got to think high to rise, You've got to be SURE of YOURSELF before You can ever win a prize. "Life's battles don't always go To the stronger or faster man, But soon or late the man who wins Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!" Best to your success, now get out there with confident if you want it.
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
22 May 08
I hate trying knew things. May not show it often but I'm very reluctant to even think about applying for any sort of job that I have no clue about. I've had to push my fear aside often but when it comes to finding a job I have a hard time doing that. Any advice people post would also help me!
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@hanirose (307)
• Philippines
23 May 08
ahhh.. i have applied for a job that i thought was too big for me. of course while waiting to be interviewed there were butterflies in my stomach but i still pushed through it. i don't know how but i just kept on telling myself that whatever is the outcome there is only one thing about it that i will never regret: TRYING chickening out on things in life stops us from actually experiencing life. there will always be times when we do not get what we want, times that we get disappointed and other more bad things, but you know what? you'll never experience the good things if not for the bad things. it's just like, you'll never know that restaurant "A" has better pasta if you haven't tried restaurant "B" with the bad pasta.
@zhwbeast (328)
• China
23 May 08
I also have some fearness when I just gratuated from college and get into job.But when I have many experiance I have across it.Because we know more about the humanity,and as a man,I must come across it if I want to success
@MNRFOLEY (439)
• Australia
22 May 08
i've been through that stage when i was about the same age as you.i have this fear of talking in front of a crowd. taking exams oral recitations medical exams etc and most of all job interviews. i was shy and timid as a teenager but i have learned to develop my personality i always tell myself if those people can do it why cant i? most of the time fear is only in our minds and we have to make ourselves believe that we can conquer it not the other way around. goodluck to you.
• India
22 May 08
dear dont fear about that whear you join exrerts are already know you are the frisher & this is not your headic this other how take work so dont be , go &join
@Jemina (5779)
22 May 08
Until you go out there and find the outcome yourself, you will always be wondering. But I'm on the same boat with you. I was always afraid starting from the interview up to the demonstration and the first day of performing my task. I think I have only come to face it boldly after so many similar experiences. I finally got used to it and have built confidence as I have proven to myself that I can do my job well.
• India
22 May 08
Since you are at college, I’m afraid that the fear of learning new things will not get you very far in life. At your age and since you are not lazy, you should always be learning new things. Life is completely open in front of you and with the zeal of youth to help you, exploring new horizons should not be difficult at all. In fact, you should take the initiative to learn as many things as possible right now, so that when you take the plunge into the job market, there will not be any dearth of choices for you. Many of us waste our carefree college days by learning only a few skills apart from the regulatory education syllabus and then later on in life, we find that we are not suitable for many jobs. And even you will agree that learning is much easier at 25 than at 40! So put you fears behind you, learn new things and conquer the world. You have the strength in you
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
22 May 08
well yeah i sorta have that kinda problem too even though i have a part time job its not enough , cause its more like felxiable hours , i dont want to do fast food i vow that til the day i pass away on this earth but like these job that are hiring are the pits ..like really , minimum wage i cant handle that ...